"nothing in common"

[metalangel]

Spun-off from the PoF thread.

[GhostRider]

TL:DR

You offered her a penis to cry on, she was like "oh hell no". You went home and fapped using tears for lube.

GhostRider
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[N cee thirty]

Oh great yet another nutter with a fucked up family, yet if you slate any of them she'll have a go at you imma guessin'.
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[metalangel]

[FiBob]

Awww, you turned my post into a whole new thread

I don't agree with her rationale on that one. I view the fact that you guys could complain about your relationships etc as a good thing - it just means your uber comfortable around each other, and that communication between you wouldn't be much of an issue as you have already had ample opportunity to do this (even if it didn't relate to you as a couple). You're already pretty open where this is concerned

I think, from what you said, it could be her head that is the issue. Us females that have what others class as mental health issues just make us more vulnerable, less able to put ourselves out there, and deem ourselves unworthy of most men. Depends on what hers are though - for me it's just anxiety.

Maybe she viewed what you said as rebound material and she either isn't open to getting hurt again, or she genuinely doesn't feel that way because she's opened up so much, and you've been put in the friend zone. the big list of "whys" are a defense mechanism. We make up shitty excuses when we can't make a valid and rational argument to justify our feelings - "i don't have those feelings for you anymore" would have sufficed.

I still stand by what i said. If you are too similar or too different then it might not work, but some differences are good - they allow us to keep part of us for the rest of our lives and not completely merge into a "we".

As for getting out and doing stuff, and not just sitting in a cafe - well, maybe if it had been a date more effort would have been made, but the intention wasn't there, until it happened. You share experiences - it's called give and take. You get involved in your OH's interests even if it isn't you cup of tea - oh, and those things you don't share - they give you loads to talk about!

Don't view this as one more thing she'll worry about. As lovely as she (and her smile are), that's not your (this sounds harsh) problem - it doesn't sound like it's much of a big deal anyway, and your friendship will pick up soon enough and carry on from where it did.

Haha - essay finished

[Sako]

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[Rogerborg]

"Oh, you're single? Suddenly I find you far less appealing." ~ Every uterus ever.

She's not wrong though. Dial down the emo-mope and go and be awesome. Maybe get a medallion.
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[metalangel]

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[Sako]

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[hellkat]

She thinks you are her Shoulder to Cry On Friend.
At best, you'll only ever be a Desperation Shag.

And then she will phone you one day to tell you about the new guy she just met and is crazy about - and you will have a broken heart, instead of just a pulled-about one.

Get over her.
Sorry.
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[Skudd]

[metalangel]

[hellkat]

[metalangel]

Also valid. The attached guy knows that if he gets shot down, so what? He's got his missus at home. No problem. The single guy, meanwhile, is terrified of screwing up his chance with the pretty thing he's talking to and is compelled to make a cack-handed move ASAP in case he never has the opportunity again.

His head is filled with reams of contradictory information from relationship columnists telling him that girls really like a guy who is showing attention and interest, so ignore her and act disinterested to make her chase you (spluh?)

And, of course, there's this terror:
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[-Matt-]

[metalangel]

[-Matt-]

Sounds a hard flip - on one hand she could be great fun once you manage to encourage her to come out etc i guess, but then on the other hand - she might not be encourageable, and do you really want the hassle of becoming someone she begins relying on extensively if that will be the case and you're required more and more to be a sponge absorbing all her negativity.

I'd steer clear beyond the occasional meetings personally

[EazyDuz]

So you wanted to date her having just witnessed her say she has mental issues?
Also she clearly can't cope being single. Any woman like that will turn needy in a matter of days.
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[FiBob]

[EazyDuz]

[FiBob]

Yeah I agree with the whole scred to be alone thing. You can't be happy with someone else until you're happy by yourself.
But please, until you know what "mental issues" she has - stop making it a flipping issue. God you're shallow

[FiBob]

Yeah I agree with the whole scred to be alone thing. You can't be happy with someone else until you're happy by yourself.
But please, until you know what "mental issues" she has - stop making it a flipping issue. God you're shallow

[Lord Percy]

Regarding the talk of how women treat single and taken men differently:

I'm 5000 times more confident when I already have a girlfriend. No pressure to 'perform' in front of any other female, I do whatever the hell I like, feel more confident, feel like I could push the boundaries a bit and wouldn't care if I were knocked back because I already have a missus. Not that I'm a cheating swine at all, but that's how I psychologically feel. So as a partnered man, my character is more confident. And I don't need to pander to any other girl's interests, so there's no chance of being friendzoned either. So yeah for me personally, I even agree that I probably have more chance of scoring if I already have a girlfriend. Maybe it all links to prehistoric 'harem' psychologies, alpha male stuff, etc etc.

[EazyDuz]