Not posting on the forum and why....

[killa]

Me and my partner of four years are possibly splitting up.
I won't bore you with the details, she's at her mums at the moment, having time to think.

I feel sick 24/7 at the moment and have done for about five days now, im not eating and i can't think at work. I don't feel like anything is worth it.

I'm fighting to get her back, as much as i can, she means the world to me.

I expect some nasty replies, but any good ones are welcome, i need support....

Thanks

Killa

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[Trixie]

I'm really sorry to hear that. About 18 months ago I came out of a 12 year relationship.

Give her the space she needs and make sure she knows you love her. You can't influence her decision, and it wouldn't be right.

I hope everything works out. If it doesn't, and you do go your separate ways, then you've got to go through the grieving process - it is very much like you're dealing with a death. Keep it as amicable as possible.

Remember, if you truly love something, let it go. If it's meant to be, it'll come back to you.
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[Dragonfly]

Sorry to hear killa, at least your a man not afraid to be a man.

I hope she comes back i know how you feel i was in that situation before and i couldnt go to work or do anything apart from think of them.

Try your best to think of something else of talk to her as soon as possible or it will drive you mad.

And Trixie never a truer word spoken, if you love someone let them go, i did and mine came back

chill out and chin up. x
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[killa]

Thanks guys, I don’t know what I’d do if she left me now…….we’re so so close.

Our flat has everything in it, a lot of items are 50/50, I know I know, It shouldn’t be.
But what can I do if the worst happens.

FFS this is making me ill, I’d be loosing my best friend.

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[woo]

The best things is let it out and sit in your house and cry yourself dry for 3 months!

Dont kill yourself and just try to remember where you were as a person before you met her!

Hope it works out for you though!
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[FreshAL]

Ouch. You've gotta be hurting a lot at the moment.

I went through similar this time last year, had to divide up house contents, car and bank account.

Long term - whatever happens is for the best.

Sharing on the forum actually helped me a bit. I know you've had issues with people on here, but I hope they'll be man enough not to kick you when you're down.

I'll share my experiences, PM if you don't want to post on here

[killa]

Yeah, it does hurt……she’s someone who I imagined my future with, all is not lost, but I feel her slipping away…..

I’ve got some sets coming up soon, I don’t feel like MC’ing, you’ve got to have confidence and mental strength, I’m all over the place at the moment……sitting in my flat, I’m thinking about it far too much. It’s going to put me out of action if this happens, I’ll have to get all that stuff out of the flat and I don’t want to.

I want her so bad…
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[akaDAVE]

Do your best to look after yourself, make sure you eat and sleep as much as you can or you'll be kicking yourself while you're down. Try and stay healthy and don't hit the booze/drugs. Easier said than done I know but you'll need a straight head if you're still working on things.

If youve been together that long then all is not lost. I hope things work out.
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[killa]

Yeah defiantly no booze and drugs, my heads mashed enough!

I’m not going to let her go without a fight, just how I’m going to do that is another story…

Thanks again.
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[J0Al1]

awww 'e-hug'

[st3v3]

best of look man hope it turns out ok for you if you need an anonymous shoulder, PM me
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[Dave McCool]

Spend some time with mates, preferably not at your house, or at any places you and the missus would hang out.

Don't listen to anybody who tells you that you have to go out and have sex straight away with as many disease ridden skets as possible - these people are idiots.

Even if it does seem like a good idea at the time, you'll sure as hell regret it if it fucks things up for you in the future if this girly decides to change her mind.

Watch the TV really loudly in the middle of the night, go for random rides at all times of day without telling anyone you've gone, where you're headed or when you'll be back and generally enjoy the freedom that being on your own brings you. Not having to answer to anyone is a beautiful feeling indeed. You never know, something may happen while she's making up her mind which lets you know that it's best for you if you don't stay together.

Absolutely, for the love of God, please don't sit around moping telling yourself that it'll all be fine and she'll be back and not considering any other possibilities. Like I say above, do some thinking of your own, and see what's best for you.

Mate of mine went through a similar breakup recently, took the above advice and it worked out very well for him indeed.

Hope that helps you mate.
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[killa]

It does help very much so, I am taking that advice and others.
Thing is, I’m trying not to mope around at home, but I work in an office and I’m sat here all day.

She’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants for the future…..I’m not meant to be contacting her, I have sent her the odd message.

This is ripping a hole right through me and im not in control of anything.
She has taken enough stuff to stay at her mums till the weekend, I’ve got to last until then.
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[Dave McCool]

I would honestly say that not contacting her is best for you as well, all that's going to do is wind you up because she's not going to reply to your texts in the way she normally would, if she's replying at all.

You're torturing yourself here much more than she is, and in doing so you're handing her control over your life, and you're bright enough to realise that's not a clever place to be.

Don't see the time between now and the weekend as 'having to last', see it as a chance to experience what life without her would be like, you never know, you haven't been single in a good while, you might even like it.

Certainly don't spend this week counting down the minutes until she's back, fill it doing things you've fancied doing but haven't had a chance/time to do until now.
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[killa]

I’m trying not to let it control me, but I know so little……it doesn’t help me, because when I’m faced with a problem I hit it head on.

I feel like getting a brass band and marching into her work singing a love song or something.

I won’t contact her, I’ll let it run its course.
Being single isn’t what I want at the moment, I’m not the one who’s confused with things.
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[Steve H]

[CortezTheKill...]

Mate in my experience contacting them does not help. If you give her space and time, she might see what she's missing and come back.

If not, you know it was never meant to be.

Trite words I know, but nothing can be said to ease how you're feeling.

If I was gay, I'd hug you.
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[cqueen]

So what happened?

[Shaun]

As has been said, try not to contact her if you can help it, you might just end up annoying her by accident.

Try and keep yourself busy or something, doing nothing will just make you feel worse.

[Jenks]

take care mate, think positive.
Just keep back for some time, then encroach slowly mate.
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[killa]

I've been asked to do a set tomorow as an MC has dropped out, it's with a large'ish night.
It was an offer, so i don't have to, but it could get me places.

I've had a practice and i don't feel right.....arrrgh! This is messy
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[CortezTheKill...]

Does it matter that you don't feel right now?

It's how you feel at the event that matters. Once you're there, you'll enjoy it. Just what you need - better than sitting around feeling depressed.

Think of all the girlies and free beer.
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[Weedy]

Been through something similar last year, not pleasant at all.

Hang in there and I hope things work out for the two of you

*Hugs*
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[tatters]

I know how you feel, one month on and l still can,t stop thinking about my ex just makes me feel ill.
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[DrJustice]

I think most of us have been there ,it does make you stronger though for the next fall
I find just as you getting over them , have excepted its over and start to move on they then decide they won't you back
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