I know what I have to do....

[feef]

...I feel like a right bastard.

Things have just exploded with a girl at work.

I've not felt such an attraction, such chemisrty with someome since I was a teenager.. butterflies, sleepless nights, thinking about her all the time.. the works.

She feels the same...

The downside is, and the reason I feel like a total bastard, is that we are both in relationships. I confess I've been 'comfortable' with the girl I've been seeing, however, there's nowhere near the spark or life that I'm currently experiencing. I know I have to end it, for a number of reasons. Not least because I believe I'd be stupid to pass up a chance with this new girl, everything just feels right. Primarily, I know I have to end it because even if nothing develops in this new relationship, it woud be so unfair to both me and the girl I'm seeing now, to pretend all is well.

I know it's the right thing to do, but I really hate hurting people I care about, even if I might not be 'in love' any more.

I feel like a total bastard. I'm not looking for sympathy, support or for anyone to tell me it's okay.. I know I've done wrong by my current partner, but I'd be equally as wrong to deny myself this opportunity.

nothing has happened with this new girl, yet... but the attraction, the chemistry is so strong it really is only a matter of time.. She's handed in her notice, and is leaving in a few weeks, so I'm not concerned about any workplace relationships.

Life can be a bloody mess sometimes, can't it!

a
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[FreshAL]

Tough place to be in. At least you're man enough to end it with the current girly. She should appreciate that honesty in the long run.

Good luck with it all

[msgander]

as a female that has been on the receiving end of this type of thing, fair play to you for ending it before something has happened.

Life isnt all planned sometimes and things just happen, at least you have had the thought to actually end it with this girl first lol!

Go for it!
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[killa]

Didnt you split from a really long relationship before?

If you did, then look how far you've come!

Do what you feel is right, and just grit your teeth while the shock wave settles.
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[nc30 chick]

You say your leaving your current partner to be with her. Is she leaving her current relationship for you?

[feef]

[pwntifex]

I would be wary that she is not just manipulating you.
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[feef]

[pwntifex]

[Weedy]

Fair play to you both for ending the relationships you have before doing anything

Life can be messy. Sometimes things don't work out, but sometimes they do, and you gotta grab the chances
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good luck
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[Villers]

Yeah good luck with that one. Ive not got a lot of faith in people in general and I'd say Im a bit of a cynic. So heres my honest opinion.

How can you trust someone who is happy to ditch their current partner (when you admit there is nothing wrong other than she is not new to you) to go along with a better offer. So what happens when the new object of your affection decides that theres a better 'spark' or whatever with the new guy from accounts?

A similar story from work. Girl starts, she is married although she bangs on about it we can all see through her. Wanted her big day etc. when pushed she admits that she met her husband while she was with his best mate. They shagged while she was still with said best mate too. Case1.

18 months after joining she is shagging one of the blokes from work. We all warned him, untrustworthy. She claimed for a year she was going to leave her husband and she never did. Of course we all knew that. She made a fool of him basically and decided she wanted her husband. He doesnt know that she tried it on with me in that time and tried to drag me into her house when I was drunk and dropped her off in a taxi.

He was understandably mad but when pointed out that she was untrustworthy and had a track record of similar events he felt like a right mug.

Anyway the point of this is that its an untrustworthy thing to be doing on the account of the pair of you. That would always be i the back of my mind. Thats just based on the first post theres probably a lot Im jumping to conclusions on.

Good luck.
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[Gti]

I think we all respect the fact your going to end it because you have feelings for another. Not a bad bloke in my book.
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[JonB]

My two pence on the situation.

I'd think about this carefully. You are both leaving relationships to be with each other, but I think this might cause conflict a few months down in the relationship after the "honeymoon period". I think there will be trust issues coming to the fore before long, because you will both share a guilt for leaving your partners and also both thinking "well they left stable relationships for someone else, I wonder if it could happen again".

Have you established whether you really like her, or whether she is just an infatuation. Do you think this is lust or love? Often people think the grass will be greener on the other side, however it turns out that they can't physically live with each other. You might "click" on looks and sexual desires, however you might not click emotionally and that is the risk you are going to have to take.

Just think it over and kudos for not going behind your current girlfriend's back.
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[feef]

tis done...


lots of hurt
lots of relief

I only hope she keeps her side.

maybe I should have more faith in people.

a
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[st3v3]

good luck, hope it goes as planned for ya m8.
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[Weedy]

Hope you feel better soon feef
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[PsychoHippy]

You've done the right thing mate, now you need to get the new lass used to being on the back of the bike
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[st3v3]

seen a film about a year ago, with that chat up line, only remember cos it was soo cheasy, who would ever use it? almost as bad as the one's used in the mastercard BJ advert..
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