Losing someone close to you.

[MementoMori]

But not by death.

Death's something you are forced to accept, and once someone's died there's no coming back, so eventually those feelings of grief fade.

But when the person is still alive and they're moving away to a very far place and you miss them so much that it feels like they've died, is that feeling gonna go away, because you know they're around you just can't get to them?

It feels like it will never go away.

It's only the first fucking day. He hasn't even left yet haha. But we've said bye and now I feel like he's dead.

This is shit.
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The tiger who came for a pint

[Trixie]

I'm in a similar position, having moved away from someone I was extremely close to for over 10 years. Ive now been away almost 8 months and there's not a day goes by I don't think of them. We're in touch regularly, but it's not the same as talking face to face. We miss each other loads.

It's a cliche, but life does go on, and life needs to be lived.

It will get better. If you're that close then the feeling will never go completely; it'll be easier to deal with as time goes on, though. Keep yer chin up. It's a bit like grieving when you lose someone like that, even when they don't die, and the process has to be followed for you to move on.
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[Dragonfly]

sorry to hear that, feel sad for you. Is this person moving far away? can you visit or stay in contact?
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Muzza on Binge:
He's too busy beating the everloving shit out of Lizzie to notice this thread has taken a turn down Drama Avenue and stopped off at the popcorn shop.

[Itchy]

If he is a proper friend years later you can walk in on him and say hi and get back to chatting as if no time at all has passed, I met 3 people the other day wayy back from 1999 and 1996 , we chatted as if nothing had happened.

As said previously probably by me , the word friend is over used , you get mates and friends and proper friends,

Mates are generally disposible they get rid of you you get rid of them when your circumstances change.


Friends are those who don't tend to dump you at the drop of a hat ,

Proper friends which I've made all over the country , are as described above , and as per Clanger's advice I'll be taking some time off soon to go pay a visit to some .


Either that or you are harbouring some kind of regret , much like in 1999 when I took a girl to the airport I didn't realise she liked me and would have stayed had I asked her , however she made a new life in the US.
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[byke95]

Whether you see this person as a friend or more than a friend may play a part in how you'll think of them in the future.

Friends do come and go, but some friendship forged over years can be very difficult to let go of. These friendships may remain close despite the distance or 'fade' over time. In the short term other friends can be used for support and, over time, new relationships will be forged, and the old ones will (usually) be remembered fondly.

If they are something more than a friend? It's difficult to say but the process is similar to above, you'll adjust over time.

These experiences are all part of who we are and, thought they don't feel like it sometimes, they can always bring positives.

[IronMaiden]

Maybe he feels the same way. Can't you keep in contact by phone or computer? I know it's not the same as seeing someone in person...but it might help.

[MementoMori]

Heh, just noticed the Google Ad at the top of the page:

https://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a312/ilikeforks/bcfbanner.jpg

Thankyou for your advice and help. I really hope the feeling does subside. It's an intense pain and it's wank.

I will be flying up to see him a few times before I leave for NZ, then we're gonna be as far apart as possible so I can imagine, well no I can't imagine this feeling getting any worse but it will when I leave him.

We can still keep in touch via phone and MSN.

Anyway, I shall stop this public moping and just sit here and do it quietly.

Thanks again.
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[DOS]

This is just one idea you could look in to.
https://www.apple.com/macosx/leopard/ichat.html
I am sure something else like that would,nt be to hard to sort out.

Paddy.

[Clanger]

Time is a great healer...

Easily said, hard to accept....but fill your life with different things, meet new people, go out and smile at people, create conversations with people in shops...and soon the pain will cease.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind - Dr. Seuss

[colin1]

If you get in the habit of only remembering the good things, their memory will turn into an idealised version of them. So make a point of remembering the not so good things so it doesnt seem such a great loss.

Also find someone new, to distract you if nothing else. Even if they arent as good in some ways, they may be better in others. Dont let your life stand still.
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[Tarmacsurfer]

Go away for a couple of weeks and come back to find myself agreeing with something Colin has posted.

I feel dirty, and not in a good way

Back on topic. G'luck getting your head around it. I have a simple mantra in cases like this. Shit happens. Accept, understand, absorb and live with this deceptively simple little piece of philosophy and you'll always find a smile.


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[Itchy]