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Posted: 17:26 - 08 Apr 2006 Post subject: Do I teach my kid to hit back ? |
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Just looking for opinions.
We have always brought our son up to respect other peoples feelings, be polite and nice. which has made him very sensitive to how people treat him, he gets upset easily as he does not understand why some people are not nice, btw he is now 6.5 years old.
how ever we have a couple of slightly older 9-10 chav kids who find it entertaining to wind him up, small jibes, walking off with his toys, kicking his football away from him etc etc. all minor stuff but because he is so sensitive he gets very upset.
now contrary to my own beliefs I can't help finding myself telling my boy to toughen up a bit and rather than showing them he is upset, to answer back by telling them to sod off or even if they really push it to simply wack one of them with a big stick.
the parents of said children take the attitude that if their kids happen to be bigger then that makes them top dog, totally condoning their kids behavior.
any input gratefully received
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Posted: 17:49 - 08 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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i'd say stick with the fact that it takes the bigger man to walk away
i.e. if they kick his football, tell him to get his football and go play somewhere else
nothing changes even if this shitty day and age, and smacking someone never solves anything, because they just come back and come back, and will probly just get worse
ideally he wants to not show them he is upset, because that feeds them to do it more, but shouting at them isnt the way either, i'd encourage him to ignore their behaviour best he can, and walk away
just my 2 cents, i may be wrong
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Posted: 17:50 - 08 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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pretty much my thinking, he would not stand a chance in a fight
its not fair on him to keep him locked in
but I do think that if he does not react as he does then they will get bored and fook off.
am so close to taking one of themm to one side and whispering in his shell like that I just might sneak in to his house while hes asleep and slit his throat.
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Posted: 22:11 - 08 Apr 2006 Post subject: Re: Do I teach my kid to hit back ? |
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Posted: 01:12 - 09 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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Yes you should teach him to hit back,but not in this particular situation.
If it was my little girl I'd tell her to calmly pick up her stuff and come inside when she saw them coming, explaining to her that it was a situation that was best avoided and not to be scared by it.As you say it's worse when he's not alone and also quite sensative they may be trying to make him cry in front of his friends.
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Posted: 01:54 - 09 Apr 2006 Post subject: Re: Do I teach my kid to hit back ? |
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Posted: 01:55 - 09 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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Mate, you are bringing up your child the right way
Don't lit those chavs ruin what you have done for 6.5 years.
The best thing, from a long term point, is to teach your child the judgement needed to live a better life. Meaning if you are outnumbered pull out , react to the situation, avoid the chavs whenever possible, if the situation is in favour of you child, then be firm. Teach your child how to judge the situation, and behave accordingly.
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Posted: 02:03 - 09 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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Get him a knife, a big one, he'll only need to use it once! |
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Posted: 08:13 - 09 Apr 2006 Post subject: |
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I suppose telling him 'sometimes you need to assert yourself' is better.
If i could do school again id have kicked the teeth in of anyone who ever started on me from a very young age.
But at the same time, im glad ive come out of school with an education and a clean record. Thats a lot more then i can say for the elite from 'my day'.
The popular guys i used to idolise are absolutely nothing now. They aint changed, they are doign shit jobs for crap money and they shag fugly birds.
So i think its important to instill a sense of proportion. Ya know, if they are making you uncomfortable, physically, then a quick smack with a fucking chair leg is good.
School is a warzone these days, and they have to be prepared. The reason chav kids have 'the edge' in these situations is because they get turfed out to fend for themselves, and in doing so getting in rows.
Sheltering your kid will just make it harder when hes in secondary school to be someone.
Best guy i knew from school, a guy called Tim Squires. He was a quiet nerd basically, but he'd been 'let out to play' so to speak. Got on with all his work, universally lvoed by teachers etc.
One day the 'hard kid' gave him some gyp, tim just spins round, grabs him, and smashes his head on the board a few times.
No gloating
No ego
No pretense
Just defence.
Never got anymore hassle from him, ever.
See the main problem is, you dont want to be (say in 10 years time) taking your kid down for his ABH charges. but you dont want him to be introverted at school because he cant hold his head high.
Its tough mate.
Id sit him down and have a big long chat, see how he feels (i know hes young, but youd be suprised how much crap hes probably seen so far) and see if you can get him to logically think what his reactions should be to things.
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When I was about 7, I was bullied by an older kid at school. He would spray ink on my shirt, stick chewing gum on my hair, and try to get physical. I was very small for my age, and put up with it for months. One day on the playground, while he was trying to beat me up, something snapped within me . I went straight back to the class room, removed the strap from my satchel (an old fashioned canvas strap with a metal buckle), returned to the playground and whipped the living daylights out of him . He ended up with welts on his legs, thighs, back and sides and blood stains on his shirt where the buckle broke his skin. I was hauled into the headmistress office, and had a major telling off. My guardian was called in the next day, but she stood firmly on my side. I was told that if there were any more problems, I would be dismissed. No one ever messed about with me again , but on the downside, everyone feared me and avoided me and I made very few friends in that school.
I'd go with what flip said. |
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I really would appreciate Siggi's views on this |
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Used to get allsorts of hassle at school, i started martial arts (mostly out of boredom) did it for three years before they found out, they were allot more carefull arround me then i can tell ye..
It might be worth it, just be sure he dosn't try useing it till he can give em a good scare or injury
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