Making close friends in later life?

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[thx1138]

Members of my branch of CMA are my friends, some of them so close they might as well be family, but only known most of them for about 6 years.

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[B5234FT]

[owl]

I think the main reason it's difficult to make friends later in life is that your bullshit tolerance lowers as you get older. Life has turned me into a cynical fuck, trust no one and assume everyone is an asshole until they prove me otherwise.
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[Sun Wukong]

This thread has reassured me immensely.

I thought I was socially broken

I meet someone, like them, meet their group of friends and want to shiv half of them. The more I get to know someone, the more flaws I find and/or the less tolerant I am to them.

And then just one or two are just effortlessly awesome.

Interesting to know I'm not the only one.

Bizarrely, a lot of my good friends come from this forum. And always have. Some I've drifted apart from having been quite (/very) close in the past, but others I trust to help me out and be supportive on the rare occasions I require it.

Someone I met once described a good friend as someone you can turn up, unannounced, at 3am holding a suitcase... and they will just quietly make you a cup of tea and put a bed up. Seems quite apt.
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[chickenstrip]

I don't think I'm too concerned about having 'close' friends anymore. If I can meet people with similar interests and outlook to me, it's enough to get together once in a while for a natter, a ride out on the bikes, a jam on the guitars etc.

I find it really difficult to make friends these days cos of aches and pains and therefore never knowing if I'm going to feel fit enough to go out anywhere anyway. Any friends I make now would literally be fair weather ones, as I'm almost guaranteed to feel good when the sun is shining.
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[chris-red]

Most of my close friends are still from School/College/Uni.

I'm pretty lucky I have a group of about 12 people from school etc. we are really tight knit all would go well out of there way for any of the others.

I don't think I've made a close friend since TBH. I've a few friends at work and a few people on BCF I'd call friends. Other than that I genuinely have no idea how to make friends.
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