Women advice(again)

[trig?]

Hey guys, long time since i posted on the forums =].

So here goes, basically i was with a girl for about 2 months, doesnt seem long i know, so its going to sound stupid.
I was with a girl for 4 years before this, and i loved her but it ended quickly, So this new girl called Kim, she helped me through it, we got on so well, and were basically best friends, we then started seeing eachother and it went really well.
Her past boyfriend beat her, cheated and raped her once ....dont really like talking about him so thats that...so shes a bit worried with relationships.
Anyways, as a mutual decision we broke up due to me needing to sort myself out(job with police) and then her being at the most important stage in her college work, determines wether she get to uni.
We both really like eachother, and both says that there was something definately there thats special...I seen her yesterday and she we still got on so well..her being forward and being close.
Ive taken it a bit hard(not going into details =]), and i dont want to loose her completely as it would be a waste.
Ive played it cool so far, and am going to untill were all sorted, then determine what to do next.
What do u guys think? as you all got more experience than me and well, i need some advice. All will be much appreciated.

Thx for reading, tom.

[samharcus]

Tom,

Play it cool, and ride it out. Remain friends, and keep in touch. After you get your job sorted and Kim sorts her college, perhaps you could ask her to dinner? In the meantime, suggest going for a coffee one evening or weekend, and just have a light chat, see what each other has been up to, and thinks.

Hope this helps.

Sam

[killa]

Hardest thing isnt it...playing cool, especially when she's brilliant.

Just be there and give her support, let her know you like her being around and stuff but not too pushy. I'm sure it'll pan out ok.
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[Dazbo666]

Take it slowly until you're BOTH sure you're ready and in the right frame of mind etc.

IMO/IME if you get too pushy it's likely to put unneccessary pressure on you both, and potentially damage the relationship as well as the friendship
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[Weedy]

I agree with what has already been said.

Also, she'll respect you more for stepping back and giving her space than badgering her into a relationship.

Take it easy, and see how things go!
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[samharcus]

[Zimbo]

At the same time, make sure she knows how you feel and that you're "giving her space at this moment" but that you really want to be with her in the future. Don't want her going off with someone else and saying "I thought you weren't that interested" do we???

[woo]

u only live once mate not being nasty or anything but take her on a date out, go out with her if u want, the reality is any of us could have a bike accident and end up dead or the other, when the opportunity for happines or if ur lucky love, comes along, take it with both hands and do not waste it.

My moto is try to treat everyday like your last but still make some plans for the future!

You dont wanna look back on your life when your 60yrs old and think i wish i did that, or i wonder what if!

At least if you do now you will be able to say to yourself when your 60yrs old i am glad i did and she can reply with so am i!
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[Weedy]

[samharcus]

[Weedy]

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[samharcus]

[Weedy]

If that's what you wanna call it!

Anyway, back on topic
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[IronMaiden]

Sounds like she just needs a really good friend right now without boyfriend pressures. I always suggest being straight with a lady. Trust and honesty is everything to us, (especially if she has been cheated on in the past as this could be a huge issue for her!) so if you want to know if she has feelings for you then ask her out on a proper date (make sure she knows it is a real date, not just a lunch date with a friend ) and see if she says yay or nay. If she turns you down she probably just wants to be friends. Good luck!

[binge]

If your good mates for to long. She will see you as being in the "Friend zone". Ive been there twice, and its very frustrating. Especially when all you want to do is fuck her, and she wont as it'l ruin a friendship!


Just take it as it comes mate, If you like eachother enough then hook up.

[trig?]

Thanx for all the advice guys, much appreciated..=]...doing what pretty much everyone is saying so gunna keep it as that, i think things will come out alright in the future ! takes time =]

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