Crazy long relationship essay. *Help*

[Ciar?n]

I wasn't going to post this on here, but the situation has got me really chuffing confused and i don't know what to do.
I don't know how much detail to get into with this, as i want to avoid being vague.



So here goes.
Starts a few years back when i just turnt 16.

Was in a relationship with a girl at the time. Fair enough.

A girl(Charlie) who used to come to lunch with us had a bit of a crush on me, and i kinda liked her too, so we met up a few times, ended up kissing, yadda yadda, decided it wasn't cool on my gf, she felt the same, she got a bf, and we remained friends.

Push it forwards a few years and we're both in different relationships, we meet up again, where she tells me she still fancies the ass off me, told her i feel the same, and we ended up kissing again.
Again we both decided it wasn't fair, and sorted it out.

Few months later it happened again but we slept together.
Didn't complicate things, but we agreed that was really not cool, and i broke up with my gf of the time due to her being a cheating little tart almost as much as me.

Now the girl is question(Charlie) is 19, as am i, and she has a boyfriend of 6months, and i've had a few quickie relationships in the meantime and been single since Oct.

She calls me in a right state and i look after (as per usual when her bf's are being dicks) and just calm her down.
Turns out her bf was off to cheat on her with some other girl, but before he had the chance, this other girl went with someone else.
So the sleezeball comes crawling back, and Charlie is all happy again.

At this point i want to break the petulant little prick as she's my best mate. But i made my thoughts clear to him, and left it.

Now we've spent alot of time together recently and she's told me that she's never stopped thinking about me, and loves me, and always has done.
Fine, i think, ditch your lame bf and we'll talk.
Problem is she "loves" this asshat aswell.
I've been dealing with this situation for the last couple of months and been confused, but just let her know how i feel about her.

Today she comes around, we watch telly, order pizza, and she went to kiss me, then burst out: "no i can't do this again"
Some 30minutes later she gives up on that and we're pretty passionately making out.

I stop her (hell no my penis don't control me) told her i'm not willing to be used, and she can't have me unless she ditches her boyfriend finally.

We sat for hours after talking about how hard it'll be for her (women) and then she finally says she'll talk to him today.

At this point i was over the freaking moon.
Never been so happy in years.

I knew she was with her bf so i just text her asking her if she got home ok and if everything was good.

To which she replies "I've decided to take a different approach"
I ask what this means, and she replys just give me a couple of weeks.
At this point my happiness has suddenly gone and i feel i've been kicked in the balls again.
I ask her is it going to take a couple of weeks to get the same effect as we were talking about to which she said "Depends"

Then stopped replying further.


I don't know what to chuffing do now.
We've been on and off for years in a way, and i feel so different around her, like i can be myself.
I never felt like that in relationships that lasted 2 years.

I know this probably won't be read as it's a damn long essay, but i'm just really really stuck.

Help someone?

P.S She's fit as =)
(Sure this will help the "beat up her bf and do her up the garry comments")
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[MementoMori]

Right... OK, let me get this straight.

You were in a relationship with a girl.
You cheated on her.
You split up with your GF and she got another guy.

A few years later, you both cheat on your current 'partners' for each other.
Some months after this, you cheat on your 'partners' again, this time by having sex with each other.

You decide to break up with your at-the-time GF because she is a 'cheating little tart'.

Your lady in question's current BF had intended on cheating on her, however his plan was foiled when the girl of interest ran off with someone else.
He crawls back to her, and you don't like him because he had the intention of cheating on her.

She cheats on him for you.

You tell her you're not willing to be used.

She says that she'll talk to him but it'll be difficult. Then, for some reason unbeknownst to myself, you decided to add '(women)'. An ironic attempt at humour, perhaps.

Now, as opposed to dumping him right now, she's decided she'd like a few more weeks to come to a decision, and now you don't know what to do because you're comfortable around her and you want her back, despite the fact that when you had her, you cheated on her...





Fuck that, I'm leaving this one for the experts.
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[Irezumi aka Reuben]

She's pissing you about. If you must then shag her for a bit but she will be a waste of time.

The good thing is she's being straight up and honest with you, the bad part is she has you doing whatever she wants you to. More importantly she's playing with your mind.

Get rid of her full stop.

[Ciar?n]

I was never in a relationship with Charlie, we'v just been real close friends, and end up kissing a lot.

(fucked up little world we live in lol)

Confusing much?

[ken]

[Ciar?n]

Nicely put Hetz.
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[Fawbish]

You and your analogies hetz. Unlucky Ciaran - good luck eh?
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Whoops, DP
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[Wafer_Thin_Ham]

She's a head fucker, chalk this one down to experience and go and find someone who's single and truely wants you.
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[BanditBitch]

Wake up and smell the coffee. She's got you dangling on a string. If it was going to go anywhere, it would have done so by now.
Move on.

[nick606]

Stay with her but try and find someone else in the means time and then dump her when you do Shes using you but you may aswell enjoy it.

[Ciar?n]

Nicely put Nick.

Well yet again, we slept together today, and she's going mad how she can't break up with her bf yet as it's unfair on him.

Sorry but cheating on him and not telling him is unfair on him?
I'd rather be told right away than waiting a fortnight for my partner to tell me she don't wanna be with me anymore.

On the plus side.

I went out tonight for a mates 20th.
Got pissed and pilled up, and had the fucking night of my life!
=)
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[chris-red]

Keep shagging her but don't expect anything else.
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[Shaun]

This is easy!

Don't let her get shit from you, always stay just out of reach, if she can't have you she'll want you more, throw in a jealousy plot line too and she'll get her act together.

Do try and remember that she's a slut though, she will cheat on you as well.

[alliamc]

You seem to all be following the same events, any girlfriends you have, you cheat on, and any fella she has she cheats on. Why not grow up and start treating other people as though they actually mean something to you instead of playing some fucked up games with eachothers emotions.

It's no wonder you get the feeling you've been kicked in the nadgers, but you taught her years ago that you feel it's ok to cheat by showing that you do it, and she's followed that pattern since. Just grow up, find someone you ACTUALLY care about. She's not in lvoe with you or she would have dropped her fella in an instant, so leave it.
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[killa]

Hetz’s answer is spot on, but then many many girls (planes) at this age are uncontrollable.

It’s kind of a mix of all of the above replies IMO.

As we all don’t know the whole story there might be key points you’re missing out to give you a solid answer.

I’ve met girls who like drama mate, they feed off it, like living in a soap. One day they become pregnant, it’s either yours or someone you don’t know. Either way she rips your heart in two and you’re left with a baby or very sour thoughts about women.

She has a guilty conscience which makes her say things to you/him/whoever else to make them feel a bit better at the time, when it comes to the crunch she finds it easier to just accept what’s going on, play the innocent party and take cock. She’s young, she can do this and it doesn’t amount to much.
You can either accept this unpredictable future or try and set your eyes on something new, fresh and not so up her own garry.
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[Kwaks]

Sounds like you deserve each other
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[Ciar?n]

[killa]

[Ciar?n]

Haha, thanks killa.

She dumped her bf btw

So the balls in my court i'm going to leave her high and dry for a month.

Gives her time to sort her head out too.
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[MoshizZ]

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[Ciar?n]

Everyone is fucked up beyond belief.
it's what makes it fun.
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