The right decision?

[palmer]

Before we start i know some of you think of me as a child, being only 16. But im seriously down over this one.

Been with the same girl for 7 months now. Everything going perfect, she loved me i loved her. We did everything together, we were hardly ever apart. But last night i finnished with her. Why? Because the spark felt like it had gone. But today i relise that i care for her much more than i thought. She told me she was going out tonight, and i told her to be good out of habbit. Then said sorry and i can't realy talk to her like that anymore. I still feel protective of her. Maybe even still have very strong feelings... i don't know.

Any advice?

thanks
palmer

[hellkat]

Go out and get yourself laid, chap.

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[Paivi]

I hear motorbikes are good substitutes for girlfriends.

[palmer]

Mines broken.

Im seriously considering telling her that ive made a mistake... but its only been a day so i dunno.

Maybe i could say that i need time to think, rather than breaking up completely... hmm

[Itchy]

You played the card the greener grass (women play this psychologically all the time) and you lose, (read
a mathematical book called why does buses if you want to back ground story to this theory).

You don't own her you know.

To get over it try BWFC's method fuck 10 other women and see how you feel about it afterwards, though
BWFC method is more like fuck 50 other women and see how you feel about it afterwards.

This adjusts your world vision of she wasn't that special , if you still have such feelings afterwards
maybe you let go one to keep.

I personally was semi infatuated by my secretary , then had a wild weekend and nearly scored but noticed
lots of 8s and 9s all around me who I tried making moves on, by monday I couldn't remember her name.
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[dodsi]

Or the navy, think of all the cock you could get there!

[Katie]

You could have just been settling into the relationship and getting comfortable with her. That doesn't necessarily mean the 'spark' had gone, just that the relationship had grown to a more serious level. The butterfly's don't last forever! From what you've said that's what it looks like to me, you obviously care about her. I'd say talk to her about it and see how she feels, before you leave it too long and you realise you made a mistake. But make sure it's not just a case of, you don't want her but you don't want anyone else to have her. That's a tough one to deal with but you just have to be honest with yourself about it. Good luck.
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[hellkat]

[Susi]

It's been a good while since I posted and I have no clue who most of you on here are anymore, but anyway...

I'm going to be realistic. If you think sparks last forever, they don't. Things get boring after a while (a comfortable happy boring with many perks that turn it into something special) and it's only then that you come to realise all the other emotions involved telling you whether or not it's worth it. Problem is, half the time people aren't willing to admit the truth to themselves even when they know what that truth is. I'm sure many people can relate.

If I could go back to being 16 again with the things I know now, I'd be less naive, a lot more cut throat, save myself the heartache and go after the things I really wanted. Then again, the place I'm now at (feeling peaceful, at ease with myself, happy, loved, equal, balanced, etc) came through experiecing all that. So I guess it's a right of passage everyone must go though.

And at 16, I don't know why you're bothering to ask because you're going to do whatever it is you feel like doing.
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[colin1]

id agree with katie

butterflies dont last for ever, but comfy fondness can.

it might be good while you are young to try chasing a few more butterflies.

plenty of time for comfy fondness type relationships when you are your parents age
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[killa]

I did this once, and i regreted it a lot, i think it wasn't the spark that dissapeared but perhaps i felt so comfortable with her I was confused about how i felt.

Or something like that.

Think of it this way.....

She's going to meet someone soon, as you're in school, you might know him, he's gonna fuck her.

Don't feel anything?.......don't worry about it.

Makes you feel sick?.......you love her, don't let her get away.
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[Itchy]

[lozzypop1]

Palmer... You've been through a lot the last couple of weeks... Explain this to her, If she's worth anything she'll understand this.
Tell her you need a little time to get your head together and ask her how she feels about it.

Chances are, you'll:
a) Realise you want to be with her
or
b) You'll love being single
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[msgander]

if spark goes, then reignite it, doesnt mean you dont love each other!! Course spark will go after a while, its a case of finding a happy level!!

Cant believe you jacked it in on such a simple thing!

Do you expect fireworks until your 70?
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[Marcg868]

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[LustyLew]

[Harold_Shand]

If the spark has gone are, are you sure this isn't just an emotional control drama. Breaking up, getting back together, breaking up, poor me, in love again etc etc.

Now she might go out tonight and snog a couple of blokes egged on by her mates who want her to have a good time, she decides she wants to get back with you, but then you find out she snogged some lads, so you go into your self rightoueos indignation and dont want her back, only you do really... She wants to get back together too, only your pride is stopping it, eventually, you'll both get pissed one night and have a blinding night of sex & love and decide to get back together. Only it will never be the same and a couple of months down the line, when things start getting stale again, an argument leads to bringing up the past, you slplit up for a while, perhaps you go out on the town with a few mates, pull a couple of munters, egged on by your mates, who only want the best for you, but one of her mates is at the same pub/club/house and sees you getting off with a pissed lass, who you dont even fancy. This gets back to the bird who is hurt, but will eventually forgive you because now it's 1-1. This type of shit can go on forever, and in fact, is the way some relationships work.

The moral of this story is, if you are dumping a bird, that should be it. No, lets be friends, delete the number or its just drawing out what is not meant to be, wasting time and effort.

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Harold_Shand's theory might be the best explanation.

[Marcg868]

Exactly the above post has summer it up.

Once you break up that should be it, no contact, no getting back no nothing, and DONT do what i did spend £200/300 on them one night shag them, make them come loads and then wake up in the morning and think " What the fuck"

Fuck her off mate. Plenty more flange out there. And she starts getting gobby, punch her in th tits
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[palmer]

Were gonna kind of start seeing eachother. give it a couple of weeks and see how its going. Then go from there.

She thinks the world of me and thats not me being big headed.
I dont know if i miss her, or if i miss having someone...

So many nice girls at college though, well worth a poke but i want to have someone there... not just something to play with. Being single now would be so good, but i dont know if its worth it.

Someone else said "you dont want other people to have her" and thats exactly how i feel. I still feel shes mine, im still very protective etc.

But then again im young and got plenty of choice... god i hate this.


Nice to hear from you again susi

[Marcg868]

Mate it is a shit feeling i had my ex few nights ago, but now she's got with this paki (so called mate) from college, and that hurts, but you've gotta look atit this way, your what 16? Im 20 year old, ive just come out of 2 year relationship, you've seen me bitching on this forum and feeling sorry for myself over her.

There is plenty girls out there, once you split up it should stay that way, theres no going back no matter what reasons.

Your 16/17 mate fucking enjoy yourself, ive been told that by people on here and ive got 3/4 years on you, your life is just beginning along with mine.

Dont waste your time mate.
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[palmer]

Were talking again, and it feels good. Going round tomorow to sort things out face to face.

I realy want to have fun mate, as you said, but i also realy like this girl...

Theres a few girls at college i flirt with, but then i think... wtf am i doing, your nothing special.


Thanks for all the advice, it has helped quite alot

[Susi]

Hey, at least while you were with her reality was smacking you in the head because in my eyes there's nothing worse than cheating.

The moment you even begin to think about something like that proves you don't care so much for that person.
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