Being Unfaithful

[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
Right before i start i'll give you a bit of background info.

Went out Tuesday and ended up sleeping with a married woman. Got talking, dancing, kssing. You know how it goes. Im 23 and shes 30.

I know this is wrong, i do have a consceince.

Just wondering how you guys viewed this?

Shaun.

[nick606]

Bit wrong really but if its not you she will find someone else. I hope she gets caught out the dirty slaaaaaaag. I know your not doing anything wrong but the husband might not see it that way so prepared to get hit if he does find out.

[lllN30lll]

how would you feel if you were married and found out you were being cheated on?
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[Method]

Your a twat.

I talk from experience.
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[JonB]

A man who has sex with a another man's woman, is no man in my eyes.
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[5v3d3b0]

I used to cheat on my girlfriend (not to the extent of sex) but I got caught and got my head straight. Shee took me back and it's been more than 3 years now, 2 of them completely loyal.
All I can say is in my case I'd go nuts if she cheated on me. And I would kill the guy. Honest. I would stab that fucker so hard...Or break his kneecaps with a baseball bat. Then I'd rape her and kill her. And tell her mother how much she really annoys me
Careful mate. Not knowing about it is one thing, but the fact that you know makes you prey

[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
Well i knew this would hit a few raw nerves.

I forgot to mention that altho she is married she isnt actually living with the guy. I dint ask questions.

End of the day were both adults surely were older enough to make decisions.

Hate me if you want. But i still fail to see what i'm doing wrong.

Shaun.

[lllN30lll]

your going with another mans woman. lowest of low.

like I said, how would you like it if you were married and you found out she was cheating on you?
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[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
If it did happen to me i'd have the self respect to leave her.

Clearly something very wrong with her marriage if she was out on the pull!

Hardly like were next door neighbours who got talking over a cuppa tea!

Shaun.

[JonB]

So if you fail see to see what you are doing wrong, why the fuck are you asking for our opinions?

You obviously think promiscuity is an adult and honourable thing to do. I'll tell you now, i'm three years younger than you and I know for a fact that being unfaithful is neither grown up or the sensible thing to do. Fair enough it's the other womens relationship, but at the end of the relationship is an oblivious man, for all you know might love the cotton socks off this lass.

I wouldn't bemoan a black eye if I were you.
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[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
Yer fair does. If the guy wants a crack at me he's more than welcome too. Probably deserve it and i'd do the same.

And if you wanna know im am actually a very faithful person. In the 4 years i was seeing my ex i never once touched another woman.

Shaun.

[Itchy]

Why all the moralising? , just because you are married does not make that person property of somebody else's. Thats how various middle eastern states are percieved.

People are people they make their own good or bad choices.

And anyway marriage in these times means NOTHING it is just a social an economic contract , the other things are ancillary.
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[Dragonfly]

right so if she wasnt happy then why is she still married and off sleeping with people? she could be telling you all sorts of shit but it still boils down to she is married. And if she is then why sleep about? do you intend to get anything but sex from this? great foundation for a relationship. If she wanted to sleep around she should have gotten a divorce first.

Your an opportunist , you seen an hole and thought goal and feck the rest. And you only met her on Tuesday, how do you really know she dosnt live with her husband? why stay married then?
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[Tonka]

My female opinion, for what it's worth!

I've heard of women who only date/shag married men for the thrill of the unavailable and because they know the guy won't chase after them. Are you the male equivalent?

I would guess that it's a sex only relationship. because god only knows you wouldn't want this to get serious - she's a cheat and once a cheat and all that...

At your age I'd have thought there were better catches than married women and the potential hassle / heartache involved.

...and live by your own standards is the obvious one. I'm not sure it really matters whether I think it's a nice thing to do or not but I don't think it is.

I'd feel immature, selfish and pretty shitty about myself if I was doing it, but then I've got a good few years on you and know what it's like to be on the receiving end!
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[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
Yer very true how do i know she dosent live with her husband? How do i even know she's married at all? At this point i only know what she told me.

And yer your right, i saw it as an opportunity and took it. I dont know any single straight men that wouldn't have jumped at the chance! Anyone who says otherwise is lying IMHO.

Im not sure there were better catches that night. She was fun and attractive. And you know what i enjoyed every second of it.

I'm not expecting a relationship out of it! How the hell could i trust her! Shes cheated with me, she'll cheat again.

Shaun.

[Method]

I dont even know where to being with you.

Its obvious however, that you have never been on the receiving end, or if you have - then this is your way of saying "Up Yours!" and rebelling.

Either way your retarded. Plus, doesnt it make you feel kind of strange, knowing that this woman you just pumped full of your stuff, may be going round this to this other guys house afterwards and getting pumped full of his?

You must have a pretty low oppinion of yourself, and next to no self respect, to allow yourself to mean that little to anyone, and to lower yourself to one of the lowest levels there is.

Yeah there will be the odd few who say - "Go for it! Your only young! Live and learn!" etc... but that just shows what childish and selfish people they are, aswell as you for listening.

This situation only ever ends in heartache and hurt. You WILL get found out, you WILL get upset, you WILL become very scared, and it WILL have an affect on you in later life.

Just think, in the back of your head for the rest of your life - you will have this memory. The memory of this married woman, sleeping around with a younger guy. Then when you find someone who you have a relationship with, you will be insecure as you know it can happen, then what about when you get married? God forbid what the insecurities will be like then... when she says "Im just going for a drink with the girls tonight, dont wait up"...

Somedays i wake up, and wish i acted more my age. Somedays i wish that i could have this type of life, where i just dont care about other people, or the future, like most people my age. But then i wake up, and realise the only one thats realy getting fucked around and messed up, would be me for doing it all!

Christ, i just wish some people had a bit more decency, this world is a complete mess and its impossible to trust anyone. People like you only make it worse, by making out there is nothing wrong with it and dragging other people into it with you.

The other problem i have, is why the hell have you even bothered telling us about it? Either:

A) You know its wrong and you need someone to tell you its ok - but obviously still want to act the hard man

OR

B) You genuinely think you are cool for doing it, and want other people to say "YEAH! WHAT A MAN! 30 YEAR OLD! MARRIED! YOU HERO!".

Either way, your a retard.
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[Tonka]

I hope that she's not in a crap marriage and trying to wind her hubbie up and make him jealous by telling him what she's up to - there are some really sad people out there and I've heard of that before.

If I was you I'd notch it up as done and move on - you've had your fun! If you keep going there, it'll only get ugly one way or another.

Sometimes one-night stands are special and lead to great things, sometimes they're a lucky break!!
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[Dragonfly]

Ok I dont entirely blame you as she is the one cheating but least you can see what she is like then. Just be careful the husband could be out looking you Could be one of them psycho ones that tracks you down
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[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
No im not trying to act the hard man. Far from it. All i wanted was a few opinions on the subject. You dont like it fair enough. Makes no difference to me what you think of me. You dont even know me.

You know what you were right with the 'Up yours!' attitude. I've always been the quiet, good guy. Much more fun to sometimes have the 'Fuck You' attitude.

And no i dont think it was cool. It was fun. And as i've alredy said i enjoyed it and she enjoyed it. Pretty obvious that u've been cheated on before and me doing this has hit a raw nerve for you. And im sorry if i have.

[karen_moomin]

[crazymotorbik...]

I think you misinterpret.

I know that it is wrong to cheat. However i am not cheating. Therefore i dont see what im doing wrong.

Hope that cleared it up for you!

Shaun.

[karen_moomin]

[neatbik]

Ive been on both sides in the past. When i was younger (and single) i'd go out on the pull and pretty much any fit female was fair game. Didnt bother me if they were single or not.
I realised after a while that i was being a complete cunt, and since then ive behaved myself.
My last g/f cheated on me, i found out when the guy she was shagging came round to our house to tell ME to back off
I spent a night in the cop shop and had to go to court because of what happened to him. So in the end my ex-bitch caused a whole load of harm, and no good to anyone.
My advice is to behave yourself, the consequences if you dont can be pretty harsh

[karen_moomin]

Well clearly it does matter to you, because you've posted a thread about it on a public forum asking for opinions!

What is your point?

[Tonka]

Dear Crazymotorbiker,

You cannot underestimate what a highly emotive subject this is!! You will get reactions of all sorts and lots will be pretty unsympathetic, because lots of people have undeservedly been on the receiving end of actions like this.

For all the emotion in Method's post he has a very valid point which belies his age, however, his delivery is passionate and this does reflect his age!

It's certainly had me thinking lots and ultimately even though you were not the person cheating you did know she was married before you left the club/pub.

You made your choice and in my opinion you made the wrong choice, but what's done is done and the art of living is learning from mistakes and not repeating them. You certainly don't need the obvious stated, but you did post and to a certain extend will have to accept that you will get it!!

Live and learn - age has nothing to do with maturity, it's all down to experience!!
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