Nursery

[Louise]

I have had Josh in nursery for around 5-6 months now.
He love's it, gets on with everyone and the feedback I receive is good.
Last week we got told Josh bit someone. I was shocked as he has never ever bitten anyone, he prolly doesnt even know what it means.
I thought maybe he got bit first and he just did it back.
However yesterday (I just got home today so only just got told) That Josh was bitten twice. I took a look, its been 24 hours and the teeth marks are clearly visible still with brusin.
The assistant told my dad it was quite a scuffly between my son and this other lad. He is only 2.5.
Do I just forget about it and carry on but if happens again go and see what is really going on?
Or do I take him out of there? Stuck with what to do as they all seem so nice and he loves it there.
Anyone else had this prob with there little ones at playschool ?

[pwntifex]

Yeah, I got bitten quite badly on the neck by a kid when I was around the same age. Parents kept me in, though, and didn't seem to do me any harm.
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[Arfdog]

I'd keep him in there. I have a 2 year old, and he used to bite everything and anything, hard. He has not done it for ages now, but he had to be taught that biting is bad.

It's not possible to tell a 2.5yr old anything, so he can only learn not to do something once he's done it already. Hopefully his minder made the biter see what trouble he'd caused and punished him for it, so that he has now learnt he mustn't bite. They do learn bloody fast at that age, as I'm sure you know.

Either way, the staff willl be aware of the situation between the two of them, and should be able to nip any troubles in the bud and get them playing along nicely from now on. Moving him will probably only compound the problem when he meets new kids who he hasn't learnt to get on with yet. And you know how hard it is finding good, trustworthy childminders....
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[Whosthedaddy]

Dont overreact

Kids fight over the most stupid of things, especially toys. My son (now nearly 3) was slapped by a girl because she wanted the toy that he had.

The nursery are quite strict and the kids dont get away with much, i they cant behave then they get 'told off'.

My son is absolutley covered in bruises at the moment, he is the most accident prone child ever. The nursery have an incident book, he has almost filled it up. The last incident was 'he just fell over whilst standing still' They inform us of any injuries and what treatment was given ie cuddles.

Dont worry, kids will be kids after all
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[JodieWodie]

I used to be (until very recently) a Nursery Nurse

In a private day nursery setting, I saw biting alllll the time
It is V common in 2-3 year olds

It is simply a way of expressing themselves, in one of the only ways they know how
IE, I am simple..you annoy me, I punch your head in
What is wrong with that ?

The staff, if good, should keep an eye on the situation
Children that age learn quickly what is/is not acceptable
And, I dread to say it, they learn kind of like dogs at this age !!
You tell them NO, give themtime out, ignore them, and then they are truly sorry
They KNOW they have done wrong

Believe it or not, kids of the age 2.5 yrs CAN be a bit 'scuffly' and angry
They just need a firm hand and that it will not be tolerated

I would not pull him out of Nursery as he needs to get along with others, as does the other child involved
(AND I hope they didn't mention the other childs name to you !! HIGHLY wrong !!)

And, not to be funny, I see a lot of you bite me/I bite you back stuff
Your son could have developed a lil biting habit, and someone has bitten him back as they have learned the behaviour from him
(Not saying he has, it's a suggestion)
Or someone could have bitten your son... he has bitten this other kid,...and so on.. you know

At the end of the day.. about 50% of the lil kids today bite others when they are v young
They just need to know what is/isn't acceptable
they don't know til we tell them

I know your child means the world to you, I used to be physically sick if my kid wasn't happy as school etc... but there is worse to come !! Trust me !!

Jo xx
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[Drew]

You need to tell your child that biting and pulling hair is for girls.

You need to teach him how to punch propery

[lozzypop1]

Seems like the all the replies I would have given are above.... They are aware of it, will keep an eye open, seem to keep you well informed, etc.
I'd keep my child there TBH

When my eldest was in the first year, I picked him up one day to find he had the biggest bruise with teeth marks in his cheek! The teacher told me he'd been bit by another child, but he had been very disruptive in assembly that day Needless to say that particuar teacher and myself ended up having a few well chosen words!
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[Mary Jane]

My son used to bite other kids. When he was about a year and a half old, he was always biting kids in his nursery class, and that was with me as the nursery teacher! Sometimes i could catch him before he did it, other times, he'd go behind something and bite a kid where I couldn't see it. I felt absolutely horrible that my kid was the biter. There was nothing I could do to make him stop either. Until... I spoke to my mother in law. She told me my ex had been a biter too, and the only way she'd gotten him to stop was to bite him too. I was shocked and horrified of course. But the very next week, a little girl's skin was broken by my son's teeth. I was in tears, I just didn't know what to do. So I took my son outside, and sat with him on my lap, and told him about how much he had hurt that girl, and then I showed him how much biting hurts. I cried and cried, more than he did. But he stopped biting after that.

[Arfdog]

[Itchy]

Don't look too deeply into it , all children are like that I probably was , myself , its a right of passage for people , in the next few years you can expect:

a bum GF who is no good for him
more bum GFs

his first desire to want a bike

working in Mc'ds B king etc
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[Louise]

I asked about it today and she said someone bit him first, so he bit back.
I sat him down last night and asked to see his bit marks.
He showed me, n asked me to kiss it.
I then told him biting is bad. He replyed 'yes'
So hopefully that is it.
Unless he gose and cracks this other lad

[Adam_P]

I think this woman needs to visit your nursery!
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[Jesus_Christ]

Your lad sound about the right sort of age to start martial arts!

You can get your own Chuck Norris!

Sod biting the kid back, teach Josh to roundhouse the git!
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[Louise]

I have a feeling he will be a very tough lad.
He has his soft side almost all the time, but just now and then he will go 'funny'
Infact, I am looking into some martail arts,after school kinda thingy.
What age can they start tho