Does long distance work? - did it work for you?

[simon1221]

Just curious..
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[Trip]

Although 90 miles aint massive...
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[JonB]

I'm yet to see conclusive evidence of a successful long distance relationship.
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[Whosthedaddy]

I would nt do it
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[Louise]

I prefer it. Not in each others face 24/7

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[Louise]

I dont have a high sex drive. So it really dosent bother me. I go for cuddles and kisses
The journey is not to bad.. hour and 10 mins. I get there, sit, get my beer brought to me, ill cook and chill. Thats what I look forward to.If we lived together I couldnt see us doing that all the time.

[Rookie]

Had 2 months of it, having gone back twice in that time and she's coming up next weekend, and then I'm going back for Christmas on the 15th. It's harder to keep close but it's not as difficult as I thought it would be. Mostly it's about trusting eachother to be faithful.

[craigie b]

To easy to loose interest IMO

[LustyLew]

My O/H and I have been together for 4 years. He's 60 miles away. Not far I know, but when it's the M25 and A1, it's slooow!
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[Mary Jane]

I'm 5K miles away from my SO. It's fucking HARD. Visits every few months lasting a week or two... it sucks to be so far away. I obviously don't think of beiong an hour away from someone as being a long distance relationship... that's a visit you can make on a weekend, and have more constant contact with.

It wont work without:
-communication - with the time difference, we have to make an effort to keep lines of communication open. Most days, it's just texting, but there are a few phone calls each week with real conversations.

-Trust - I don't know what he gets up to, and he doesn't really know what I get up to, except for what we decide to share with each other. i'm honest with him in what I do, who I do it with, and such... and I trust him to be equally as honest.

-Contact - the longest we went without seeing each other was 6 months... and that was too much. When we finally saw each other again, we were awkward and unsure around each other. It took nearly a week for us to get back into the same easiness we'd had before. We had to get used to each other again.

- A Move - Maintaining a LDR indefinitely will not work; one or the other person will have to make a move to be closer if the relationship is going to proress at all. I've seen people who had LDRs, and neither person was able to or willing to make a move, and the thing just fizzled out. Currently workng on moving to be with him.

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If it feels to be 100% the right thing, then it will.
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[Louise]

Trust is a factor in our L/D relationship. At the start I was a lil shit, had the odd kiss with someone else. I know she wont be unfaithfull, Shes very 'single person' women.
its jsut me she worries about, but im good

[colin1]

the only reason to have a long distance rship is if you dont like them that much so wdnt want to spend a lot of time with them

personally, i think its better to have someone you would like to spend more time with although moving in is probably going a bit too far in my opinion (unless girl in question is really good ( most turn out not to be) )

i think 10 miles is the optimum distance. near enough to visit, but not too near so they feel they can just pop round whenever

i know girls like to think they are special, but there are loads of them, and its worth getting a local one rather than hanging on to a distant one.

(if you are a straight girl, just replace the word girl with the word bloke for the above to make sense)

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[simon1221]

10 miles? Thats like 15minute drive down the dual carriageway lol. (not exactly)

I suppose it all boils down to trust and whether the other person is willing to see you every so many weeks/months with just phone calls in the middle.

I started uni this year, and so far most people who are in LDRs are still together.
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[Rookie]

[fast_tzr]

Personally I think it comes down to the people involved, not just love. I was going out with the greatest girlfriend in the world, still madly in love, then I moved to Spain and within a week we both agreed it wouldn't work. It may work for some people, but temptation got the better of me and I didn't see enough of her in the end.

[daz|n00by]

[sickpup]

And when you do see each other you fuck like rabbits on cocaine

[colin1]

oops touched a nerve with all those ppl in long distance relationships

if you are happy, thats fine, just saying how it works for me

[mr.z]

Depends.. me and my girly were appart for a couple of years, it was difficult, but i'd make a trip over the cat and fiddle and up the m6 as often as i could.. now she has finished uni and a meer 10miles stands between us and we more or less live together

If you trust and care enough it'll work, but needs effort and its not allways easy, but if theres no prospect of ever liveing closer or not being able to spend time together it'll be very difficult..
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[Marcg868]

Ive never known them to work, from my point of few the temptation of someone closer to home was always too great

Much prefer a girl from my locality round the North Manchester area

And plus, i dig the Manchester girls accent, phwwwoaaaaaaar
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