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Posted: 00:42 - 28 Nov 2019 Post subject: Negotiating Divorce.. Oh joy.. |
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Ok, so Decree Nisi applied for following 2 years separation, now comes the tricky bit...
Family home was split 45/55 in her favour almost 2 years ago and with my 45% I was able to buy a do-er upper (house) while she is living in a house provided by new boyfriend. We have some other shared assets that will be OK to split, although a lot was stuff I bought pre-marriage. I have suggested a mediator to get a consent form sorted but she is insisting on using a solicitor - we have 3 kids that I see 2 nights/week.
I believe all her needs are being met through her part-time work, money she gets from investments plus her rent-free accomm. She also has her 55% of my house earning interest. I expect though that her lawyer will advise to come after a share of my modest private pension.
Is it possible for me to negotiate direct with her lawyer - assuming we both complete form E or would that be foolhardy? At the moment she's been wrong-footed by me saying no I don't have a solicitor I'll sort it myself.
PS I have though received some legal advice and I've read quite a bit too.
PPS This is proving a fascinating albeit scary'project' ____________________ Now: A100, GT250A, XJ598, FZ750
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Posted: 10:00 - 29 Nov 2019 Post subject: |
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Not that us divorcees are bitter or anything....
Sister Sledge is right. Get a good family solicitor or you could find yourself screwed down and raped. ____________________ Triumph Trophy Launch Edition |
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Posted: 11:53 - 29 Nov 2019 Post subject: |
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Thanks all. I do have a good (I hope) solicitor. She recommended we do mediation if possible, so I'll be pressing for that in the first instance.
If my wife won't budge then I guess I will have to get the lawyer to take a look at all the proposals. I have a shrewd idea of what I'm in for..
PS The ex-mate is a reasonable sort but has been hood-winked by her. If he hasn't already he will soon regret his decision to take her on. Naturally though I now think he's a cnut. ____________________ Now: A100, GT250A, XJ598, FZ750
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How come your house has been split but nothing else? In my divorce everything was agreed at the same time.
Edited to clarify, no it wasn't agreed, I was told what I had to give her all at the same time. ____________________ Triumph Trophy Launch Edition |
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Polarbear wrote: | How come your house has been split but nothing else? In my divorce everything was agreed at the same time.
Edited to clarify, no it wasn't agreed, I was told what I had to give her all at the same time. |
We were at the point of selling to move together when she left. That sale fell through but I got another buyer as she categorically said 'I'm never coming back to live in this awful 'house' . I wanted to provide her with some funds to buy a house for her and the kids (otherwise I know who would be footing the rental bill) and me with enough to buy want I needed. She then dicked about in rental for a few months pretending to buy a house then moved in to boyfriend's 'spare' house.
It was in a way a pre-emptive strike, only time will tell if that was wise. ____________________ Now: A100, GT250A, XJ598, FZ750
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Thanks I appreciate the sentiments. I didn't think I could despise anyone like I do that feckless whore and the cunt she now hangs about with..
.. ah that's better. ____________________ Now: A100, GT250A, XJ598, FZ750
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A100man wrote: |
Thanks I appreciate the sentiments. I didn't think I could despise anyone like I do that feckless whore and the cunt she now hangs about with..
.. ah that's better. |
Don't say that while in mediation. For some reason they seem to take exception to slagging off the other party. Can't think why. ____________________ Triumph Trophy Launch Edition |
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A100man wrote: |
Thanks I appreciate the sentiments. I didn't think I could despise anyone like I do that feckless whore and the cunt she now hangs about with..
.. ah that's better. |
I've been watching Live PD recently.
No matter how bad it gets you'll probably not sink as low as the depths those fucking Muricans get to. 🤣 ____________________ Disclaimer: The comments above may be predicted text and not necessarily the opinion of MCN. |
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Posted: 16:22 - 03 Jan 2020 Post subject: |
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Difficult day today.. I wanted to take the kids to youth hostel at half-term, but when I put in my request she announce she's taking my kids to Tenerife.. with her boyfriend. Apparently the kids think he's great and they are looking forward to it and there's not a thing in the world I can do about it.
If I try to persuade them not to go because he's a cunt, that does me no favours either.. So I have to wish them to have a good time and suck it up..
Happy fucking New Year. ____________________ Now: A100, GT250A, XJ598, FZ750
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 4 years, 111 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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