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Arguing with people is natural, I've had huge arguments with some of my best friends in the past, they're usually short, to the point, and done in minutes, the fallout might last a bit longer but that's natural.
Bickering though? Like school girls?
Not worth it.
Bickering is what siblings do. Bickering goes on and on and on, he said, she said, you did this and I said that.
Honestly fuck that. Not worth it.
Say your bit and be done with it, a friend might be annoyed at first, but if they are a good enough friend they'll come to terms with the fact that you have a difference of opinion on something and then move on...
...or, they wont come to terms with it, and then you're not really compatible as friends. ____________________ I am a bellend, I am a man of constant sorrow, I am a gummy bear, I am a rock. |
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I wonder if perhaps he's invested too much emotional stuff into this because he still believes 'there might be a chance with you' at the end of the day.
He probably thinks you've been giving him mixed signals - whereas in fact you are just trying to be his friend. Tricky situation.
You need to have the face-to-face.
Sit him down and tell him straight "I like you, but I don't fancy you. I enjoy your company and would like to continue being friends. However, this over-dramatic masterpiece that you served me about Paddle Round the Pier - is one of the reasons you are making it difficult for me to remain friends with you. I don't need this emotional crap from a friend. I made a mistake, I double booked. It happens. I could have said 'sorry cancel that event, its too much like hard work', however because you're my friend, I wanted to do both".
Then if he turns around and says he wants more, etc. etc. You tell him again, "I don't fancy you. I want friendship only. If that isn't good enough, just tell me and *shrug* we'll go our separate ways. Its a shame because I like you as a friend.
Basically repeat the word friend and emphasis it. And repeat the same thing over and over to whatever he throws at you.
If he doesn't accept it, its time to walk.
Has to be done face-to-face though. ____________________ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind - Dr. Seuss |
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If that's the case, and OP really wants to piss off said friend for being too dramatic and needy, then just pick a name of someone who you both know. And say sorry mate I couldn't come paddle boating, as you know big Daz from down the pub, well I've been round his place sucking him off all weekend.
That'll really twist him up inside I bet you, and you'll never hear from him again most likely. |
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Needy. Very very needy.
I say this because I recognise myself in those bitching texts of his, and I've struggled for many years to avoid sending ones very similar to that; eventually my pride (sorry!) got the better of me and I refuse to send messages like that if I can possibly stop myself.
Turning up on Sunday after the houseparty, you are going to be made to feel like a bad bastard, before or after the event. So you aren't going to enjoy it, if he is only going to snipe all the way through it.
Am I right in understanding that Paddle round the Pier is a two day event? Personally I would have spent the Saturday (day) at PRTP, invited him to come to housepartyland if he really wanted to (I think he does?) but if he said no thanks (whether he meant it or not), then possibly return to PRTP at some point the following day (post hangover).
Either way, you're going to be "in the doghouse" no matter how reasonable you try to be to justify yourself. And I'm certain you won't be the only one who knows it. No matter what you do, you will be the villain of the piece.
Basically, I agree with Conan. Bickering is for siblings. You've tried to state your point with reasoning and maturity, but he is being a diva.
Go to the houseparty. If he can't drop the slight and makes the Sunday thing a nightmare for you both, then reconsider the terms of your relationship. ____________________ Not nearly as interesting in real life. |
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No one has determined the real reason for his angst.
He thinks you'd rather go to Milton Keynes than meet him.
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I think that was the right thing to do. I'm glad it worked out for you. ____________________ Biking is 1/20th as dangerous as horse riding.
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You looked so happy together... ____________________ Like a Yorkie - I'm not for the girls |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 6 years, 298 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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