Struggling with contentment?

[hellkat]

I might have to have a think about this, cos in general I am easily pleased and unambitious, so contentment per se has always seemed to come easily, and then something else eventually presents itself to entertain myself with.

OP does raise some interesting things that I never make the time to assess within myself, so I tend to operate on a fairly shallow level.

But ... contentment vs discontent ... that may be where a lot of my so-called problems arise

I shall return to this subject in due course.
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[chickenstrip]

[Moth]

There are 4x main subconscious character traits. They are :

1. Dominant
2. Submissive
3. Friendly
4. Hostile

If you can imagine that your 'persona' is made up out of a percentage of each of these traits, then you might be able to recognise yourself & maybe how others perceive you.

Let me attempt to explain :

Someone who is mostly dominant & friendly is the leader of the gang that you're in. Being mostly dominant & friendly doesn't mean that persona cannot be hostile & submissive, it just means that they are mostly dominant & mostly friendly, otherwise they'd never make leader of the gang status.

Someone who is mostly hostile & submissive is best described as "Billy No Mates", basically 'cos no one in their right mind wants to be with them, not even other hostile submissive's . . . .

Then we have the mostly dominant & hostile. How does that work then? It works incredibly well, as people who are mostly dominant & hostile make up the majority of successful entrepreneurs . . .

If you get my drift so far then I have no doubt that you will most likely want to place yourself firmly in the submissive & friendly camp. Don't worry about it because this is what approx 80% of us think we are, when in reality the alternative reality that is BCF is mostly populated by hostile submissives . . . .

Look deep inside yourselve's folks. Peel back the layers of what you "think" is your reality. If your life is shit, it is because YOU are shit.
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[chickenstrip]

[Nobby the Bastard]

[Bhud]

[Easy-X]

Indeed, what so-called self-help book did you steal that from?
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[hellkat]

Nah, see ... I'd specify myself as dominant and friendly.
But I don't have a pack, so I don't see myself as a leader.
Just an overopinionated know-it-all.


... and yes, those other two sides occasionally do crop up
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[hellkat]

[hellkat]

[Nobby the Bastard]

I developed a lot of contentment by taking loads of drugs and having a good time. There seems to be a lot in favour of halucinogenics and combating depression.


My life from about 12-21 was a bit shit, btw.
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[hellkat]

I expect quite a lot of people have a similar experience, Nobster.
I certainly did.
Got to box it up and put it away.
Using it for an excuse to not live "your best life" is for losers.

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[Moth]

[hellkat]

[Nobby the Bastard]

The simple answer to that is 'you can't.

People are too complicated to categorise.
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[hellkat]

[hellkat]

[Moth]

[Moth]

[hellkat]

My human friends are giving me the gyp at present.
They crave my company, but I do not wish for life to become more complicated than it already is.
So its easier (for me) if I spend some me-time indoors being girlie.

I would actually like to be dancing to Play that Funky Music and drinking gin, but for the sake of standards, I will forego that pleasure until another time.
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[Moth]

[hellkat]

I am the cause of turmoil in my own life,
Of that, I have no doubt whatsoever.
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[Tracey Suntan-King]

[UncleFester]

[Easy-X]

The only testable aspect of a person is IQ everything else can be talked about but is very hard to accurately quantify. AFAIK these are agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, neuroticism and openness to experience. So one could be an extrovert, an introvert or somewhere in between but one wouldn't normally be both at once.
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