Katy / Kickstart and me

[Wafer_Thin_Ham]

Noticed the change of name a while back and didn't think anything of it.

Fair play on having the bottle to tell us horrible lot. If that's what makes you happy then go for it.
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[swampy]

I've not long come back from a few months break from here, noticed the change of sig, but assumed I'd missed something (although given what some other members had hinted at, guessed what might be going on).

Congrats on those first steps in becoming you I hope this thread (despite probably not being very easy to start) has given you some measure of the respect you're held in on here regardless of which body parts may or may not be flapping around
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[dodsi]

[swampy]

[WD Forte]

As I'm often confused by things BCF and just as often in the 'not sure if serious' mode,
I had to read every feckin post and me lips aint half tired.
I avoided Ste links (learnt that long ago) and it seems legit
So good luck to you.

I know little about the err 'mechanics' of it all but it sounds pretty radical
This snippet of a documentary I saw on the telly helped though

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rRA8GYzU8E
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[Diggs]

Whilst we don't know each other from Adam or Eve, much respect for taking control of what must be the biggest decision of your life and making it your own!!!
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[nowhere.elysium]

[Meatybeaty]

Hi Katy , what your doing at present is a very brave thing , my nephew , who I always treated like my son went thro the same thing , he grew up got married had 3 kids , and had to admit to his wife that he was terribly unhappy , she realised that there was something causing him to be unhappy, they loved each other , and decided no matter what happens they would stay together, the kids love their parents and agreed with everything that was going to happen , the outcome being that Ive got another niece that I love like my daughter

[Stalk]

I read this and thought "Whatever". Pleased you can be you, although saddened by a world that makes that difficult through lack of understanding. As a person of whatever gender you have helped me and countless others. You are a nice person. That's what matters.

I would be interested to learn of Mrs Kickstart's reaction, and how you see yourselves going forward, because obviously, something like this is big, and affects more than just you, and your families reaction?

Please understand that I mean no offense by asking these questions, just hope to learn from your experience.

Cheers!
Stalk.

[scorps]

As usual I noticed feck all. It shocked me when I realised that actual real people live on the internet. You are all cyanide and happiness figures in my head
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[Mr Nice Guy]

Read the thread; still think the strangest thing about you is that for one so intelligent (as far as modes of transport goes) you really rate Alfa Romeos

Good for you all the happiness.

Mrs K; class
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[andyscooter]

only question I have now is

do you have to make your own samiches
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[DrSnoosnoo]

Just read this.

to you.

It matters not one jot what others think. What matters is that you are happy and comfortable in yourself. It's been written a lot but, you only have one go. Enjoy life while it's here.


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[woo]

your advice has been legendary and for that you will always have a welcome seat at my table!

May the blessing of Elves, Dwarfs, Istari, Valar, Maiar, House Arryn, House Bolton, House Frey, House Greyjoy, House Lannister, House Martell, House Tyrell, House Stark, House Targaryen, House Tully, House Durrandon, House Gardener, House Hoare, House Addawoo be with you KATY!
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[Mrs Kickstart]

[Skudd]

[Lord Percy]

@Katy, Tamsin and any other trans types who are lurking...

I figure you guys may be worth asking seeing as you've done the whole 'gender struggle' thing.

What are your thoughts on people who claim to have no gender at all and want to be considered 'non-binary', renounce their gender-specific pronoun and ask to be called 'they' instead of he/she..?

Am I wrong to think it's totally absurd? Everyone has a gender, even if their brain happened to be plonked in the wrong body, surely. As if it's possible, or even that important, to be a sack of meat with every function running smoothly other than the part that gives gender-specific feelings? I don't get it. Is it that these people are totally non-sexual, or do they get as randy as any other human being but just don't conform to the gender stereotypes society presents them with? Or are they only turned on by very specific types of people, which leads them to think they aren't a 'normal' man/woman (I think the term for that is demisexual but I think it's perfectly normal to only be turned on by specific things). With this desire to be 'non-binary' do they see all genital organs as annoying extra bits that they don't want? Overall I entirely don't understand how a person can renounce the concept of gender altogether.

Also. Here's a great song which may or may not be specific to this thread somehow - Placebo - Nancy Boy

[Kal]

[Lord Percy]

[Tamsin]

I don't recall ever "mentally changing" my gender I was running round in dresses at every opportunity when I was small. I vividly remember getting told off by my parents for it when I was 6/7 and being told that it wasn't right.

I managed to keep a lid on things through my teens, but always felt happier hanging out with the girls, but trying to fit in with the boys. Suffice to say I did not have a pleasant experience at school... University gave me the freedom to explore everything again and boy did I, but the fear of rejection put me back in the closet for years...

I had a breakdown in 2009 and realised that I couldn't carry on the way I was and started the process to get myself sorted out

[Kickstart]

Hi

I can't say I understand exactly how non binaries feel, but then I struggle enough to understand how I feel (I have quite a split between logical and emotional thought - and logically I really can't understand myself hence have tended to stamp down on the emotional side).

Gender and sex are 2 different things, which are related in the majority of people (but not all). But the level to which they are related varies greatly. Similarly how people feel about their gender will vary (and probably also vary with time / age / experience / etc).

There doesn't seem to be much knowledge about what causes these gender issues, and while there are some theories I am not certain how much real research has been done and how much is just pseudo science. For example one theory is that physical and mental genders are determined by exposure to hormones at different times during pregnancy (which might explain intersex people - who have some / all sexual organs that they genetically would not be expected to have), but if so then any other mix of hormones during that time could be expected to have other effects.

Or to put it another way, take 2 normal people with no gender issues. They could still have massively different level of sex drive or sexuality. People vary a lot.

[Lord Percy]

[Kickstart]

[Ariel Badger]

I spent yesterday with 7822 “Foxcote Manor” and my gay daughter teaching her how a steam locomotive works, I enjoyed passing on the knowledge and she said it helps her feel more secure with her sexuality.
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