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[quacker_boy]

Well i hate to post up again in this section, i feel terribly useless but hey that's what this bit's for!

Me and the family (Mummy, Daddy, older sis and younger bro) were sat around the table after eating dinner and my brother was talking about his mocks. And how he recently got an A* in biology.

Now the school he's currently attending (my sister and i were also there) are known for their extremely high grades. It's very rare anyone gets below a C grade for GCSE.

My sister also quickly piped up about her astounding grades (3 A*s and 6 As). Now, neither of them are social rejects. In fact, they might be deemed as 'popular' by the rest of their year/friends. The thing is, they're fucking geniuses compared to myself.

No one uttered a word about my grades because my family knows i'm not the brightest bulb in the box (I got 3 Bs, 4Cs and a D). But the thing that gets me is, my parents are VERY hard working people, fuck my mum is my full time teacher and in her FREE time she's a garden designer and slowly earning a fortune off that.

My dad always comes in every night very tired and worn out and stressed because he's had a long day working his utter BOLLOCKS off. Now this all and dandy except for my tiny little thing.

I'm useless. I live at home and i'm jobless, and spend generally a lot of time hanging about doing fuck all/kiteboarding. In january i'm off on a trip to the Phillipines to do an instructors course in kiteboarding and can start earning some money.

Thing is, at the moment, i just feel like i'm sucking them dry (this trip is costing them a lot of money, half of which i fully intend to pay back). But there's a problem, i left school after GCSEs to get an OND in Vehicle Maintenance and Engineering. Get a job as mechanic i hear you say? I can't, it doesn't pay well enough. It's about 400 quid a month.

Any solutions? Advice? Shut the fuck ups?

Chris
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[killa]

Everyone ends up somewhere mate, and in your case, it's never going to homeless.

Your family loves you right?
You family does things for you?

It's what happens, if you feel bad about it, that's your problem.

Well, grades, as many people will agree with on here, are not the be all and end all of life in the working world.
You make your own path, if you don't knuckle down at something now you might fall into a rut, and you don't want that happening.
It's hard to get out of again.

Mechanics never worked for you....big deal, it is literally time that has been taken from you, you're still you, still capable of putting 2 and 2 together, still capable of working at something.

So work it out, if you're waiting for something, as in, your kiteboarding course, then wait.....there's no harm in that. Just make sure you have looked into all possible outcomes of that course.

And remember, you can get a job easily with the grades you have, something to earn a bit of money while you wait.
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[J0Al1]

The fact that you posted this shows me that you have a concience.

It is hard being the less academic amoungst siblings.

If you know what you want to do in life, you are (IMHO) half way there.

You don't have to be the most academic to be the greatest achiever or earn more, altough you could say it should make it easier.

Try not to compare yourself, we are all different.

Good luck in finding what you want to do

[angryjonny]

[BanditBitch]

[Shaun]

Your grades are better than mine and I know for a fact that with my grades I could've gone on any college course I wanted but chose not to. At 22 I've only just got some sort of idea in what direction I want to head in life career wise, not everybody decides at 16 what they want to do and sticks to it.

I've been an office monkey for the past 4 years and decided I hate it so I'm going to go elsewhere in time, you just need to figure out what you do or don't want to do which isn't something that can be decided in an hour.

[Annabella]

You like kiteboarding so I'm assuming you're a pretty keen sportsman/outdoorsey type?

I'm sure I've suggested this before on BCF but look at outdoors instructor courses whilst this may not lead to a full time job it's something you can use at the weekends/holidays when school groups etc go to activity centres and want to learn to rock climb/canoe/kitesurf etc.

I am also sure that whatever you do your family will be proud of you, academic achievement isn't the be all and end all - since I started university no one has asked me GCSE grades I got (shame really, everything else was down hill from there ).

Good luck!
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[quacker_boy]

[Annabella]

Meh, I'm nearly 24 and don't know what I want to do with my life. Though to be honest, I'm quite enjoying being an office-type monkey sitting doing not a lot all day, organising the occasional meeting, telling people to do stuff they don't want to and fiddling statistics so they look good/bad (depending who I'm showing them to).

However, this wasn't what I had in mind when I headed off to University for a glorious three years bumming around reading books and making music.


If you're still in the South West it's worth you considering joining a Mountain Rescue team when you get back, you'll immediately have a huge group of friends, learn a lot and gain loads of valuable experience, especially if you're considering the PGL/activity centre route (not that I'm biased or anything...)
Here are a couple of links to MR teams in the area:
https://www.ascrt.com/
https://www.cornwallsar.org.uk/
https://www.dartmoor-rescue.org/
https://www.dcro.org.uk/
https://website.lineone.net/~exmoorsearchandrescue
https://www.sara-rescue.org.uk/

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[Kwaks]

Not everyone is academic, but I am sure your family would appreciate someone with mechanical skills when their car plays up, or a family member always willing to do the physical work when required.


Its all horses for courses, each is good at different things.

£400 quid a month might not sound too good just now, but at the end of the course/apprenticeship you would be able to earn much more. My advice is to do want you most want to do in yourself, as most people stuck in mundane jobs only started them to earn cash shorttime/waiting for their dream oportunity, then got stuck their as responsibilities came along.

But my best advice is to stop asking advice on here and instead sit down with the whole family and discuss it with them, at the very least they will know how much you value their support and how proud of them you are
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[quacker_boy]

Annabella, why do you say you're not bias? You done some work there or something? Unfortunately i'm not in UK, i'm back in Dubai and won't be back in the SW area till summer again!

Kwaker, i already play a fairly major role in the family, i do all the servicing of all 3 4x4s in the family! So for that i'm sure they appreciate me, i hope anyway!

As for sitting down with them and talking about, i'm hardly a public speaker, so i'm not sure how i'd go about it. I've dragged my mum to one side already and had a chat with her about my dad etc and she says he's just stressed out and is taking out on me.

Just grit my teeth kinda scenario i guess..
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wizzzard wrote: Imagine God just stopping by, tidying your front room up and then quietly letting himself out again. Statisticly more likely to happen than Korn being on here.

[Annabella]

[Nath]

[Clanger]

They would have asked you to leave by now if they truly thought you were a no-hoper.

But if you are seriously doing nothing at home, and your parents are busy all day, then do the bloody housework. Make sure its clean and tidy so that when they come home from work they dont then have to do the chores.

Ask your mum to show you how to use the washing machine, how to sort out the clothes etc.

Also you could get the vegetables prepared for dinner each evening.

Its small gestures like this which will ensure your parents total support while you sort out what you are doing with your life.
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[ncrn]

[Handsome]

Hay I levt skool wif kno GCSEs hand Im allrigt.....
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[tatters]

[Handsome]

I don't do too bad tbh.....
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[quacker_boy]

Clanger, i already do that so that i have SOMETHING to do, cooking's also been something i've done since i was ickle so i'm regularly doing the meals for the family as well.

ncrn, in england terms, i live in a mansion. 5 bedroom with en suite bathrooms. Our full time maid thinks i'm trying to make her redundant because i do so much! (bless)

I've decided i'll be fucking off as soon as i've done my instructors course, there was a massive shit storm today and it turns out my 'best' friends of 9 years + are utter cunts. Oh well
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wizzzard wrote: Imagine God just stopping by, tidying your front room up and then quietly letting himself out again. Statisticly more likely to happen than Korn being on here.

[ncrn]

[quacker_boy]

[ncrn]

My next door neighbour has one, it looks and sounds amazing, so yeh get one of them
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[quacker_boy]

[ncrn]

not yet, don't see him very much, I've seen him a couple of times coming back home as I'm going out.

His car isn't there all the time so I think he's away a lot lol.
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[Willow]

My gcse's were not brill but they got me into A levels, to do something, to be fair i cant remmeber all the grades from back then. I know that the school i did GCSEs at, boosted high results and yeah, mine were not great in fact my old french teacher could not believe her luck id scrapped a pass (neither could i either! still recon the papers were mixed up) but the point is you dont need to be accademic to be of use and earn a wage... your proveing that round the house by the sound of it! being practical is fine, in fact look at a lot of successfull people
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