Problems with Stepson

[R1stu]

[P.]

I've got bored with this one... I say just leave them all, screw that shit. Go enjoy yourself. I couldn't take all that shit at home.

[Fin]

How do you know he only gets paid once a building job is complete? I wouldn't trust what he says.

I'd say he knows well that his Mum won't kick him out, he's got the power as neither you or his Mum can make him do stuff.

Don't bother with the bins and stuff, that's the thing you make a child do and as I think Pete says, the longer he leaves it he knows it will wind you up and he'll fell more control.

If you really want to stay then I'd say to to try and help him get an extra job, something to keep him busy rather than stealing and blowing money on drugs. From the sounds of it he's a real lazy shit and it wont work.

Leave but obviously try and stay on good terms, at least with the ones who behaved.

[WD Forte]

ADHD?
bone idle more like

If he does have ADHD
"symptoms such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness"
should he be allowed to ride a bike?

so he got issues, we all got issues man

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[CBFcarl]

I've been with the Mrs 11 and a half years, and my lad is actually my stepson. He has Aspergers (properly diagnosed, etc etc).

We have the occasional flare up in the house, but the difference is that my mrs backs me up. She may not necessarily agree with everything, but if it gets to the point where I am stepping up, she knows that I've had enough. And, the same works the other way. Fortunately, my lad is well behaved, and more times than not when something is going on, just sitting down and talking to him on the same level works wonders.

Having said that, if he stole from us, I'd sell his stuff to reimburse the cost. Without hesitation or a shadow of doubt. I've always taught him that his actions, positive OR negative, will always have repercussions. He has grown up to be a good lad (16 in a couple of months). Again, IF he was 22 and doing that, he'd be out. He can go and stay at his dads if that is the behaviour that he wants to carry on with.

I think that there are two issues here. The main one being that you and your partner aren't on the same page. You have to be when it comes to kids. The second one is that the kid can see that you aren't on the same page and is exploiting that situation to meet his own ends. ADHD or not, he still knows what is right and wrong.

Good luck fella.
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[hellkat]

Lock him in the cupboard under the stairs without any dinner.
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[R1stu]

Bikes been sold, dropped off today £900 paid off almost everything he owes now.
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[Polarbear]

[hellkat]

Or break it, to just annoy you.
Resolving your problem the way you have, you may have made a rod for your own back. Not sure what the answer might have been, but selling his bike is only going to have made him mad, and I expect to hear of his retaliatory behaviour in the near future.
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[Riejufixing]

[Pete.]

[stevo as b4]

Pete speaks sense here! If the kid let his bike payments become outstanding then IMO it shows he wasn't even that serious about keeping hold of his bike or wanting to continue to work hard for the things he wants.

Sounds like he'd long given up on bikes when they started hurting his wallet and he wasn't able to get you to bail him out. He doesn't seem to have any sense of wanting to work hard in a job for anything else either in terms of material possessions or future goals etc.

All he wants is to eek out a sponging existence on hand outs and what he can steal from family.

If I'd had a bike or any other possession that meant everything to me then I'd go to whatever lengths in terms of going without stuff to keep it, short of having a roof over my head.

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[Riejufixing]

[duhawkz]

Beside that hes already demonstrated he is not beyond stealing money out of tins left around for saving money.

How long do you think it would be before this money started walking off on its own.

And I bet he'd caveat it with "whats the problem it was for my bike anyway, i just decided to spend it something else"
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