Childminder - issue?

[mudcow007]

So we have been using a child minder for about 3 months now, she seems great our little one loves her an stuff

Today my Mrs seen the child minder at a playgroup without the kids she normally minds, when my Mrs asked how they were etc the child minder said she had left them with another child minder while she went out and picked something up from another child minder (at the playgroup).....

This has kinda got us worried now, we pay the child minder to look after our daughter, we know she is CRB'd etc, is this the first time she has left the kids with someone else?!

Think we are overacting?

oh an i know this isn't mumsnet.....

[Vincent]

She most definitely should not be leaving your kid(s) with someone you don't know If she wants to do this, she has to check with you first...IMO.
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[arry]

Agree with the above.

[J4mes]

I would not be happy about that at all, and things like these are why I didn't want our daughter going to a childminder.

What happens if they do need to nip out? What happens when they go to the loo and 5 kids are alone for 5 minutes while she does her business?

No thanks.

[Vincent]

I wouldn't get too heavy handed with her, but make it clear where you stand on the matter and why you're concerned.

You could also make sure she understands that if anything, gawd forbid, should happen to your kids...you'll rip her tits off sharpish
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[Rogerborg]

[i1301243]

CRB just means she's never been caught.

We had this issue once with an ex-childminder of ours. We moved on very quickly. Our child shouldn't be left with anyone we've not met before. Fuck CRB, how do you know they're not <insert your moral/legal objection here> around your child?

[Baffler186]

She might have thought it was ok, but it's definitely not. Have a word with her. Based on her reaction and the availability of other childminders in the area, consider someone else. Similar thing happened to my bosses' boy, friend said they'd look after them but phoned a 3rd party to pick them up from school without telling mother. I'd be angry, and I'd be explaining politely to the childminder why it's out of order and shouldn't happen again.
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[Ste]

Out of interest, what should a childminder do with your kids when they need to go to the toilet?

You don't want them to leave your kids unattended, you certainly don't want them to left with someone else and I'm willing to bet that you'd be unimpressed if they took your kids with them when they go to drop their own kids off at the pool.

So what should happen?

[Holdawayt]

I was pretty much raised by my childminder as my parents worked silly hours when I was a kid. If she needed to pop out she'd take us with here. From what I can recall she never left us on our own while she was out, I assume she'd just hold it in until she got home.

She did however ask her friend to pick us up from school on a few occasions. This was the early 90's so maybe things were a little different / safer? Mind you, James Bulger was killed around the same time.

I'd have a polite word with her next time you see her and raise your concerns.

[Matt B]

[mudcow007]

My Mrs is going to speak her tonight when she picks mini Mudcow up.

updates to follow....

[Rogerborg]

The wifey across the road used to childmind. Parents would drop their kids off at 8:30, turn up at 5:30 and literally have to drag them to their cars as they screamed and struggled to get back to their "real" family.

Just my cheery thought for the day.
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[Sun Wukong]

[swampy]

[Polarbear]

I'm from the older generation from before the days of CRB and all that jazz. You left your kids at nursery/playschool that was vetted by the council and if your kids were happy, you were.

Now you can look at it two ways IMO. Yes, you are not happy she has left the kids with someone you personally haven't vetted or she and other registered child minders have an arrangement that if any have to go and do something, another child minder steps in to cover while the first is away. That way a child is never left on his own or with someone who isn't registered and checked.

I think my main gripe would be that I wasn't aware of this arrangement but that would be about it. To my way of thinking it seems very responsible what they are doing, responsible, not reprehensible

Have a chat and iron things out to your satisfaction. If your kid is happy you don't want to spoil things for her for no reason.
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[Rogerborg]

[Sun Wukong]

[Ichy]

[J4mes]

[Ichy]

[J4mes]

Paranoid drama queen

Not paranoid, not drama queen - more considered about the pros and cons of the differing kinds of childcare available to us


My daughter is in my house while she sleeps, next door to my bedroom and we have a monitor on - not in someone else's house with someone else's kids who she nor I really know.

Background - I got bullied and picked on by a child when I was 3-4, but was told by my carers that "I had to just get on with it" as it turned out, after discussing it with my parents decades later, that he was being mistreated/abused by his parents. So he took it out on me.

I wouldn't want that for my daughter, as I remember how it felt. Hence Nursery, where there are multiple staff in the room and on the premises, CCTV covering the rooms etc.



You're right, it was simpler in the 70's. Its a much more open world now.

[Vincent]

[Ichy]