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Stop being clingy, girls hate it. Treat em mean, keep em keen ____________________ DRZ400-SM
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Get some exercise... no seriously it has some extremely good psychological benefits.
Eat better again this has a lot of good psychological benefits.
Also learn to meditate, no I don't mean what a lot of people think meditation is. Meditation is removing psychological things, obstacles to you awareness. Your brain has internal chatter, worry and self doubt. You can improve your focus by learning how to filter it out and enter a flow state.
Csikszentmihalyi writes about it. The state you're looking for is flow.
Ever ridden really quickly and hard on a motorbike? You're 100% focused on the task at hand so your internal chatter is silenced. Same thing with tasks you really get into. I can sit by a piano for 2-3 hours and it flies by. ____________________ Spain 2008France 2007Big one 2009 We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will. In the end, your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching. |
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Guesses on who the OP is? |
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M.C wrote: | Guesses on who the OP is? |
Divvy/Crippletron/Despined_By_Ex, obvs.
If you're not happy with yourself, nobody else is going to be happy being around you.
Bin everything that's bad for you, and quit defining yourself by your relationships. Ditch the bitches, booze, junk food, all toxic people, delete your Failbooks, switch off the intertubes, go down the gym, get super buff, fight crime as a costumed vigilante. Chicks dig that. ____________________ Biking is 1/20th as dangerous as horse riding.
GONE: HN125-8, LF-250B, GPz 305, GPZ 500S, Burgman 400 // RIDING: F650GS (800 twin), Royal Enfield Bullet Electra 500 AVL, Ninja 250R because racebike |
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Rogerborg wrote: | M.C wrote: | Guesses on who the OP is? |
Divvy/Crippletron/Despined_By_Ex, obvs.
If you're not happy with yourself, nobody else is going to be happy being around you.
Bin everything that's bad for you, and quit defining yourself by your relationships. Ditch the bitches, booze, junk food, all toxic people, delete your Failbooks, switch off the intertubes, go down the gym, get super buff, fight crime as a costumed vigilante. Chicks dig that. |
And you will live longer (or will it just feel like it. ) ____________________ Triumph Trophy Launch Edition |
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Pol (is that you in there?)
You need to work on your self-esteem, dude.
That is why you are "clingy" - and at least you recognise this. That's a good start. You just have to try and STOP yourself doing that. Because you know you are defining yourself by your success (or otherwise) with women.
So a good thing would to be single for a bit, what you need to do is to define Who is Pol?
Instead of being Pol the pointless adjunct to [somebint], you need to take time out to be on your own, and to discover who you are, what you are really about. Do stuff on your own or with your mates (male or female, not all girls have to be a conquest) ... and do things you like to do (apart from X-Box ) things which require you to actually leave the house and engage with the world around you.
Do one thing that you've never done before on a regular basis (weekly/monthly/whatever). See where it takes you. If it doesn't take you anywhere interesting, do something else. Feeling as though you are in a rut of pointless existence never helps, so you have to force yourself out into the real world and change it yourself. Cos nobody else is gonna.
Then you can apply that strength of character to a future relationship and it works much better, once you are confident that you are a person in your own right, and don't have to wait round for [whoever] to show up/come home to validate you.
It will also make you stronger to deal with whatever other shit is going on, e.g., the cripplization or any ensuing court case/NHS tribunal. If you win, you win; if you don't, you grumble a bit and move on.
Big thing is to learn not to grumble about your negatives all the time.
I know it sounds really trite, but think for just a few moments about people who have less than yourself: people with no roof over their head that sleep rough on the streets every night, how must that feel, when you are warm and dry in your home playing X-Box; or people whose loved ones were burnt to death in Grenfell, people who went to bed assuming they would wake up in the morning and pop down to get the paper or a croissant, and never woke back up, or fought to get down the stairs, or to save their dog or their cat, and died because of it. People who live inside a volcano and carry sulphurous rocks to the surface to try and earn money to pay for their mother's hospital bills. People who clean toilets for a living, how do they even bring themselves to do that? Is any of those things you? No. So be glad and consider what positives you can add to your CV of Life.
You're still alive, Pol, and you have so much more than many people in this world - even when you think you have nothing, you have more than many, including those who have everything, even they're not 100% happy with their lot in life. Be grateful for those differences in your life.
And work on finding out who Pol really is, when he's not being Pol-someone's-fella or Pol-the-crip. ____________________ Not nearly as interesting in real life. |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 6 years, 99 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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