Falling in 'love' too fast.. (not me)

[Nicky-Jano]

I have a mate whose just started seeing a guy, literaly 4 days ago. Already he is hounding her to see her everyday and spouting out how much he misses her and that they should have photos of eachother done.
After having a chat she declares I guess he's just falling for me fast.
Is it just me or will others agree that she is incredibly naive?
He's not after sex no he's the opposite. He's the kinda guy that 'falls in love' after a few days. As soon as the relationship is over he will meet someone else and she will be 'the one'.
I have an ex who was like this, was controlling and very possesive to the point I wasn't allowed to talk to other people because he'd go into massive pouts and whines causing massive scenes. I was single for an entire year after this, it was that traumatic.
Her new guy is acting exactly as my ex did so I know what's coming, and she knowing how my ex acted should see it coming too. Yet she doesn't....
Her first proper boyfriend was the 'fall in love' after a few days type, after they broke up he was trying to get into my knickers . Her boyfriend after that did the same. Why isn't she learning? I just want to shake her and give her a good slap cause she's being so damn stupid, but if I do that she's naturally going to do the opposite.
I've seen her be hurt twice now, she believes guys like this everytime and thinks she's 'falling in love' too. I just really don't want to have to listen to her go through it all again.
I'm not just ranting I am looking for a bit of advice. I would go with brute honesty but don't want to alienate her being my best mate and all!
At our age (17/18) we're too young and immature to comprehend what real love is, she just has her hormones raging and thinks it's love, but that doesn't make it not hurt when things go sour.
We're too young to be even thinking about 'I love you's' and settling down for serious relationships. I'm a bona fide commitment phobe and I respect other's may not feel the same way as I do but I must be right somewhere when I say she shouldn't let a guy be everything she does. There's so much to experience in life. why waste the few years we have without serious worries such as work etc tied down to one guy?
If anyone understood that what do you think I should do?
Try explain or let her do whatever and set myself for another 1 month of 'he's the love of my life' and then 3 months of 'my life is over i want to die'.
This is going to sound bitchy but I just got a bike (something I've been dreaming about for a while ) I can't be arsed to spend 24/7 comforting her like i did before.

[Villers]

Some people always have to learn the hard way, and even then they dont get it!!

I didnt realise it at the time when I was 18 but I guess I was kind of similar, I used to put up with all sorts of nutters. Im 25 now and I'd like to think things have changed but prob not completely.

Its something that will only change for your friend with age I guess. Ive got a female friend who is 18 that told me her new 'boyfriend' (of two weeks or something!) had sent her a text saying he wanted nothing to do with her. When pushed she admitted he went mad because she refused to sleep with him. Fair enough he's an arsehole, plenty about. It was when she told me she had been sending him texts apologising that I told her she was thick!!!

Prob not anything that can't be sorted with a couple more years experience
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[Nicky-Jano]

It just annoys me at how different we are sometimes. She's alot more trusting and naive than me, but I haven't had any thing to make me the way I am it's just built in just fustrates me so much!

[pwntifex]

My head hurts.
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[Villers]

Thats why we are all individuals. some of us learn quicker, some of us grow up quicker and some of us are born with more sense tahn others!
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[colin1]

i dont think there is anything wrong with being in love or being loved.

If anything i think its a shame that as we get older some of us become more hardened and cynical and less likely to fall in love.

Ok this guy is in love after 4 days, but thats not necessarily a bad thing, unless he starts making unreasonable demands, or getting overly stroppy over minor misdemeanours.

I currently have a girl who loves me a bit too much, and so thinks i dont love her enough. Problems ensue, but it can be managed to some extent. It is quite nice being the object of that kind of attention, even if the demands that go with it get to be a bit of a pain sometimes.
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[Nicky-Jano]

I just think the word 'love' is taken way too lightly these days.

[J0Al1]

Sounds like confusing infatuation with love.

[cqueen]

[colin1]

the suggests otherwise
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[cqueen]

She probably found him dissapointing!

[Nicky-Jano]

[trevoriv]

Given that he is 17/18 he probably has a perma semi-lob on and is after some action, typical behaviour.

He's probably even convinced himself that he is different from all the other blokes and has 'feelings', likes walks in the park, reads french literature and other such nonsense.

The reality is that he is pitching tent 24/7 and wants someone to play with his balls and iron his shirt

[RI_HA]

[Marcg868]

Give the lad a fucking slap!
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[oddkid]

I met my girlfriend about 3 years ago, and i knew from the second i met her that she was the only girl i would ever truly love in my life. We didn't get together really back then, but i didn't just move on and fall blindly in love with the next girl i met. I found that nobody could fill the gap that my girlfriend does, and i know she feels the same way.

I now believe in soul mates, theres a link on a higher level.

This chap may very well be experiencing the same thing. Of course you might be right and he isn't.
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[thegubner]

odd kid, thats a bit soppy pal


But nearly 5 yrs ago I met my missus and pretty much fell in love with her after about a week or two. Were still together and happy, so sometimes in can be real

So if your friend is happy to let this happen, and he's happy loving her

I say crack on with it

[McGee]

[thegubner]