A mate with issues . .

bugeye_bob · World Chat Champion Joined: 05 Sep 2013 Karma :

Ok so I know this will come across as rather insensitive, but,
At what point do you take the piss out of a old mate who keeps failing to kill himself,

Ive been the friend there for him, and he is just an out and out Cnut,
So delicate, you cant say shit around him,

It`s got to the point( 12 months of daft pillock) that Im fed up with being Mr Nice,
I want to kill him for the stress, I hate to think what his missus must be going through, but he is just shit at trying or he is just a fecking attention seeking bitch,

Ive lost a few mates from illness and knew how much life meant to them, but this has really got to the point where I cant help him, he has become a joke in my eyes.

ScaredyCat · World Chat Champion Joined: 19 May 2012 Karma :

I'd treat him the same way I'd treat someone who posted something in "Random Banter" that should have been posted in "Dear Auntie BCF"
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CaNsA · Super Spammer Joined: 02 Jan 2008 Karma :

Bring him to the bbq.

Ste · Not Work Safe Joined: 01 Sep 2002 Karma :

You could always blick him.

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Rogerborg · nimbA Joined: 26 Oct 2010 Karma :

Need pictures of his missus to decide what do.
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The Shaggy D.A. · Super Spammer Joined: 12 Sep 2008 Karma :

I've had two family members "attempt suicide" on multiple occasions. The first phoned me before taking an overdose, telling me that "I'd never get to him in time". I live 15 minutes away. If it was the intention to end it all, then why phone? Just get on with it. The second was "slitting wrists", but she just looked like she'd tried to bath a cat. Both half arsed attempts that were cries for attention.

I've spent a lot of energy, time, emotion and patience on the pair of them, to the detriment of my own mental and physical health and other relationships. You do get to the point where you have to make the decision that you've taken it as far as you can and get on with your own life.

On the other hand, a friend's dad just got up early one morning, took himself off to the middle of a field with a can of petrol and pulled a Thích Quang Duc. If someone really wants to off themselves, they will, and there's fuck all you can do about it.
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Howling Terror · Super Spammer Joined: 05 Dec 2008 Karma :

It's not against the rules to break friends.

I've dropped a few of old friends because it seemed I was the one who made the effort. <<<Maybe they went off me and if true then it's still for the best. Another friend changed to the point we had nothing in common apart from memories.

My oldest and dearest friend is what most would call high maintenance but we still have belly laughing sessions and putting the world to rights.
When I've been in dark times he's there.

It's not against the rules to make new friends.
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Tracey Suntan-King · World Chat Champion Joined: 10 Nov 2012 Karma :

Insensitive? Yup. Understandable (you)? Yup.

You need to have one more conversation with him.

Along the lines of saying that you know he's feeling crap, You've listened, you've tried to understand and help him but........ you obviously haven't been able to help because he's no different. It's time now to leave him to sort this out without you. You're putting some distance between the pair of you for the sake of your own sanity. You wish him well but you are no longer available to him. Ok, thanks, bye.

Oh, and don't forget to sign of with , "Dibbs on your stuff."

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Howling Terror · Super Spammer Joined: 05 Dec 2008 Karma :

^^^Good point.

Some friendships just drift apart in an almost natural way whilst others deserve an honest explanation as TSK points out.
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hellkat · Super Spammer Joined: 12 Jul 2004 Karma :

Just walk away and ignore him for a bit, for your own sanity. Check up on him when you are feeling strong enough to put up with his nonsense.

If he is successful in his quest to top himself, you cannot blame yourself for not being there. You can't monitor him 24/7.

You should never blame yourself for other people's chemical imbalances. You already say you've tried to be there for him. But he is listening to his narration, not yours.

Be there for him when you can, but not to the detriment of your own mental health.
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AshWebster · Brolly Dolly Joined: 05 Jan 2017 Karma :

depression is a weird one. even on normal days when nothing is particularly bad you can end up feeling a horrible sad feeling in the pit of your stomach...

if I hadn't been though some deep life changing stuff then id definitely be a lot more desensitised to the whole situation. though saying that even so I think a lot of the problem is just weak minded people who don't like the fact they cant have what they want.

I just think its a case of mental strength. Life is tough for lots of people, we all have to work hard for a living and yes sometimes the girl of our dreams may break up with us etc. some people accept this as part of life, move on and carry on with their lives.

The less mentally strong take this badly and think the whole world is against them and there's nothing they can do about it.

I am speaking from experience. I have been where some of these people are, and it is just crying for attention. they need to up their views on life and realise whats important.
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Sun Wukong · World Chat Champion Joined: 02 Nov 2014 Karma :

Still a cunt then? Thumbs Up

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Rogerborg · nimbA Joined: 26 Oct 2010 Karma :

If there's a physiological cause then all the stiff upper lips and talk-therapy in the world aren't going to help, any more than they would fix a broken leg.

I'm not unsympathetic to mentals, just wary of being dragged down with them.
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