Home alone...

Feasty · World Chat Champion Joined: 01 Nov 2006 Karma :

Hi

I live with my wife, 2 cats and 1 dog and lead a generally stressful life what with trying for a kid for a couple of years with no joy and most of the stress coming from the missus, her diet and her job!

Thing is she's going away for 4-5 days from this Saturday and I am REALLY looking forwards to it!! I can't wait to have the place to myself, play games on the pc, eat and drink what I like, watch the violent, sci-fi and scary films she hates. Maybe even take my bike out into the countryside for a spin if the weather is nice, even if it is just a 125!!

However, I also feel pretty guilty for feeling like this. Is it 'right'? Just natural? Or is there some deeper meaning in it all... should I be sad she's going and wishing I could go too?

I often think about how nice it would be to live on my own, no pressure, no responsibilities except to myself, be free from the 'shackles'! I do love her though and we still have brill times together, eben after being married for 8 years now!

Your thoughts please!? Thumbs Up

killa · Won't Shut Up Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Karma :

Where is she off to?……..not Jamaica I hope! Wink

Only joking…..

Married 8 years, you still have fun sometimes, still love her.
Let me guess, you don’t get much time away from each other, I mean like 4-5 days?

When she’s away, do all of those things you want to, and then when she’s heading back you’ll know then.
You’ll know if you really do want her to come back and show you some love.

May I suggest that once she does get back, if you were both happy with how it went, do it more often.
The thought of time apart and then the getting back together will keep you strong.

That's my.. Penny Coin

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Cigaro · World Chat Champion Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Karma :

It sounds like you have a perfectly healthy relationship. When you spend every waking minute together it puts a strain on things - so don't feel guilty, just go and enjoy yourself Thumbs Up

scorps · World Chat Champion Joined: 29 Jan 2007 Karma :

everyone has stress etc, my other half has his den upstairs, play station and his computer etc, we are in the process of moving house at the minute and havent argued yet but with 4 days to go theres always time Laughing

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Feasty · World Chat Champion Joined: 01 Nov 2006 Karma :

Lol, she's off to Scotland so not quite that far away! Thanks for the responses, makes me feel a bit better about looking forwards to her leaving! Twisted Evil

Now I just need to put a plan together that includes as much as I can get away with whilst still having the house clean and DIY jobs done when she gets back!! Cool

And scorps, we never found ourselves arguing when moving house and we've moved 4 times together now... that all starts with the redecorating and DIY'ing!! Wink

Annabella · Like a person, only smaller Joined: 03 Feb 2002 Karma :

It's nice to have time apart occasionally.

During the week Jon and I rarely see each other thanks to work and other commitments. As harsh as it seems I love the evenings I get to myself when I can eat and drink what I like as well as make as much noise as I feel fit - I think Jon cherishes his evenings at home alone too. It's perfectly natural and makes spending time together even more special and enjoyable.

Have a great time, don't set fire to the kitchen (like someone I know...) - she'll never leave you on your own again!
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Feasty · World Chat Champion Joined: 01 Nov 2006 Karma :

BanditBitch · World Chat Champion Joined: 02 Sep 2005 Karma :

Beanfeast...stop beating yourself up about it, and enjoy it.

Lots of couples have time away from each other, without it causing it problems. I have been with my OH for 22 years now Shocked

and we both take time away with our seperate mates...and its good.

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anders · Banned Joined: 17 Sep 2005 Karma :

Divorce mate, seems like she is wrecking your life and making it a true misery.

Poor guy, I feel for you.
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akaDAVE · World Chat Champion Joined: 01 Sep 2005 Karma :

I think it's perfectly normal. I live with my girlfriend but do look forward to a bit of time on my own.

If you live with someone, even though you love them I believe there is a certain amount of stress/pressure involved every day in seemingly insignificant little things like choosing what you're having for dinner, or if you're going to the pub to watch football there's that slight guilt of leaving her alone.

Basically one of the pleasures of living with someone is when they fuck off for a few days!!
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TheShaggyDA · Repost Police Joined: 14 Jun 2004 Karma :

Everyone needs their own space.
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