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Marcg868 World Chat Champion
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Posted: 20:40 - 19 Feb 2006 Post subject: Dealing with a breakup? |
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Any advice to getting over splitting up with gf? been together just over a year, and fell in love. Basically split up due to her family not liking me. She still loves me, i still love her, but her family wont let her see me again, and my mum wont let me see her again.
Just feel so so down, not stopped crying today, was fine when was out on bikes with the lads, but when i got home and im on my own it just hits me again. ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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Posted: 21:14 - 19 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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It'll take time mate. Then you'll get nailed and sleep with someone and that will help a little.
Seriously though, it will take time. Or your other option is to stand up to her parents. Which I would do. |
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Posted: 21:31 - 19 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Long long story, all kicked off when a biker mate of mine wanted to go meet her (gf) this was friday, so we went in, i said hi to lynz and said im going stay out your way, and she said thats fine. So was all fine, till get home and gf texts saying Dad n Her step mum werent pleased me going in, becoz they thought i was checking up on my gf, which me n her know that wasnt the case. Comes to sat i go in, me n lynz are being a bit off wi eachother, so go sit down with some lads,she comes over glass collecting, so try give her a hug, she has none of it, so obviously im a bit more annoyed and the lads im with start asking why, so i tell them whats up. And they say thats a bit weird in it, and saying do they not like you or some her family? and i dont answer, and then her dad starts having a go at that lad sayin he should not bad mouth her family then has a go at me. I didnt say anything about her family.
So ended up arguing wi him ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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yambabe World Chat Champion
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Posted: 22:59 - 19 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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That's the lamest excuse I've heard for a while to be honest.
Her family "won't let" her see you? How they going to stop her? Lock her up? Chastity knickers? How old is this girl ffs?
If I recall your relationship has been going downhill for a while, with her wanting to go out with her friends and not see you. I think she's using her family as an excuse and trying to let you down gently.
I know it's hard, but the best thing you can do is walk away and stay away. It'll hurt, but that great cliche "time is a great healer" happens to be true. If she is your first real love you may never forget her but as you get to know other people and get on with your life it will get better. ____________________ Sod falling in love, I wanna fall in chocolate. |
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Marcg868 World Chat Champion
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Posted: 23:46 - 19 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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She's playing with my head, she says she loves me and wants me back, but her family wont let her. She's 18 and she is having her family run her life for her. They were the ones that ruined this relationship. i need to get the pain away, sick of crying. ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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msgander Brolly Dolly
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ZRX61 Victor Meldrew
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Posted: 18:02 - 20 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Grow a pair..... |
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Absolute_Kwackers Renault 5 Driver
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Posted: 19:29 - 20 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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lol ZRX!
know the feeling mate, its been 3 months and still not over the last female, a lot happier now still get the red mist when i see her with her BF, but eventually i realised if its going to happen it will happen, maybe not today, tomorrow or next year but if its right it will happen!
The best thing i found was to use all the anger, misery, stress etc etc and put it to good use, focus on something different, i used gym and getting fit and im a lot more focused, working more to buy more things i love like my bike!
everything takes time, if you have good mates they will help aswell i got some great mates who are good listeners etc, and are good drinkers aswell lol, get out and enjoy yourself, life is too short!
hope that kinda helps! |
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Marcg868 World Chat Champion
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COLINWALL wrote: | aww that sick of crying bit made me feel for you
ive recently been dumped too and dont have any answers but im glad i dont feel as bad as you do.
maybe you shd try to get her back
maybe you shd try to get another girl
maybe you shd be on your own for a bit and enjoy your freedom
i dont know as ive got no idea for myself either
im glad u shared with us even if some insensitive prick comes along in a bit to take the piss
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Well basically, we've decided, or rather she's begged me to get back with her. Had day off work today, had been feeling shit past few days even before this bollocks between me n her.
Ive said my points to her,
1. I want her to make her own descions, her family DO NOT make the choices for her.
2. Make time for me, friends & family etc evenly
3. At least go out together for a night out once a month or something, we've not had one proper night out since May 14th 2005 !!!!!!
Her points to me,
1. Stop being insecure, she isnt a cheat
2. Believe that she loves me.
So you reckon we should just take it step by step? ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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bwfc4eva86 wrote: | Then got to gf's & Sisters party, all was fine up untill 11, gf kept dissappearing, so went to look for her and go bog see her with brothers mate, fort fair enough! she dint even let on to me when i walked by, not a problem too busy talking i thought. goes bog, comes back up, still talking, doesnt let onto me again, goes sits down talks to her bro, she comes back, so does he, he starts sitting nearer to her now. She dissappears again, he follows 2 mins later. Goes looking again, same thing happens talking at bar but this time his hand is on her arse ! So this really annys me, i didnt say a word, but a shouldnt of done what i did next, gets into bog, and punch the nearest thing i see, being a window!
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Not being nasty mate but you'd do well to drift your girlfriend. How many times have you posted on here about how upset you are about this girl taking the piss out of you?
I know its hard but burying your head in the sand and ignoring the obvious is not the key to happiness.
There's loads of nice girls about. Don't let her do this to you |
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Marcg868 World Chat Champion
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Yeah it is true that theres plenty of nice girls out there, but the thing is me and this girl have known eachother for a long time and wanted eachother for ages. I know she loves me, because she does show it, and the way she begged for me not go when we had this argument on saturday showed me alot.
I just cant help but feel insecure, i dont know where its come from?! its not as bad as it once but i don not want it to destroy, what has the potential to become a very good and long happy relationship. I need to get over that, and now she's finally showing some committment by making her own choices, not being bullied about by her Dad, and her thinking, that her family will think she's being selfish if she wants spend time with me.
End of the day, its never been us arguing over something we've done, its always been something like her family, other people interfering. Like her sister can not stop but interfereing with our relationship. She's been told, but she nearly fucked it up this time by shit stirring.
I do love her, and its given back just as much. Just want to stop the interferance and insecure feelings sometimes. ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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Posted: 23:09 - 21 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Sorry mate to hear the way you are feeling. Sounds to me like the family are siding with her as she has been up to no good. There is no way my gf would stand in the bogs talking to another guy and ignore me walking by. It shows no respect for you as a person. Splitting up is hard, but sometimes it is for the best. You would find some one else,and to be honest the feeling I get is she is up to no good. Why else would the family have a problem with you popping in to see her? Unless they thought that if by doing so you would see something you shouldn't.
Best of luck whatever you do, but just remember,just because you may be paranoid doesnt mean it isnt happening. |
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kwaker6r wrote: | Sorry mate to hear the way you are feeling. Sounds to me like the family are siding with her as she has been up to no good. There is no way my gf would stand in the bogs talking to another guy and ignore me walking by. It shows no respect for you as a person. Splitting up is hard, but sometimes it is for the best. You would find some one else,and to be honest the feeling I get is she is up to no good. Why else would the family have a problem with you popping in to see her? Unless they thought that if by doing so you would see something you shouldn't.
Best of luck whatever you do, but just remember,just because you may be paranoid doesnt mean it isnt happening. |
Cheers to everyone for all the sensible replies and, no piss taking.
Thing is her family think, that im checking up on her, i went in her pub friday, because my mate wanted to see her, he'd never met her before, and just wanted to meet her. GF was fine about it, but her family wasnt. And thats what bothers me, her middle sister (19 so my age roughly) and her Dad are the ones who seem to have the most problems with me. Yes ive been insecure in the past, but ive never checkd up on her. I just want to get me and my gf back to normal and her family to accept, yes i may have been insecure in the past, but they're not giving me the chance to provee i can get rid of my insecurity. ____________________ JACK, MISS YOU LOADS YOU LEGEND. |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 18 years, 105 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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