Im moving out in a week or so...

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Well, A mate of mine has been living in a nice little flat about 2 miles from my house for the past 6 months. Ive always fancied moving in to the spair room in the flat. but Never really gone along with it up until now.

Ive talked it over with the mate at the flat. And his mother (Who is the person who sorted it all out for him. shes a council housing worker).

anyway, its a proper flat, Rented etc. Not a housing benifit job.


Ive spoken to my mom about moving out, she said she'd be sad to see me leave but she will support me the whole way. And said my dad would to.

Now im 18, ive got a steady job and a steady income of around £1100 per month. (take home about £850).

I believe I can live off this if I sort out my ways and learn the aspect of budgeting. Everybody learns it at some stage in life.

Anyway, I got in tonight, (about 20 mins ago) and saw my dad for the first time in 3 days (Hes been on nights).
He found out yesterday that Im moving out, and came across quite posotive to my mom. But tonight when I walked in, He said "I hear your leaving us".

We got chatting, then he got a bit ratty about the whole situation saying why dont I wait till im stable with money and that before moving out.
Bringing up TV licence and Council tax. rates etc. Trying to put me off.

FFS! Its really pissed me off. But I dont care and im still going. I just dont want to leave home on bad terms with my dad.

hes a bit of a funny one, and when we fall out,. we dont talk for days. then he comes across really false and does make up and appologised to me. but meh, thats my dad. Hes good at heart.


Anyway. Sorry about the long rant. Just felt the need to say somthing about it and see what you lot think.

I know hes my dad, and I should know. But why would a parent get arsey about their kid moving out and setting up life by himself?

Isnt that supposed to be a big thing to a family. Somthing he should be proud of?
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[phantomtek]

Proud?

Or scared.

Sounds like a normal reaction from a parent, trying to deter you from spreading your wings because he is worried about you. Wants you to be safe. You have to see it from his point of view, his son is moving away from him, where he can't be watched over as much - it's natural for the parent to worry.

Try to reassure your Dad that you'll be ok, show him you've thought it through and that you are a responsible young adult, try to instil a sense of comfort into him over it - he's only looking out for your best interests.

[colin1]

i think hes just worried for you, and maybe worried he might have to bail you out.

As long as you dont spend more money than you have, you will be alright.

(not that I can talk)
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[carlnicholson...]

My Dad is a complete arsehole, and has always tried to make my life difficult for his viewing pleasure, yours would appear to just be genuinely worried about you. I think....

I own my house, pay finance on my bike, have about £15k of debt from when I was 'living it up' in the RAF, have to pay for all the council tax etc, and I did that on £700 a month before I got my new job.

You should have more than enough cash to have a good time aswell as getting all the bills paid, especially if you are sharing!

You seem to have your head scerwed on, all you can do is keep talking to your parents about it, and make sure they understand you have to do waht you feel you have to do. They will always see you as their little boy who needs looking after, after all, thats what you have been for most of your life, it will be difficult for them, but you have to leave one day.
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