BDSM for beginners

[mr jamez]

So I met this girl, we went out on a date which went OK, got back to hers and one thing led to another.

Anyway turns out she is into bondage (has restraints on her bed), she went to work with a butt plug in! Plus all that master and slave stuff. I asked her what the ultimate fantasy for her is, she wants me to fuck her followed by a few of my mates; and for it to be quite...rapey.

I'm taking her out for dinner next saturday and a few drinks in town, I'm really keen on this girl but I'm well on the back foot with the BDSM stuff, obviously if we end up in bed again I want to show her a good time

First night we spent together I pretty much winged it with a bit of biting and spanking, she loves being dominated.

HELP!
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Again, punch in tits, do in gary.

[mr jamez]

Their was gary action, but thats just standard procedure!

Just for the record her subframe is not bent and the chain is tight.
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[whitedevil]

You could always fist both her holes while shitting in her mouth
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[Tarmacsurfer]

All joking aside, if you genuinely like the woman and she's well into the fetish circuit then tread carefully if you have no experience. Emotional attachment is very different to sexual play to most of the scene, it can be quite difficult to get your head around some behaviours and attitudes if you're just finding your way into it.

As to the Dom question, that's not really something that is learned. You'll either find you can do it or you can't, if you can then it's time to start learning but if the basic ability is lacking then just don't go there
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[Hetzer]

[mr jamez]

I don't really want to get involved in the 'scene', I've learnt more than I want to about that from my old boss! We ended up in his mates flat in Henley on our work do, a real eye opener to what people get up to behind closed doors

From what I can gather she is more just into the kinky side of it, most couples/mates I know have dabbled with bondage and roleplay. I already said their is no chance I am going to be violent or aggressive.

You're right hetzer she isn't all there, very pleasent young lady but on the happy pills.

My EX was so boring in the sack, its just hard to not find this new girl exciting...
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[Handsome]

I'm in...
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[Rogerborg]

Well, enjoy it, but bag it, don't ever give her your real phone number or address or let her meet your friends (unless they're wearing ski masks). Mental is as mental does.
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[Harold_Shand]

Hit it and quit
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[Kwaks]

All sounds fine.


Rape roleplay is top ten in womans fantasies.....


In addition her saying her ultimate fantasy is to be gangbanged doesnt actually say she would go through with it, stick a blindfold on and pretend for a bit
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[Raffles]

A Scotsman goes to bed one night, to find his wife waiting dolled up in suspenders and leather gear.

While they're humping she gasps, "Oh yeah, yeah baby, treat me like a whore!"

He replies, "Fack off, ah'm nae payin' ye!"
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[hellbound]

Being not that far from yourself i would like to put myself forward as a "mate"
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[colin1]

I met a girl who was into the BDSM scene to the extent that it interfered with her having a normal monogamous relationship.

Partner sharing is all very well, if you are just having fun, but any kind of emotional involvement and its just gonna get messy.

The traditional male approach to a woman who is not committed to being yours and yours alone, is to call her a slag, and have that kind of emotional distance even if you do shag her. I think that's completely appropriate.

If she is not too heavily into this stuff, and is happy to keep it all within the bounds of an exclusive relationship, then I reckon you can have a proper relationship that includes emotional involvement.

The girl I met had the idea she was gonna meet a guy who was gonna be true to her, while she 'played' with whoever she wanted. She even wanted her 'playmates' not to have girlfriends. I'm sure some sap will put up with it, or more likely she will have guys use her for sex, and miss out on having a proper relationship.

I think she needs to decide if she wants a committed relationship or not. Personally, I dont think you can have your cake and eat it for very long without things getting fucked up.
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