Fucking help me!!!

[JonB]

OMG, I feel like I am still in a dream. My girlfriend of one year has dropped the biggest bombshell and admitted she likes somebody else, no correction she loves him!!!

I loved her so much! We had loads of plans, we were gonna share a double room at Coventry uni! I've got to change all of my plans now! She is now with a complete scumbag who is on the dole and she is dropping her uni application!

She is gonna fuck her life up, but mine even more!

I got my first A level exam in less than 2 weeks and so this is undue stress upon myself as I really wanna go uni!

I'm in fucking tears now, I loved that girl and now it's gone and all my future prospects are in tatters. I need some advice!
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[LewisD]

I was in this situation recently.. so i know how you feel.

Even though your'e asking for some help from others, words of support, or ideas on what to do next, there's really only one thing that helped me through it.. so i'll pass it on to you..

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/hu/6/63/Jack_Daniels_%C3%BCveg.jpg

Get yourself one of these and it has the effect of rose coloured glasses..

[Steve H]

There are no 'right' words to say in instances such as this Jon, just the reasurance from friends and family that things WILL get better, that the pain and heartache that you're going through will subside and you'll be able to get on with your life without someone who used to be an integral part of it.

The world moves on and so do people, it's a fact of life that you'll have to come to terms with in this instance I'm afraid.

I'm sure you'd rather have a relationship with someone who you can be totally comfortable with and is deserving of your affections than with someone who will not reciprocate your feeelings.

Take it easy Pal
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[veeeffarr]

You're still young mate,

There's thousands of women out there, who'll you'll meet when you go to Uni.

A year isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things, she sounds like a bit of a twat anyway for laying that on you, and for getting into situation.

Sounds like she wasn't right for you anyway.

Relax, do your exams, go to Uni, and realise it wasn't worth being upset over when you can meet so many more diverse and exciting people

[Kwaks]

Things do get better and you will get over it

Now you need to prove to her the mistake she has made by aceing those exams and getting to uni

In a few years time when you have a good job, money in your pocket and have new friends from uni days, she will be a mum in a ciuncil house with no life and a waster of a man.

Believe me you are in a better position right now than you were when you were still 'with her' and she was thinking of this other weasel
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[michael j]

What^ they^ said.
I think its also worth pointing out that for most couples, the relationship that they're currently in almost certainly won't be their last.
You'll feel like shit for a bit, but it will get easier.
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[cheekie monkey]

Things will get better I promise you!

Its best now than down the line and you living at uni together. People change and move on and thats what you must do too.

Concentrate on yourself, your exams and your future. She will see you one day with a huge smile on your face and happy and she will wonder what she had done.

You are much better without her by the sounds of it. You will meet knew people and you will move on and realise what on earth you were so sad about.

Majority of us have been in the exact situation. Theres lots of women out there!

[lozzypop1]

Awww Jon honey.....
Don't know what to say to you, But if it's any consolation, You're not the only one going through hell because of a relationship.
Me, I've lost a stone in a week!

So... If you'd like to share that bottle of Jack off Lewis, hint hint

Seriously though, Don't let yourself fall apart, adjust, adapt and overcome (or so my father keeps telling me)

Lotsaluv,
Loz
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[Zimbo]

She may well be screwing her life up mate, but she's not screwing yours up, that's in your hands and no one elses. Sorry to hear about this, and it's never easy, but focus on your exams and on getting into Uni, and the rest will fall into place from there on, I promise!!! Just get those grades, it's the most important thing for you right now.

[cheekie monkey]

Yes, you must eat, I look like a bag of bones too. As everyone says, think of number one. It will take time, it has for me, put me off fellas for life!

Make your own life happy, think of yourself! xx

[Rookie]

Sorry fella. It's a shitter when these things happen, especially when it's exactly when you don't need them. On the other hand, it sounds like she's done a total switch-reversal on you, so I suppose it will be some consolation that you're out before things got really heavy. That won't sound much good right now, but it will do when you're past the shock, I bet.

Not much to say really, just hope it doesn't cock things up for you too badly. If you want that drink, I'll happily come out and have one or ten with you.

Chin up.

[Rookie]

PS: Whatever the hell you do, do not mope around at this time. It doesn't matter how bad you feel, you have got to concentrate right now. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. You've got plenty of time after the exams to get over it all, but you've got to bury it right now and set your mind on other things.

[colin1]

She is a bitch for letting you know just before your exams.
However, most universities accept you based on your predicted grades and what you got in your mocks, so chances are, even if you fuck up your A-levels you will probably be ok.

You may well get over it by the time you start uni, but if you dont think you will, think about taking a year out before starting uni to clear your head.

My dad died just after my A-levels so in my first year of uni I just wasnt focused. I fell behind, and never really made the effort to get back up to speed. I only realised it had affected me later.

On a positive side, this means you will be starting uni as a single man and will have a whole uni of females to try your luck with. Arguably that may be worth more than the degree
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[JonB]

Think she is having a relapse from what she said and she never really thought this through. When I reminded her of all the good things we had in the relationship, she just broke down and completely regretted what she had done.

We are on a trial separation, it will give her time to realise what she really wants and i'll be able to clear my head and get on with exams in peace.

Cheers for help.
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[bearwood.beckham]

Im seconding Toby's reply.

Yeah shes a bitch for dumping you and going off with a no mark piece of scum, but don't let the fool fuck up your life. She didn't control you then... Don't let her now..

Get your head down with the Exams then start worryin' about the O/H stuff..

Good Luck..

[Sephiroth]

I had kinda the same situation.

Her ex said he loved her (after breaking up with her, not telling her why, and then not speaking to her for two years) on valentines day .

She told me, and said she's thinking of who to be with. I just took my own choice and told her I'd make it easy for her and walked off.

My moto: If they cause you pain, they ain't worth it .


Before anyone else says it:

I'm only 17, what do I know?



Try and put everything behind you, go for a nice long ride, then revise for your exams and goto uni.



You can do it.

[Misc]

If she has already told you she loves him, whats there to work out? It's up to you but she can't just not love him if you do get back. Good luck in whatever you do decide.

[sickpup]

My most recent ex which is a fair few years ago decided to fúck me over. The bloke she did it with slapped her around and tried to strangle her one night. Ah well.

Screwed me up for a long time but I got over it.

She calls every now and then to try and find out what I'm doing but I never tell her, nothing to do with the bitch to be blunt.

I was in the custody suite of Hammersmith Police station last friday having a chat with a female PC about how ex's are ex's because they fúck you up.

A friend of mine once said some women do this because they can. Most couldn't punch you to hurt you but screwing with your feelings does more damage and you can't retaliate.

Just remember she's been lieing to you for some time if she's in love with crack boy. Don't forgive, don't forget. She'll do it again.

Get yourself down to the STD clinic as well for a check over.

You'll get over it in time but it will take time.

[BanditBitch]

[killa]

I’m gonna be blunt Jon

I think it was a good thing she told you before she did anything…..
Women like that can be like an anchor through Uni mate so watch yourself and don’t get dragged into anything you don’t want to because you might loose the will to go on studying.
I’ve seen similar complications in a couple before, the separation, and then the get back together part, all is sweet, if not sweeter than before, but then it’s gets turned around and it will fuck you up even more than the first time.
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[feef]

I have to agree with some of the comments abouyt trial separations not working.

she felt strongly enough about this other guy, and cared so little about you to dump you for him.

I might be overly cynical having been thru trial seps and shit before, with my ex of 8 years (and 2 years of that was married, with a house etc).

things change, people change. it hurts like hell when you break up (even when you know it's long overdue in somecases) but in the long run, it works out for the best.

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[Lawnie]

I also agree with all that's been said so far.

I had a girlfriend (admitedly not for very long) who cheated on me, and broke up with me after my first week of starting uni. I know how it feels, I was pretty depressed for a couple of months.

I then heard later through the grapevine that she's now expecting.

I couldn't be happier now. I'm now with a girl 100,000 times the partner/friend she was. Things will sort out before you know it

This has happened for a reason.

[anders]

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