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hellkat wrote: | Yo, Asharin.
How you getting on, man?
Hope things are panning out a bit better for you now.
(probably not)
Take it easy, babe. Don't let the madness get to you.
Hope you manage to hold onto your kid and elbow the mother, before you REALLY get in the quicksand and can't get out again.
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Uhh slightly better. They let her out of the mental health unit last week, seems more stable on whatever meds she's on, though not 100%
Read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder after some of the posts here, and looking back on her various actions over the past couple of years, and recently...I'd say it's a good bet she suffers from it.
Baby girl is still with me, though getting supervised visits with her mum for now, moving to unsupervised soon (that's when we'll see if she's stable or not I guess...if she refuses to bring her back..)
She's being less annoying at the moment, perhaps she realises that on my say so she could lose contact with our daughter for good, unless she took it to court.
Still feeling a little stressed, but I'm a big boy, I can handle my shit (just) ____________________ I can't sing: https://laughinginpurgatory.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/laughing-in-purgatory
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Asharin wrote: | hellkat wrote: | Yo, Asharin.
How you getting on, man?
Hope things are panning out a bit better for you now.
(probably not)
Take it easy, babe. Don't let the madness get to you.
Hope you manage to hold onto your kid and elbow the mother, before you REALLY get in the quicksand and can't get out again.
*mwah* |
Uhh slightly better. They let her out of the mental health unit last week, seems more stable on whatever meds she's on, though not 100%
Read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder after some of the posts here, and looking back on her various actions over the past couple of years, and recently...I'd say it's a good bet she suffers from it.
Baby girl is still with me, though getting supervised visits with her mum for now, moving to unsupervised soon (that's when we'll see if she's stable or not I guess...if she refuses to bring her back..)
She's being less annoying at the moment, perhaps she realises that on my say so she could lose contact with our daughter for good, unless she took it to court.
Still feeling a little stressed, but I'm a big boy, I can handle my shit (just) |
NPD can be due to learned behaviour or a coping mechanism.
No excuse but it is the way some folk are wired.
Some mental disorder is chemical, some from injury and some even from side-effects of other medical illness.
The big deal is that it is not always easy to diagnose and treat.
Not recognising the problem is why folk do not seek help. They see themselves as OK and it's all the other people who are wrong.
Mental health is mental.
Good luck OP. ____________________ Disclaimer: The comments above may be predicted text and not necessarily the opinion of MCN. |
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She doesn't come from Cornwall, your ex, does she?
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Right so, figured it was time for an update in the continuing train wreck that is my life...
So anyway, things had settled down a bit, The ex got her own place and was having supervised visits with our daughter. Things went well and social services were happy to move on to unsupervised visits, and we had a 3 month transition plan on daughter going back to her mother (the ex) but under supervision from social services. The last day of the first week, she had our daughter on the friday and was supposed to return her at 6pm but refused to saying that the baby belonged with her.
I called social services, they went out, and decided that while the ex had gone against the plan, that our daughter was safe and they'd keep a close eye on her and make sure I got contact. Which, to be fair to the ex, narcissistic bitch that she is, she hasn't stopped that and I have had regular contact.
Social services still monitoring the situation, and while we've had a few arguments over trivial shit, it's not been too bad...so for now that's kinda settled.
Just me and my 12yr old son now, and occasionally daughter when I have her over to stay so feeling much more settled.
I did sign up on POF, had a couple dates, deleted profile...toooooo much crazy there, and I'm not sticking my dick in crazy again.
Friend suggested 'Bumble' app, signed up, got talking to a woman who incidentally had also just signed up...been dating two weeks now, and all seems good so far..no sign of crazy even if she is only 4ft11 (no 'small woman syndrome' I mean there )
Of course, not letting the ex know yet, she may find some way to make out that me having a new girlfriend is harmful to the baby...not that the new GF will be meeting any of the kids anytime soon anyway!
Also, due to not driving, I had a need to be able to fit more shopping on a bike (I don't drive), my tail bag and tank bag weren't cutting it, so as of Thursday I'll be riding a Honda Dullville 700..Oh well. ____________________ I can't sing: https://laughinginpurgatory.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/laughing-in-purgatory
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Jewlio Rides Again LLB wrote: | kerr wrote: |
That really does boil my piss, if that was the other way round etc.
Just how can they let her just have the child when your the proven stable parent. |
They wouldn't do anything if it was the other way round. As long as there's no risk to the child, it's a matter for the family courts. |
Correct, my 12yr old lives with me, because Social services removed him from his mum due to neglect, they even took her to court to make it permanent until he's 18, so it worked in my favour that time.
In this case, things are going okay now and I'm getting regular contact, daughter is happy and healthy so happy for things to remain as they are for now, but if I see any signs of neglect or abuse I'll take her to court for custody...and she knows this..probably why she's being pleasant lately.. ____________________ I can't sing: https://laughinginpurgatory.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/laughing-in-purgatory
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[quote="Itchy"]??[quote="Asharin"]
Sad story for sure, & it's hard to say to another guy to be more careful who he chooses next time (if there is a next time), but as l'm not very tolerant of any arsehole who's obviously a flakey user, l would have used her & abused her then cast her back into the sad black hole that she emanated from!
PS, have you tried homosexual encounters, they seem to have more feminine qualities than the women of today??? |
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Further update.
Didn't work out with 4ft11 woman, she felt guilty moving on from her dead husband, oh well. Can't blame her for that.
My niece committed suicide in March, crazy ex then decided the DAY I GOT BACK from funeral, to say she was sorry and wanted us to try again.
Umm no.
Then proceeded to harras me up until late July, multiple messages every day about getting back together, not taking no for an answer. Because I said no, it's now all my fault our daughter won't have both parents together as she grows up (of course!) saying, 'but I was I'll, mentally unwell, can't you understand?'
Of course I do, doesn't mean I want to go back there again, I'm not stupid...her actions destroyed any love I had for her.
Of course that means I'm a bad parent, so she's pretty much reduced any contact I have with my daughter to the bare minimum (1 day a week) and social services do nothing, saying for contact I need to go the legal route.
I'm my autistic sons carer, I can't afford the legal route, and apparently I don't qualify for legal aid.
This sucks
Don't know why I fucking bother. ____________________ I can't sing: https://laughinginpurgatory.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/laughing-in-purgatory
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Asharin wrote: | Further update.
Didn't work out with 4ft11 woman, she felt guilty moving on from her dead husband, oh well. Can't blame her for that.
My niece committed suicide in March, crazy ex then decided the DAY I GOT BACK from funeral, to say she was sorry and wanted us to try again.
Umm no.
Then proceeded to harras me up until late July, multiple messages every day about getting back together, not taking no for an answer. Because I said no, it's now all my fault our daughter won't have both parents together as she grows up (of course!) saying, 'but I was I'll, mentally unwell, can't you understand?'
Of course I do, doesn't mean I want to go back there again, I'm not stupid...her actions destroyed any love I had for her.
Of course that means I'm a bad parent, so she's pretty much reduced any contact I have with my daughter to the bare minimum (1 day a week) and social services do nothing, saying for contact I need to go the legal route.
I'm my autistic sons carer, I can't afford the legal route, and apparently I don't qualify for legal aid.
This sucks
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Sounds like you're doing the right thing. She sounds like a psycho. Don't fall into the trap of bad mouthing her in front of your daughter when you are together, it doesn't lead anywhere good.
Just keep reassuring your daughter that you want to spend more time with her and hopefully time will thaw out the psycho and make her realise the error of her ways.
Best of luck ____________________ Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 4 years, 240 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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