parents, life and work

[kramdra]

I moved out of my parents house in 2011, lived in 3 shared houses, and now Im back, just visiting for a few weeks. while I clear out old stuff and fix bike. Parents are incredibly dull, boring and stressfull. I cant stand it so I want to get out as soon as I can.

Last year was not good. Work started well but didn't last. In August I crashed bike and my job turned to shit so over the year I lost money.

I havent gone out much since then. Went to gym a few times, so Im in better shape. 12 stone for 6'1 tall. Im going to do a lot more this year. I had an interview last week, first in ages and looks like a good job. The interview was not great, did not get it. It was strange becuase I did not feel nervous, but I was.

I need to go out and do stuff, I have been a dull, bike obsessed loner for a few years and trying to work too much doesnt help.

my last pay was in october. I did not want any help or benifits with rent or bills. Im not going to claim benifits unless I find myself homeless. I want to say I have worked all my life but I cant, Im sure as hell not going to claim benifits if I dont need them. Wish my parents kicked me out at 18 and gave me good advice rather than supporting me and helping me make the wrong choices.


So what the fuck do I do with the rest of my life? If I had money there is a lot Id like to do. Id explore other countrys. Ive never been further than fucking Belgium. I'd like to try living in France/Spain/Italy for a few weeks, its suppost to be cheaper, warmer.. but no idea if I could get a job there. thought about the army, but they seem to be cutting jobs. I dont know anyone thats done it.



Advice please. MTFU?


edit in red. some whining removed

[Polarbear]

As a parent can I say children once they get to 18 are very stressful. I like being dull and boring, that's what parents do well. Oh, and put up with whineing children when they have to come back home cause they haven't been able to cut it in the real world.
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[Fisty]

Advice..............

GET A JOB
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[dan_flash]

Move abroad, take a punt at it.
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[Tungtvann]

You sound like one of my mates, except he won't get a job and doesn't want to stop playing warcraft and move out from his parent's.

Get a job abroad, something crazy, round the world container ship or something.

[yambabe]

TL:DR - grow up.

You sound like a petulant teenager, not a man of 27.

Of course you need to pay rent and bills and food, welcome to real life. If you're not working claim benefits, that's what they are for. Your parents are probably paying way more into the system each week than you will ever be taking out yet you don't seem to have a problem with them subsidising you..........

Stop sponging off your parents and get out there. Get a job, sort yourself out and get on with it.

You don't sound depressed to me, you sound like a spoilt brat who expects the world to arrive on his lap without actually making any effort.
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[BenZXR]

I wouldn't of stayed at home till 24 in the first place!

I argue with my parents for a past time, and if I knew I was staying here till 24 I would almost certainly murder everyone and jump off a bridge.

I'm only 18 and sick of living here, so I know how you feel
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[angryjonny]

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kramda needs to be put in a saw trap

and why didn't you try and sort a new job out while you were in your old one and knew it was going to shit? :S
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[scorps]

You may have noticed that most of your responders are parents to adult kids, like me really.

This may seem a bit harsh but sort your bloody life out and don't expect to drudge off your parents at an age when you should be totally independent.


Look on the bright side, most mammals have either chased off or attacked their lazy offspring when they have overstayed their welcome.

Most parents are more than willing to help out a grown child in real times of need but parenthood is hard work and most of us while we still love you, can not wait to see the back of you.

We are territorial and you invade our space, we dont like that to be honest. kids reaching adulthood means it is our time again to have fun, have rampant sex over the kitchen table or do whatever it is we couldnt do while you were in the house again. Move out, leave your parents to enjoy themselves without having to tip toe round you.
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[Kradmelder]

do your parents really allow you to live back at home? at 27? unless a serious calamity, like getting divorced, accident, your business collapsed etc. why would they do that?

I dont think your parents are dull and boring. I think they are too soft and tolerant.

they appear dull and boring because the work for a living. Now why must they carry you as well after 18 years?
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[mysterious_rider]

You are from brighton you say? I'm there too. I've probs seen you about (or vice versa, black naked zzr600, fooking loud).

If you fancy a blast giz a shout. I know a fair few bikers that meetup if you want to come.
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[yambabe]

[Polarbear]

[h00dwink]

[Hetzer]

[G]

Was that £6k in rent on a shared house?
Find cheaper house-shares, if so.

Do more bodging to your bike - functional but not aesthetic.
Why did you have to 'pay out' for the crash?

Oh and next time, don't quit until you get another job.
Sure, it may be hassle for not much money - but that's still better than not having it as well as being better for getting another job.

If you want money - start making a plan to get it.
What jobs can you get that pay well? I've been considering angling towards some off-shore oil work as I don't have any specific ties. I doubt I'll end up doing that as I have other skills that can get me a well paid job, but it's the sort of thing anyone should be able to get in to.
Of course to get the right sort of training etc you need money, which means a job now - so start applying for lots of jobs.

Are you paying for the gym?
There's lots of other ways to get exercise that are cheaper and more social - I've joined a running club recently. Burns a good number of calories, improves aerobic fitness and is pretty social.

Anyway - yes; MTFU and get on with working towards your goals.

[nowhere.elysium]

Brace yerself lad, a dose of MTFU is incoming.

My 15 year old daughter is made of sterner stuff than you. Seriously. Go out, get a job. Doesn't matter if it's crap, jobs aren't meant to be fun; it's considered a bonus if you enjoy it, not a right. Earn your crust, get out of your parents hair; at the age of 27, I'd have been spectacularly ashamed be living under my parents roof, unless my life had totally fallen apart. I moved back to my parents for a short while when I was 24 so I could crunch together the money for a deposit to buy a flat, which I bought just before I hit 25. That six months was difficult for all involved, but I certainly didn't have the cheek to bitch about paying rent to them, or about how they conducted their lives.

Drop the sense of entitlement, grow a sense of responsibility, and drop this petulant crap about 'I don't want to live beyond 40' - no-one cares.

To be brutally honest, I'm genuinely wondering if Usually_Wrong was a sockpuppet of yours, given the style of whinging that's going on here: "I'm poor, and life owes me a shitload of unmitigated win!". No, it doesn't. Life owes you nothing; you have to go out and earn it.

The advice to try working abroad is good, but be warned; being British isn't massively popular these days, and being a despondent lazy Brit is only going to get you unemployed in another country very quickly. Before you do anything else, grow a pair, and develop a long-range view of the world and your place in it.
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[kramdra]

[BenZXR]

You have enough money to move out for 4 months, and have had job offers yet your still living at your parents?

Wow.
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