Plenty of Fish?

[Tungtvann]

Yes, show us your profile so we can critique it...

Honestly, not an awful lot you can do. You're going to get cock pics and rude messages whether you like it or not. You can explicitly state in your profile you are NOT looking for 'fun' and don't appreciate those sorts of messages, but many guys just spam out cock pictures in some weird hope that a woman may actually be massively turned on by this and invite them round.

I guess you've just got to stick at it and hope an amazing guy like me messages you. Or, maybe send some guys messages first. Instead of sitting back thinking 'why aren't the nice guys messaging me?!' like 99.9% of women on dating sites do, go find them yourself!

[SlimFast]

[metalangel]

Out with pretty girl again. Mad snoggage every chance we got as we walked along the lakeshore. Blisteringly hot sun outside, we're both fair skinned, so after a quick beer in a patio bar we decided to head back. After another clinch in a secluded, shady spot we opted to quicken our pace back to her place.

Another 12 hours of nekkid bliss.
"Are you going to stay the night?"

Yes.

"I'm up super early."

I don't mind.

Her alarm goes off at 5, she goes in the shower and then straight into the kitchen to make us bacon and tomato omelettes.


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[Eddie Hitler]

Just met a girl the old fashioned way, at a club on a night out. She was a friend of my friends, so not a totally random hook up. Going for a drink/date on thursday. .

[Tungtvann]

[Eddie Hitler]

[Lord Percy]

I'm using this thing called Wechat here in China. It's a messaging app like whatsapp but has a few more features. Bonny mentioned it on here before he decided to stop using this website on his full immersion Chinese language study mission where he's trying avoid English altogether.

Wechat has this 'people nearby' feature which basically shows you the first 20 or so people who've used the 'people nearby' button sometime recently. If you like the look of someone in the list you can press the 'send greeting' button and then if you're lucky the they'll get back to you. Apparently it's quite a common hook-up method among the Chinese.

I've had a couple of adds and got chatting with some people. In general though I still feel like I've always felt about these sorts of things - it's fun when they reply, but hardly feels like it could go anywhere. Also I never know if the 'I'll help you learn English if you help me learn Chinese' tactic is seen as a genuine invite to be study partners, or is known as a blatant effort to get something more than just a language exchange. I do find it funny how all the real 'study partners' on campus are guy+girl connections. It seems more like hook-up efforts to me, but I don't know enough about Chinese culture yet to understand how the locals see it.

Also. China has given me extreme yellow fever. I've decided it's because even ugly or old people are in incredibly good shape. Or maybe I'm just another weird fetishistic westerner getting excited by all the 'new things' around me.

[slowlydoesit]

[metalangel]

This whole "I'm a busy woman with my own independent life and my schedule is full!" crap is really frustrating sometimes.

Apart from the first meeting and then first official date (Monday then Thursday), I've only seen the pretty girl once a week. Fair enough, you need time in between, you aren't sure if you want to commit a lot of time yet, you need time to come up with ideas and dates and have things to talk about since you last met.

Then things get physical, then you're spending the night, having dinner and breakfast, the mis-named walk of shame is now done together. It's not a one-off either.

So we're snuggled up on Sunday night, and she tells me her test is tomorrow, the one she's been taking extra classes for. I ask if this means she'll have more nights free afterwards. She says maybe, until the build up to the next one anyway. I say because it kinda sucks only being able to see you once a week. She says I'm a busy person, and then adds she wouldn't have it any other way.

Today is the day after her test, so I text to ask how she did, and she says she passed. We talk about it for a bit, then I say it calls for a celebration, let's do something on Saturday.

No, she says, I have plans for pretty much the whole weekend, maybe next week. When I ask when next week, she says let's talk Tuesday (a week from now) and figure it out.

The stupid little doubting voice in me can't really make much noise right now given how things have gone thus far so isn't much of a factor here. Instead, I'm frustrated that someone I like and who seems to like me doesn't seem to have much time for us to get together - and if things continue to develop and become serious, will this become a big problem? For now, I'll see how it goes: I need my space too and have things to go and do as well; I also like having stuff set up ahead of time so I have something to look forward to. So far this is just how she's been - busy, doesn't text much, but always makes good on meeting up and we pick up where we left off. Maybe I just need to shut up and get used to it.

(plus I figured we needed some JFK-esque "feels")
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[slowlydoesit]

[metalangel]

Yeah, I know, that's good advice. I'm not going to text her until next week.

You can't win anyway: remember that one (the crap in bed one) from the spring? She was really into me and even drunkenly admitted it and soberly confirmed it was true, so when I wasn't sure about my interest I decided to let her do all the legwork to see just how much: and I never heard from her again.

As for dating someone else, I don't know. I almost had another date a few weeks ago but work was screwing me up and the other girl suggested a rain check. Then I spent the night with the pretty girl, then had another shit week at work followed by a friend from Cardiff visiting, which leads to this weekend just gone, so I think that trail's gone cold since it's been two weeks. I have, however, noticed that the pretty girl hasn't checked Tinder (where I found her) for two weeks and barely ever goes on OKC so I think either she really is too busy to be dating or her dance card is full.
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[finniee]

I have been talking to a lass for a couple of days now. Totally random subjects, she asked me "So.. do you ever see yourself getting married or having kids??.", I've thought about this question quite a fair bit over the last year or so as most of my mates have either gotten engaged or had kids. I didn't know what to say really as I do not want kids nor do I want to be married, so the only thing I could say (typed) was "Right now, I could not really see myself having kids nor being married as I don't feel mature enough nor old enough to look after another living thing that is totally dependable on me".

That was 5 days ago, still waiting on a response.

[Tungtvann]

Yeah, probably not the best answer there. How old are you?

[metalangel]

[Lord Percy]

[slowlydoesit]

[Lord Percy]

[finniee]

[Tungtvann]

[metalangel]

[Clanger]

[Tungtvann]

Third date complete, went really well. I was dropping her off at hers, being my usual awkward self about the whole giving her a kiss idea, good thing she's a bit more forward than I am and dropped a hint that it would be a good idea. It was.

[metalangel]

[Tungtvann]

Once I know where I stand, I'm fine with that sort of thing. I was wrong about a girl once, felt like I was 'led on' and didn't want to make that mistake again. Not that I thought there was any chance of that, going for several dates with a girl who states that she 'wants a relationship' makes it a bit easier than going out with a few times with a girl from work who doesn't see all that '1 to 1' time as being anything remotely like dating or romantic.

As long as I never meet a girl from online dating who just wants to be friends, that would fuck the whole system up!

[metalangel]

This girl seems like she'd be a good match for me... but dear god list after list after list, and her carefully structured date plan/expectations at the end?

https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=59125515
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