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bindy Borekit Bruiser
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Posted: 05:50 - 06 Mar 2006 Post subject: Should I break up with my boyfriend? |
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I don't know why I cant make my own decisions when it comes to breaking up with people but I really need advice. I have been with my boy for 3.5 years and its been up and down but we generally love each other I can say that, we are pretty affectionate, and generally hes a nice guy but he never buys me flowers just because, im not ugly, most guys say im gorgeous, im not fat, im nice, (nurse), I ride a cool bike but he just acts like im in the way of his life all the time. He lives with a mate and I have to live with my parents to afford uni. It probably too hard for anyone to know what I should do but I just needed to vent! He never comes out with me, i just go with my friends, we dont do anything exciting together, He says he loves me a lot but if its so shit then why is he so happy and Im so sad? |
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Sparky Trackday Trickster
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Posted: 08:33 - 06 Mar 2006 Post subject: |
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could just be a phase or it could be deeper. Sounds like your getting more frustrated because he hasnt noticed your unhappy!
You not getting pampered and you want to feel wanted and he isnt giving you that.
If you dont sit down and have a proper feelings type chat you will slowly start going in opposite directions and then you will end it and he will be so surprised because you never said anything.
have a chat and TELL HIM how your feeling, see how it goes. ____________________ Previous zxr400 - Current ZXR636 late'03
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JonB Afraid of Mileage
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Sparky Trackday Trickster
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Posted: 09:52 - 06 Mar 2006 Post subject: |
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ah right!
tell him its driving you away! that it might end the relationship then see what he says, sounds like he is just settled, and doesnt want to realise the truth.
oh and its Sparky not Spanner only my dad calls me a spanner! ____________________ Previous zxr400 - Current ZXR636 late'03
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killa Won't Shut Up
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Posted: 09:57 - 06 Mar 2006 Post subject: |
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bindy wrote: | I don't know why I can’t make my own decisions when it comes to breaking up with people but I really need advice. I have been with my boy for 3.5 years and its been up and down but we generally love each other I can say that, we are pretty affectionate, and generally he’s a nice guy but he never buys me flowers just because, im not ugly, most guys say im gorgeous, im not fat, im nice, (nurse), I ride a cool bike but he just acts like im in the way of his life all the time. He lives with a mate and I have to live with my parents to afford uni. It probably too hard for anyone to know what I should do but I just needed to vent! He never comes out with me, i just go with my friends, we don’t do anything exciting together, He says he loves me a lot but if its so shit then why is he so happy and Im so sad? |
I’ve highlighted some things in your post, if you are speaking to vent all the truth, this post just shouts out to me, boring….
So you could easily pick up another guy, your bloke may love you and take you for granted, thinking he’s got you where he wants you and probably thinks your pretty happy to. Weird thing is, if you say you are bored and you both need to get some excitement back in your relationship things could get very weird and ruin what you have.
Try a few things out, like a kind of test, see if he puts any effort in. If he doesn’t, then you’re going to have to think whether you want to be with someone who isn’t fulfilling your needs.
Relationships can be doomed from the start, it all depends how much you give and take at the beginning. ____________________ Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult.
Bike:- Yamaha TRX850 | Killas Biking History | Killas Gaming History | Killas autmotive history |
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stinkwheel Bovine Proctologist
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Just remember that blokes are very simple creatures. You say you have discussed this with him, but did he understand what you were saying?
All this subtle body language and little nuances of speech that women employ are largely lost on your average bloke. Chances are that if you tell him you are unhappy and want to break it off, it will come as a total surprise to him.
Many blokes are also afraid to push too hard with a relationship for fear they will scare you off and so leave the woman to set the pace. You may want him to pick you up after work out of the blue, take you out for dinner then back to his place and carry you up to the bedroom over his shoulder. He wont in case you freak out though. ____________________ “Rule one: Always stick around for one more drink. That's when things happen. That's when you find out everything you want to know.”
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BigChris Spanner Monkey
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Posted: 19:53 - 06 Mar 2006 Post subject: Re: Should I break up with my boyfriend? |
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bindy wrote: | I don't know why I cant make my own decisions when it comes to breaking up with people but I really need advice. I have been with my boy for 3.5 years and its been up and down but we generally love each other I can say that, we are pretty affectionate, and generally hes a nice guy but he never buys me flowers just because, im not ugly, most guys say im gorgeous, im not fat, im nice, (nurse), I ride a cool bike but he just acts like im in the way of his life all the time. He lives with a mate and I have to live with my parents to afford uni. It probably too hard for anyone to know what I should do but I just needed to vent! He never comes out with me, i just go with my friends, we dont do anything exciting together, He says he loves me a lot but if its so shit then why is he so happy and Im so sad? |
talk to him. explain your point of view. if he listens good. if not, dump. if he changes, good. If not, dump.
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numark1 Scared of girls
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WR450_geezer Nobody likes me
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 18 years, 55 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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