Depression

[crazymotorbik...]

Hey,
I've been feeling very depressed now for about 4 months, in fact since I moved out and into a flat with my GF.

She's great, never says ought wrong, so i know it isn't her. Its been very tight with money lately, me paying for most things (She's been out of work) , and having nothing left at the end of the month. So basically working to live. No social life, no money for bike, nothing.

The job I do is dead end and pays pittance which just adds to my misery. Redundancy is becoming a real prospect for me due to a new system being implemented and I have very little prospects of getting another. Just makes me feel like a failure.

Just feel completely fed up. I've always suffered with depression but I've never felt this low. Tonight I just couldn't take much more of feeling like crap and walked out and went for a drive, couldn't go far cos i had little fuel and no cash to fill it up!

So yer just thought i'd share. Makes me feel a tiny bit better getting out how I feel. Worse thing is i know she won't put up with me like this forever so i could possibly lose everything. End up with no job, no money and no GF.

Thanks for reading,
Shaun.

[J0Al1]

Hey

I suggest you turn the situation around. .

OK, so you cant dramatically change it whilst you await you partner to get a job. . .

But you can, turn it into a challenge.

Sit down and look at everything you spend money on. .
Devise as many little ideas for saving money
Keep a record, see how much you saved at the end of each week/month

It can be satisfying

Also . . a big cuddle with your girlfriend.

[J0Al1]

duplicate

[Robby]

Whore out the woman.

[Phoenix]

Seeing as you're paying for her living while she has no job then I don't see how she'd get away with having a go at you for being miserable, safe to say her getting some work would probably help the situation.

[1016]

Brave to share Shaun - I really feel for you mate - you are living within a potentially 'tinderbox' situation, and the atmosphere in your flat must be really stressful at times. You have already said, and so you know full well that this is going to test you and your relationship with your G/F to the limit. But look at it another way - if the two of you can get through this as a team, (and hey, even manage to have a light hearted moment now and then) then just think what else you could achieve together? Hope something really good for you is just around the corner.

[steppen22]

You need to do something reckless - like intentionally crash into a car.

When I'm depressed that's the sort of thing I do.

Or just ditch the weight round your neck.
(I could mean your chick. But it's for you to decide what's your burden. Just trash it all, dump it all, discard it all, and move on).

Don't waste time on things, or people, that hold you back.
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[colin1]

I think its surprising how a bit of exercise can lift your mood.

It cant fix the other things, but it does make you feel better.

Particularly good, is hard exercise that makes you sweat for an hour.

Come to think of it, I'm sure there is something that the girlfriend could help out with there
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[G]

As above, I'd start with making a plan to improve things, then start working towards it.

Look at the sort of jobs you'd like to have and see what you can do for free to start you on the path; the internet holds masses of resources for most things.

If your girlfriend is looking for work, why not see if you can also make an effort to help her getting a job.

Having a target and some hope always helps me.
Similarly, find an event or similar you'd like to do in a while and start planning for that, both saving money (if required, it could even be a very-cheap mini-tour, or similar) and planning what you'll actually be doing etc. I always find thinking about positive things in this manner keeps my general outlook more positive.