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notabikeranym...
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PostPosted: 13:49 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Ex GF trying to get me fired at work Reply with quote

Today I take a sick day off work because I'm feeling fucked up. I tell my girlfriend I probably won't be able to see her this weekend because I'm not feeling well. She flips.

Side note, we have a history of her flipping the fuck out at me over everything and we've been very on/off.

She's now my Ex (permanently this time because this takes the piss), and she just sent an email to my workplace accusing me of harassing her, claiming that I met her at a conference at work and have been stalking her since, using the details I got from her as a customer.

Truth is, I met this nutcase on fucking tinder. She doesn't even have a job anywhere near the sector that I work in and couldn't have possibly met me at any conference.

I've seen the email because I'm set up to work from home on some days.

My manager's already seen it and not responded to any communications from me yet (They're having meetings all day pretty much).

She's taken it way too far and now I want to make sure this bitch doesn't have anything to do with me or my life moving forward. I'm in a pretty fucking good position right now and I don't need a crazy immature bitch fucking up my life lol.

Legal advice, restraining order? What do?
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PostPosted: 13:53 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Get copys of any and all interactions including a snapshot of her Tinder etc. Good luck! Laughing
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PostPosted: 15:09 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Re: Ex GF trying to get me fired at work Reply with quote

Meef wrote:
What do?

Get to church, find yourself a nice girl.

I wouldn't over-react with your work, just laugh it off unless and until they treat it seriously.
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PostPosted: 15:10 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Go straight to the Police, No messing around with emails here and there, just the Police. Inform your employer in words of one syllable and few sentences that you have done so. The ex is the aggressor and should be treated as such.
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PostPosted: 15:59 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mmm, I would try and get a crime number, but would still go for laughing it off with the company at first.

You wouldn't want to give the impression that this is an ongoing situation. Better to be the guy who dated a girl from the crazy end of tinder once than the guy with a proper nutter stalker who knows where the office is. Nobody wants that around them, regardless of what they might say officially.
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PostPosted: 16:00 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Update, spoke to the main operations manager at my company who was made aware of this.

He's told me not to worry and this isn't the first time she's contacted my work making accusations of harassment. Told her (formally etc) to go to the police with the matter and contact them at a private email address and not the public company one.

He empathised with me that his brother is going through the same thing with a crazy ex who is taking custody of the kids.

Thankfully I'm not in that deep lol.

He's let me know I've got his and the company's full support and is sending me the emails so that I can go to the police with evidence of harassment.

Less stressed out now, but still need to keep this bitch off my back just in case she lies to the police as well and causes me more hassle. (Not the first time she has threatened police).

Lads, bitches be crazy. I was single for 5 solid years before this chick because my other ex was crazy. Let this be a lesson, no matter how many years you're out of the dating game, you'll always bump into crazy.

I just need to learn how to spot it sooner and get the fuck out before it's too late.

Should I go to the police or not? I feel like going to them would drag this process out a lot and she could make a bunch of fucked up lies about me too (she's so good at that). Will it make things worse or is it better to inform them I have a crazy bitch emailing my workplace?
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PostPosted: 16:28 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Meef wrote:
He's told me not to worry and this isn't the first time she's contacted my work making accusations of harassment.

Wut? Is she swiping right through your workplace alphabetically? Laughing

That's a relief, it could easily have gone sour if it reached some #MeToo activist in HR.


Meef wrote:
I just need to learn how to spot it sooner and get the fuck out before it's too late.

Hot + single is a pretty good sign. No more swiping right on push-up bras and duck faces. Tut Tut

Meef wrote:
Should I go to the police or not?

Yes. Get it logged and a crime number issued. Tell them that you expect it to be No Further Actioned at this stage, but want it recorded in case it escalates.

The offence is Malicious Communication Act 1988 S1 in case they try to fob you off.
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PostPosted: 16:48 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk

Good luck.

Do not rely on the police.

Those morons are conditioned to err on the female's side and have as much tack in these matters as a bull in a china shop.

Males do more harm than females the stats say...
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PostPosted: 17:18 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

MCN wrote:

Those morons are conditioned to err on the female's side and have as much tack in these matters as a bull in a china shop.

Males do more harm than females the stats say...


They're not wrong. When did a female bull ever wreck a china shop?

Or scatter tacks on the floor?
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PostPosted: 17:49 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tinder is full of relationshit detritus. The older you get, the worse it gets - it's like looking through the rubbish pile for the least disgusting broken thing to take home and make it yours.

Online dating - avoid it like the fucking plague.
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PostPosted: 18:44 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Triton Thrasher wrote:
MCN wrote:

Those morons are conditioned to err on the female's side and have as much tack in these matters as a bull in a china shop.

Males do more harm than females the stats say...


They're not wrong. When did a female bull ever wreck a china shop?

Or scatter tacks on the floor?


Edit: Tact.

A female bull is a cow.. Rolling Eyes

And anyway, tacks scattered over the floor would make anyone unsteady.

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PostPosted: 18:49 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

UncleBFester wrote:
Tinder is full of relationshit detritus. The older you get, the worse it gets - it's like looking through the rubbish pile for the least disgusting broken thing toi take him and make it yours.

Online dating - avoid it like the fucking plague.


Smile

Aaaannnnd what if the woman was your Ex who was soooo delightedly happy to get shot of the curmudgeon she'd married?

She might be an absolutely wonderful person who had been hood-winked by a monster all those years ago but had went the distance in the sham for the sake of children's up-bringing.
Or due to financial constraints having given up her career to play mother of the children and housewife to Victorian Dad.

But you have the good advice on tap. Smile
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PostPosted: 19:18 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Meef wrote:
He's told me not to worry

The bitches be crazy clause of the bro code Thumbs Up
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PostPosted: 20:10 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

As you are now a seasoned forum member, you know the officially procedure. Tits, Gary, ride off into the sunset.

I’m so glad that I narrowly missed out on all this internet dating lark.
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PostPosted: 20:17 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

as she's mental you should post a few pics so we know who to avoid.

all in the name of safety of course
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PostPosted: 20:27 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Give her the impression you've got over it.

Invite yourself round to hers for Netflix and chill.
Get a bit kinky; suggest you tie her up with silk scarves.
Jam a molotov cocktail up there.
Set light and stand well back.
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PostPosted: 20:33 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rogerborg wrote:
Meef wrote:
Should I go to the police or not?
Yes. Get it logged and a crime number issued. Tell them that you expect it to be No Further Actioned at this stage, but want it recorded in case it escalates.

That. Thumbs Up

You want them to hear (and log) your side of the story first.

You could also ask for their advice on what you should do if crazy bitch contacts you or your employer again.
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PostPosted: 21:35 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

dydey90 wrote:
As you are now a seasoned forum member, you know the officially procedure. Tits, Gary


I'm a little surprised/disappointed it took 12 replies to mention this.
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PostPosted: 22:50 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

MCN wrote:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk

This really disturbs me.

Why does he write with his left hand, but have his pistol in a right hand draw holster?
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PostPosted: 22:59 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rogerborg wrote:
MCN wrote:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk

This really disturbs me.

Why does he write with his left hand, but have his pistol in a right hand draw holster?

Ambidextrous obviously Rolling Eyes
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PostPosted: 23:15 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

You put your dick in crazy.











Didn't you?

You're wasting your time Roger, they aren't listening. Laughing
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PostPosted: 23:36 - 11 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

grr666 wrote:
You put your dick in crazy.











Didn't you?

You're wasting your time Roger, they aren't listening. Laughing

You put your dick in crazy but you don't tell them where you live, work, hang out, socialise, occasionally frequent, and you absolutely wear a rubber.
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PostPosted: 08:48 - 12 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

M.C wrote:

You put your dick in crazy but you don't tell them where you live, work, hang out, socialise, occasionally frequent, and you absolutely wear a rubber.


Wearing rubber Wub

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PostPosted: 09:36 - 12 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

Polarbear wrote:

Meghan (fucking) Markle again??? Cool
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PostPosted: 14:57 - 13 May 2018    Post subject: Reply with quote

hellkat wrote:
Something something something wot made me hard.


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