Problems with Stepson

Johnnythefox · Traffic Copper Joined: 01 Dec 2016 Karma :

You're screwed, she will always side with him and you will always be the bad guy, never be a step parent...

R1stu · Shrek! Joined: 12 Mar 2003 Karma :

Well it kicked off. She went off for 3 hours. Nipper has agreed we can keep all the money from the bike.

If we are lucky we might get 900. It a 2017 lexmoto Michigan. It's in fair condition, usual Chinese rust on downpipes and top fork tube.

I told her if things don't improve I will leave after holiday. I said after 1st instance of 5heft should not be using the tin, but she promised he won't do it again, and itw the easiest way to save change.

Its basically our spending money tin, I've decided to put my money now direct on a post office card.
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BigTim · Trackday Trickster Joined: 29 Sep 2017 Karma :

Sorry to hear this dude,

Been there done that.

start planning now for the break up. keep some savings for yourself so you've got money when you need to move out/split up.

life is too short to put up with this shit from a juvenile cunt like him.

its hard but worth it once through it.

R1stu · Shrek! Joined: 12 Mar 2003 Karma :

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stevo as b4 · World Chat Champion Joined: 17 Jul 2003 Karma :

Enjoy the holiday away from the young twat of a son, and immediately after or now start saving up/hiding away enough money for a deposit on a flat, and start looking at lettings etc.

That way as soon as the next fuck up/argument/theft or slightest issue happens you can pack your bag and walk out the door to sign the lease. If I had to I'd stay a month in a travel lodge to avoid listening to another word of shit from the Mum or the son.

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Lord Percy · World Chat Champion Joined: 03 Aug 2012 Karma :

One of my younger brothers is a bit like this. 26 years old, lived with parents forever and never pays rent/food money (even though he works full time). He has a good education and a chemistry degree, yet he's fucked around so much that he now works in a care home, literally cleaning old people's arses and feeding them pills.

He always has an excuse like he's saving up for something, or has a debt to pay elsewhere, etc etc, anything to make sure he continues getting everything for free at home. My dad hates it, but mum is a pushover. No idea why, me and my twin brother always got a proper bollocking if we were out of line.

He doesn't have a whiff of ADHD either, he's just a sociopathic cunt who'll take anything he can and never offers anything in return because, "Well if you didn't want to give/help/do anything for me then you shouldn't have done it in the first place."

He's perfected the art of manipulation, and knows exactly how to delegate blame onto other people so nothing ever appears to be his fault. The latest was, "Yeah mum and dad know I'm driving my car with no MOT", said in such a way as if to suggest that it'll be their fault if something bad happens.

He's the epitome of the millennial waster who thinks the world owes him everything.

Sorry, can't offer much advice, just thought I'd add a bit of a consolation story. I think a bit of honest tough love is the answer. My dad reckons he's gonna reach the tipping point soon, overrule my mum's soft touch policy and go into ultimate dad-rage mode and cause a massive family upset.

Grubscrew · Scooby Slapper Joined: 23 Dec 2018 Karma :

Interesting read.
Mmmm, ADHD, never had a thing like that in my day. Yes we had the odd naughty boy, but that was either dealt with by punishment, or he was palmed off to a ‘special school’.
There is zero respect for any one or anyone’s belongings.
It’s ok to blame a disorder which makes it alright to do something others detest, ie misbehave.
I don’t know how this guy carries on.
You could sit him down and chat to him and find out why he thinks it’s ok to nik money. I would put a note in the tin and when he’s busy retrieving it he can read the writing on the post it note.......thanks for stealing my holiday spending money. This is your final chance.
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Andy_Pagin · World Chat Champion Joined: 08 Nov 2010 Karma :

ADHD? Sounds more like he's a selfish lazy thief. No doubt her Majesty will eventually provide him with free food and lodgings.
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Robby · Dirty Old Man Joined: 16 May 2002 Karma :

For those without ADHD, it can be best characterised as a state of perpetual boredom. You can't get interested in many things, you can't concentrate, so you're bored and a bit restless.

In children, this can show up as the kid being an annoying little shit. Combination of child energy levels and nothing to concentrate on, so bouncing around like a pinball instead.

Medication is simple and effective, using stimulants. The hyperactivity bit of reduces through teens into twenties, or gets more controllable as the brain develops. It is also common for people with the condition to have a few things they can absolutely focus on, with hours of uninterruptible concentration.

Which is a long winded way of saying, bollocks is it ADHD with that kid. That would be a valid excuse if he was 8. Now he's an adult with an excuse, and needs to learn that actions have consequences.

Sister Sledge · World Chat Champion Joined: 17 Aug 2018 Karma :

I wish they'd bring back the stocks.
Gone too fucking soft in this country. People are given too many chances.
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Robby · Dirty Old Man Joined: 16 May 2002 Karma :

I did those things too. Not the two screens thing though. Its hard enough to concentrate on one thing, without another thing trying to distract me.

Easy test. Go to a party and have some speed. If you want to sit down and read a book while everyone else is jumping around, you have ADHD.

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Polarbear · Super Spammer Joined: 24 Feb 2007 Karma :

Someone does something naughty? Give it initials and call it an illness. Evil or Very Mad

Now I'm sure there are people who really have whatever disorder the alphabet spaghetti has fallen in today but the vogue of having a medical reason for every transgression masks the IJAC a lot of the youth of today suffer from.

IJAC = I'm just a cunt.
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myvision · Scooby Slapper Joined: 26 May 2016 Karma :

One of my brothers started taking money out the change jars and before long he was pawning everything that wasn't locked away.

Your stepson is 22 kick him out or insist on rent.
22 isn't a kid he's a grown man he needs teaching that actions have consequences.
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