Bad Vibe From a Guy at Work

[Bubbs]

Just curious as how to approach this little conundrum.

I work in a large team, and every so often have to meet up with everyone from the team and also ususally have to phone and email people during the working week.

Now everything is pretty good, and on the whole, everyone is brilliant. However there's this one guy, who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me. He seems to get on with everyone, but when it comes to me he turns into a nob. This usually isn't too much of a problem, and I try to be courteous and nice but I'm getting to the end of my patience.

The guy is about 5 years my junior, and he talks to me as if he's my boss (same pay grade). Prime example, I phoned him up to share some info that he requested, and I got a "I'm too busy, phone me later" and hung up. Starting to turn from a slight dislike to I'm going to have a word with him soon... I'm not good at having words with people because I struggle to keep my temper in check and be "professional", I just know I'm going to end up saying somthing I regret.

I think it's just the basic rudeness of the guy which is pissing me off. I've already decided to stop trying to be the nice guy and just get on with things. If I need to talk to him then I'll say what I need to say then leave. Just don't like having bad air when there's no need for it.

Sooooo.... Any advice?

I'm tempted to just say "You don't like me much do you?".. just to see what he says.

I don't know BCF.. Just want to get on with people.
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[Hetzer]

If it came to it could you whup his ass? Your options depend on the answer to that in the real world.
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[Bubbs]

[garth]

Put your nob in his girlfriend.

[Hetzer]

[hellkat]

[garth]

Actually, after you've put your nob in his girlfriend, just be really nice to him.

Buy him chocolates, bubble baths, a spa day for the two of you - that kind of stuff.

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[Bubbs]

[Hetzer]

[sulphur]

Fuck him. Ignore him, and don't help him. Wait 'till he comes to you for help, then tell him to fuck off. Awkward little shit. Haha.

I'm not very sociable...

[fatpies]

Flipped

[Bubbs]

[hmmmnz]

back hand is the only logical direction you can go to from here,
deal one out,
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[mistergixer]

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[unitynotsocri...]

Firstly remember ,
he does 'nt like you so whats his reason? You know he's a bit of a dick .Look at it like a social group phenomena , after all we are all monkeys , he's after your place in the pecking order and too insecure to just do the work , so he's relying on his sociopathic body language for acceptance in the group......which can be dangerous if you are a group of civil servants , but far less so if your job involves real problems needing real solutions , on the spot decisions......as well as having to earn the company money.........as he'll burn out very quickly.

Give him enough rope to make himself fuckup in front of colleauges adn if he ever crosses the boundary of personal abuse/attitude...............quietly tell him he's gonna get his face bashed in as personal abuse is best left at home with his gf or mum.
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[Rogerborg]

Eh, you failed it by not going round and Saatchi'ing him when he hung up on you.

Well, if you're going the sniffy route, then *PLONK* his email and block or ignore any calls. I've got half my company killfiled, no second chances. If you're ever too busy to help me, then I'm always too busy to help you.

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[J0Al1]

Some good if varied advice.

Totally agree, do NOT say, 'you don't like me do you', because that sounds like you care and its bothered you.

Id ignore him. I think the power of silence s one of the most disarming out there.

Don't give two hoots.

[charlie74]

[Entertwainer]

[Hetzer]

[Spudly]

Keep trying to work with him, keep it civil, but log it in a text file or something every time something happens. Doesn't need to be a mass of text, just time, date, what you said and what he said.

When you finally have really had enough of it or if his actions look like making you look bad to others, you can refer to the text file in response and put the onus on him. Essentially, cover your arse against his manipulations, do your job and ignore everything he does, after you make a note of it.

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[Bubbs]

Yeah, lots of good advice.. I was just trying to build a working relationship that would make my life easier... It's always those that consider themselves to have a more important job, or think themselves high up the pecking order that get my goat. The air of entitlement and superiority... It just makes me want to vom.

I've met a lot of people in my time, and those that I respected most have been the ones that don't give a flying fuck about position. Whether your earning 30k or 300k, there's no need to be a dick head because you have more responsibility/money etc.

Anyhow, I will discontinue my attempts to build a relationship and he can now come and find me if he needs anything. I'm not going to be a prick but he will just be low in my list of important people that will get my help.
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