Family troubles...

[JonB]

Right, quite a grim and upsetting story.

My Nan has just been admitted to hospital with her 6th heart attack (no kidding) and has now gone blind due to cataracts in both eyes. She is 81 in August.

This is not the primary "problem" the problem is her "friend", my grandad died 4 years before I was born and since about 1995 she has had this gardener friend who she stays with quite often as she is quite poorly, however he is complete menace to my Dad and his 3 sisters and this is the last straw. My Nan was actually admitted to hospital 2 days ago but he didn't ring any of the Next of Kins, when she could have been dead right now, he has all of our numbers there is no excuse, we only found out about 15 mins ago cause my Dad's twin sister happened to have found out.

This is getting ridiculous, he never lets my Dad see his own mother and doesn't inform of us of anything. He is doesn;t even have any legal rights over her! They aren't married.

We suspect that my Nan hasn't written a will yet and we all know there is a substantial amount of cash to be left after she does (regretfully) goes. Is it wrong to suspect he is just going to stay with her in the hope that she hasn;t wrote a will and just run away with all the money without us knowing she is dead?

This could be just cause i'm a little emotional cause I love my Nan and have never had a close relative die before, but is there anything legal I or the family could do to make sure he doesn't get anything out of her because he hasn't been asset to her or the family at all and has just created bad feeling.

Jon.
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[Mrs Kickstart]

Hi,

If your dad feels you Nan is incapable of making here own decisions he can apply for Power of attorney. If she is is already incapable you will need to apply to a court. If she can make a decision she can choose to appoint anyone (ie the gardener). If he already has a enduring POA and she is incapable you Dad will be notified if it is registerd.

Someone with POA can make all decisions if they were the person (can be limited if required)

So if you dad got it he could move here money into bank accounts etc but should act 'as she would if she could'.

I would avoid confrontation with the friend at this stage, she has chosen him and you may make things worse. However it sound like it need to be dealt with.

I hope she improves but I think you need a solicitor.

Really these things should be dealt with before it gets to this stage, I have enduring POA for my parents and grandparent. If you have old biddies it is well worth considering.

Regards
C
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