Too dumb to make my own decisions, please help

[ginguar]

I am currently working as a recruitment consultant a job I hate so much it makes me feel physically sick and like crying everyday. It is getting to the point now where I am going to put my relationship at risk due to how unhappy I am.
At some point I want to go back to uni to study social work but there are huge financial implications to this.
I have a number of options.

1. Stay in my job.
2. Go and find another job and stay in it until my debts are paid off some time next year putting me in a better position for uni.
3. Stay in this job and hope I will be accepted into uni for sept this year.
4. Run away (25 is not too old to run away is it?)

I am not one who normally asks for advice but my current job is affecting my ability to think normally.

What would you do?

[Katie]

I know exactly how you feel about the job .... it's awful, and no one should stay in a job that makes them that unhappy.

First of all, is there any way you can resolve how you're feeling at work so you can stay there, or is it the actual job that you hate?

If not, the I would recommend looking for a new job that you can cope with, and stick with it while you do a bit of saving.

My Mum's a social worker, I'm not sure but there may be something you could start now in that field, that would put you in a better position for when you want to make a career as a social worker. She works in children's services, and there's a girl who started working in the office just answering the phone, using the computer and printing up reports for court ect. This girl now goes out on visits and is alot more involved in what goes on. I think she was studying aswell, but they are so desperate for people there might be some sort of thing you do where you work, and they help you out with the studying aswell if you want to make a career in social work. I'll find out for you.

I know it's hard but for now, just try and keep work at work, and leave it behind when you go home, I know that's really difficult but you don't want to let it affect your relationship anymore! Try and keep your chin up for now, and good luck!
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[Itchy]

You can always study part time , or even full time , a university that was near me (not exactly the best but still in the top 70) , used to cram all lessons into ONE day (well one day and night or just nights) , so this is a route you can go down and keep your job.

[headlamp]

I too work in recruitment (I run my own business) so am intrigued to know what's wrong with where you are currently. Is it the 'pressure' of attaining the targets, or the type of recruitment, or maybe the environment....it can be soul destroying and you definitely have to be thick skinned to do it....but somone hired you so they thought you had potential! If any of these points can be changed then I'd stick at it till September until you (hopefully) get to Uni.
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[ginguar]

[Itchy]

[carlnicholson...]

I'm now far too tied down to do this, but if I could I would love to spend 6 monthe saving and then just fuck off.

Book a ticket for some random european country on monday, and arrive there on tuesday, with no plans, nothing.

The one good point about the EU is that you can just go where you want relatively unrestrited, and with safety comparable to that in the UK.

Just go, do what you want, maybe look for work, meet some people, come back, or don't. Whatever. It's up to you.
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[Annabella]

I completely sympathise.
I work in Public Sector Recruitment and it is a horrible job. No one ever has any money, and yet you *have to keep ringing these poor people to attain your targets. You know they don't have the budget for temp staff, and yet to reach you 100 marketing calls a week you have no choice.

I work until 6pm and don't feel like I have any time to spend with my partner.

Can you afford to leave the job and take part time work until you start university? If you are working part time (even if it's just taking some rubbish hospital reception work ) you'll have plenty of opportunity to find some work experience in social work.
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[headlamp]

ginguar, I do symapthise, and I guess I forget that there are many sectors and levels in recruitment. I am priviledged in that I tend to deal with senior management and learn about how companies operate and get to advise on their overall strategies. this site may help you - go to the Forum as I am sure I saw a post there not so long ago about a guy asking what to do after recruitment...it may restore your sanity!!
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[msgander]

I totally understand how you feel.......if you can find another job....happiness is key and health likewise.....no job is worth feeling that crap for..............

We all need money but if you can survive on anything slightly less and be happy its well worth it...
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[ginguar]

[Annabella]

[ZRX61]

[Irezumi aka Reuben]

[ginguar]

It's just something I always wanted to ask you. They are rather good.