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PostPosted: 13:55 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Bikes... or other half? Reply with quote

Crying or Very sad

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PostPosted: 14:10 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My other half has no interest in bikes and keeps reminding me that it would be more benificial for the family to get rid of the bike and get a car and learn to drive a car instead.
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PostPosted: 14:15 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My misses hates bikes, I hate horses. We have an understanding if she can ride horses, I can ride bikes!
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PostPosted: 14:25 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Agree with that mentality of each to their own hobby. Coming from the 'other halfs' view point tho....is there anyway to compete with the bird bikers or is this an instant attraction to a leather clad fella. Obviously not talking about the biker birds with hairy pits and chin!

Thought the free rein approach was the right thing to do and let the old man get the 'hit 40 need two wheels ' thing out of his system but apparently this goes along with needing new model of everything.

As a new widow to a biker bird, I now wonder should I have doned leathers and climbed aboard?
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PostPosted: 14:54 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My missus hates bikes and that`s sad but I have to tollerate her grandchildren so she can tollerate my bikes Smile Thumbs Up .

That said my bikes work out to be a LOT cheaper than her grandchildren Confused .

In all fairness, she accepts that bikes are a part of me always will be Thumbs Up .
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PostPosted: 14:57 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

ksrodent wrote:


As a new widow to a biker bird, I now wonder should I have doned leathers and climbed aboard?


Men are stupid and think with thier dicks , regardless of wether they ride bikes or not.
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PostPosted: 15:01 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My girlfriends step dad used to ride all the time, so she grew up around bikes. She absolutely loves going pillion, and thinks bikes are generally very fun. She has a car anyway, so if we need to be practical we have it there. Am I one of the lucky ones?
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PostPosted: 15:05 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

ksrodent wrote:

As a new widow to a biker bird, I now wonder should I have doned leathers and climbed aboard?


Oh dear, bitter much? Confused

Don't think you can blame his hobby for splitting you to be honest and certainly not for him meeting someone else. Most of the blokes of this agegroup that I know (and that's quite a lot seeing as it's my agegroup) tend to be so focused on the ride when they go out that they don't even notice the scenery never mind if anyone tagging along is male or female.

It does sound like he was using the bike more and more as an excuse to escape from you going on the little you've said but think of it this way - if the relationship was in trouble anyway do you think that denying him the chance to get away for a while by going with him would have delayed the split or even prevented it, or is it more likely that it would have helped it happen sooner?

Me and Him both ride. We often ride together, we just as often go out by ourselves and if either of us is likely to be meeting up with and chatting to those of the opposite sex it's probably me to be honest. Does this mean I'm about to run off with any of the young and sometimes gorgeous men that I meet (especially from here! Laughing )? Of course not, cos I'm happy at home.

I'm sorry that your relationship didn't work out, but I suspect the issues ran a lot deeper than just him wanting to ride his bike.
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PostPosted: 15:22 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Crying or Very sad

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PostPosted: 15:36 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

ksrodent wrote:

Never found the balance so maybe you need to share the love of bikes to understand...something which I didnt.


Nah, I think it's more fundamental than that.

Again a lot of my friends who ride live perfectly happy lives with partners who are not interested in bikes in the slightest. This particularly seems to apply to the chaps with the big sports bikes who go out for fast runs on a Sunday or do a lot of trackdays or even amateur racing for some reason.

I think right now you are hurting cos you've split (I'm assuming it was recent?) and you are looking for something to blame. Far easier to say it's because of his bikes than because of you, or because of him, and makes you feel better.

I might be completely wrong, I don't know you or your ex. But I think if you can get your head round the fact that however good it used to be ultimately you weren't right for each other you will be able to move on and have a happier life.

Or you could always get a bike Wink nothing like a big fizzy vtwin to bring a smile to a gir's face! Mr. Green
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PostPosted: 15:42 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My better half is ok with the bike now, initally didn't want me to get one, "you'll kill yourself syndrome" but she is quite a happy pillion as long as the weather is dryish and warmish, I also think there is more of a togetherness with each other than we would other wise have in a car. Thumbs Up
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PostPosted: 16:57 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry to hear that, but as yam said, the issues will have run deeper than that.

It's easy to (want to) blame it on one thing, but the truth is theres many contributing factors.

If two people are right for each other, one "issue" won't ruin things for them, if they're not right for each other, then that same issue becomes the scapegoat for lots of smaller issues too
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PostPosted: 18:49 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My wife threatened to leave me if i got a bike....

So i broke her in gently by getting a 125. then 2months later she hit the roof when i bought the SV650. And again when i bought the thundercat, apparently " i want something thats quicker above 70mph+ " wasnt the correct reason to buy another bike?? Rolling Eyes

Think now she has just accepted the fact that my love of bikes isnt going to go away, and i wont stop riding, so she may as well grin and bear it!
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PostPosted: 19:09 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mrs C used to be a sidecar pillion for her father in a race series so she doesn't give me any grief about the bike. In fact when our family expanded and I decided I didn't want something as insane as the Z1000, she insisted that I keep my hand in and we compromised on a project bike.

She used to come out as a pillion, but wont go near a bike now that we have kids.
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PostPosted: 19:29 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

TFG600 wrote:
My misses hates bikes, I hate horses. We have an understanding if she can ride horses, I can ride bikes!


You must not like her much, those things are bloody dangerous. Shocked

Anyway, we're not on a rehearsal and you don't get a do-over button. Nobody lies on their death bed saying "Well, I'm glad I never had the bottle to try that biking lark".
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PostPosted: 19:57 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My mrs doesn't mind the bikes, she comes on the back now and then and enjoys it (in nice weather!).

She encouraged me to buy a new bike when I got a new job which was great.

Basically she just wants me to be safe and knows the bikes make me happy so is cool with it.

The thing is though and she knows it too, bikes aren't the be all and end all of my like so biking doesn't rule our lives.

Provided nothing changes I can't see her ever being funny about me riding bikes so thats brilliant. Lucky I guess Thumbs Up
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PostPosted: 20:21 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

My Mrs is the one who wants to be on it all the time, did loomies today and then Brighton, cant complane.
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PostPosted: 22:37 - 25 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Missus. The bike's fun, but it doesn't fuck me. However, the missus is very understanding, and is doing her CBT, she want's to know why it makes me grin the way that it does. She'd never ask me to give it up, but if I have the choice with blast with mates or time with her, she wins every time. I have enough time on my own to want more when she's available.
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PostPosted: 00:32 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Personally I can't understand all these guys who won't get a bike because their partner/wife etc doesn't want them to! Its your life do what you want. My bike was here before my current girlfriend and if we split I will still have my bike. Having said that my g/f loves being pillion but has now done her CBT and is planning to take the MOD 1 & 2 some point this year Smile
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PostPosted: 00:43 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dont change for anyone......
You are who you are...
Ex 1 - hated bikes, year later did her full DAS
Ex 2 - Wasnt keen on me riding, but come on the back - later on did her full DAS.
Ex 3 - Different story - Hates bikes, Hated me riding, constant worrie -Never came on the back...It was a 'fact' in our relationship too - Dumped.
New bird.... Up for anything, but worries If its bad weather... win win...
I will never change for a person, I ride, its a huge part of my life...
Dont like - Do one Thumbs Up
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PostPosted: 01:05 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Louise wrote:
Dont change for anyone......
You are who you are...
Ex 1 - hated bikes, year later did her full DAS
Ex 2 - Wasnt keen on me riding, but come on the back - later on did her full DAS.
Ex 3 - Different story - Hates bikes, Hated me riding, constant worrie -Never came on the back...It was a 'fact' in our relationship too - Dumped.
New bird.... Up for anything, but worries If its bad weather... win win...
I will never change for a person, I ride, its a huge part of my life...
Dont like - Do one Thumbs Up


Agreed.

I refused to change (important) things in my life for my ex, just because she didn't like them.

I also never asked her to accept it either, I just said if she couldn't learn to accept it then we wouldn't work.

She couldn't and we didn't.

Wasn't like I suddenly sprung a massive surprise on her halfway through the relationship, was completely honest and open from the start about things, she decided she would still go into the relationship and thought she could then try to change me once we were together. Don't think she actually expected me to ditch her though, naive and foolish.
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PostPosted: 01:20 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

"its me or the bike"

"Ok, leave your key on the side, I'll see you around"

"your serious?"

"are you?

"yes"

"leave your key on the side."

"fffffffffff"

"get out"
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PostPosted: 01:34 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Me and the mrs actually have a mutual respect thing going on. I was a person for 25 years before we met and she understands that the bike comes with me!

The new stuff is a little more difficult, for instance if I was to come home with a new bike tomorrow she would do her best to be happy for me, but bikes are out of her control. Unfortunately the debate about me wanting a parrot is still ongoing despite my threats of getting a 'snake instead, or an otter'!
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PostPosted: 01:34 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Me and the mrs actually have a mutual respect thing going on. I was a person for 25 years before we met and she understands that the bike comes with me!

The new stuff is a little more difficult, for instance if I was to come home with a new bike tomorrow she would do her best to be happy for me, but bikes are out of her control. Unfortunately the debate about me wanting a parrot is still ongoing despite my threats of getting a 'snake instead, or an otter'!
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PostPosted: 01:35 - 26 Feb 2012    Post subject: Reply with quote

Temeluchus wrote:
"its me or the bike"

"Ok, leave your key on the side, I'll see you around"

"your serious?"

"are you?

"yes"

"leave your key on the side."

"fffffffffff"

"get out"


This Laughing

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As far as a relationship is concerned I couldn't care less whether the other half liked bikes or not. Bikes are my thing, they don't have to be hers. If she tries to stop me riding though or constantly says how much she hates it, the relationship isn't going to happen.
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