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kawashima
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PostPosted: 12:24 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Reply with quote
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MinhDinh
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PostPosted: 12:27 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Some things are out of your hand Kwashima.

People change, and especially the work force.

Just make sure it doesn't affect your work! Smile
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PostPosted: 12:33 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
The fact that this lady has spoken to you about it in the first place - means she trusts you and would maybe like it if you were to ask how she was feeling and how things are going.

You don't need to understand fully about it, but it might help her feel better about herself if you do continue to speak with her after she has told you something so personal. Just be supportive and caring, and let her talk to you about it if she needs to.

It sounds as if she does. Karma Thumbs Up

Also, don't speculate as to what might be happening, don't tell her what your team leader said...as that really is nothing much to do with you.
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kawashima
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PostPosted: 12:36 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
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PostPosted: 12:45 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
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PostPosted: 12:55 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Female colleague Reply with quote
kawashima wrote:
How should I do? Is there anything I have to be careful?
But I think I must not ask her about personal matter.

What I'm really afraid is someone who is so senseless and can not work at all comes instead of her.



Maybe you should ask her out? The:

with a young female colleague. She is a very good worker, maybe one of the best person whom I had ever worked with.

Says to me you want to do the horizontal jiggy with her. Quick before you move into the friend zone...

Young Japanese and female?

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kawashima
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PostPosted: 13:12 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Female colleague Reply with quote
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PostPosted: 13:15 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Female colleague Reply with quote
fatpies wrote:
Maybe you should ask her out?


You would think that the fact she's going for infertility treatment might suggest she is married...we're talking Japanese culture, not the UK!!!
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PostPosted: 13:27 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Clanger wrote:
The fact that this lady has spoken to you about it in the first place - means she trusts you and would maybe like it if you were to ask how she was feeling and how things are going.

You don't need to understand fully about it, but it might help her feel better about herself if you do continue to speak with her after she has told you something so personal. Just be supportive and caring, and let her talk to you about it if she needs to.

It sounds as if she does. Karma Thumbs Up

Also, don't speculate as to what might be happening, don't tell her what your team leader said...as that really is nothing much to do with you.

^^^ Wot she said.

Infertility is not one of those things any woman likes to admit to or discuss, probably especially in a more reserved society than the UK, so the fact that she has shows she respects and trusts you. Just be supportive, if she's stressed out or struggling with something, ask her if you can help. If the treatment fails, as very often happens, and she tells you about it, it'll be a difficult time for her, but also for you, as you won't know what to do and what to say. Take your cue from her, and probably just listen, reminding her that she's still young, she has time, somethings these things don't work for the first couple of times, but eventually it'll work.

Don't say anything about the company thinking about replacing her, she won't need that kind of pressure now.
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PostPosted: 13:35 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Everytime I read what Kawasshima types, I do think he is an interesting soul.
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PostPosted: 13:44 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
MinhDinh wrote:
Everytime I read what Kawasshima types, I do think he is an interesting soul.

Having met him, I can confirm that he is. Cool
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MinhDinh
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PostPosted: 14:00 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Paivi wrote:
MinhDinh wrote:
Everytime I read what Kawasshima types, I do think he is an interesting soul.

Having met him, I can confirm that he is. Cool


I am pretty interesting in real life too if you will give me the chance. :p
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PostPosted: 14:12 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Kawashima is a player. Wink
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PostPosted: 14:25 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
kawashima wrote:
Thank you Paivi san. I really appreciate Paivi san for taking me to Napule restaurant and chatting with me, I could fully enjoy the first evening when I visited UK.

Entirely my pleasure, Kawashima san. It was great to meet you and hope to see you again when you next visit the UK. Hope you can spend more time in London, so we can arrange a proper nigth out with the London members. Very Happy
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PostPosted: 15:45 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Paivi san I look forward to meeting you one day.
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PostPosted: 19:21 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Women are for making babies and pies. I can say that because my wife's upstairs vacuuming the bed (I have no idea why)

Men are for protecting women while they make babies (and pies). Help her to fulfil her purpose in life.
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PostPosted: 22:28 - 18 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Rogerborg wrote:
Women are for making babies and pies. I can say that because my wife's upstairs vacuuming the bed (I have no idea why)


Cant be comfortable to make babies in a bed full of pie crumbs... Laughing
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PostPosted: 09:05 - 25 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Rogerborg wrote:
Women are for making babies and pies. I can say that because my wife's upstairs vacuuming the bed (I have no idea why)


Mine does stuff like this. They're weird, aren't they?

The conversation usually goes something like:

Me: What are you doing?
Her: What does it look like I'm doing?
Me: But why?
Her (getting annoyed): Why do you think?
Me: Err ... OK

At which point I slink off, none the wiser.
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PostPosted: 09:18 - 25 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
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Cant be comfortable to make babies in a bed full of pie crumbs... Laughing


Kawashima, it is not tradition in the UK to eat pie in bed!
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PostPosted: 14:32 - 26 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Female colleague Reply with quote
kawashima wrote:
she has started infertility treatments...



...She recently sometimes looks in a bad mood. Yesterday she lost temper when excel macro tool freezed and couldn't shut down.


This temper tantrum is most likely exacerbated by the extra hormones from her infertility treatments.

Expect the following:

Tears
Temper
More Tears
Contradiction of her own opinions
Even more tears

Although these displays of feminine instability can usually be ignored, under no circumstances allow her to realise you are ignoring them, as this will undermine her position.

Catch her eye, practice your "sympathetic" look, and then look away.

You could say "Do you need any help?" but she is likely to say "No" whether she means it or not.
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PostPosted: 15:27 - 26 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Rogerborg wrote:
my wife's upstairs vacuuming the bed (I have no idea why)


Dummkopf !!

There are only two reasons for this:

1. House dust mites
2. She's hoovering away any possible signs of her ginger-pubed lover.
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PostPosted: 11:44 - 27 Jun 2011    Post subject: Re: Female colleague Reply with quote
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PostPosted: 11:59 - 27 Jun 2011    Post subject: Reply with quote
Kawashima you should get married my man. Go and get you some Poontang.
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