Daughter happy with us

[R1stu]

My, 8yr old daughter told the wife and I the other day that she wasn't 100% happy at home.

She told us that her mums girlfirend bullys her and is always upsetting her and that her mum takes her GF side and not listening to her.

She loves staying with us and her little brother, but also dosnt want to miss her friends.

What would you do? I don't want to start a augment with my ex and lose all contact again!
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[Mrs Kickstart]

Hi

It may be a case of the grass in greener. if she is spending more time at her mums then it is likley she gets into more bother there and this maybe nothing.

Or it could be a real problem I would watch and listen and not jump into anything

Regards
Charlotte
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[Kal]

Start keeping a diary of what gets said and how it gets said

After a few months sit down with the Ex - just the two of you, or possibly with an independant mediator if you require one and bring to your Exs attention what your daughter is saying.

If it all goes proper pearshaped then your daughter has hit the responsibility threshold and her opinion will be sought by the Court and will be increasingly important in any Courts decision.


Look up your local Families need Fathers group for further advice.
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[J0Al1]

Play this one carefully. Kids can bevery manipulative and in split homes will play adults off each other.

I am expecting my son to do it to me soon. You need to find out if its 'playing' or there is a genuine reason. Not easy for you. Perhaps start by subtly asking your daughter questions and see if the answers are consistent.

The diary idea is a good one.

I'd die if my son was miserable in my home and wanted to leave for his father. Which is the main reason I finished with my X. My son repeatedly said he didnt llike im after an angry holiday. Had we not had that holiday I might have put it down to manipulation, I'm sure a part of it still is . . . my boy doesnt get enough of me and wants me to himself.

Try not to encourage her, just stay neutral and asses it as much as possible. Perhaps even point out the nice things about her mother to see if that sways any 'stories'?

Good luck

[R1stu]

Ill speak to her mum tomorrow. I have been there a cpl times, when her mums other half has had a go at our daughter, but not sure at what the extent of it is.

Its not her mum, its her mums partner that is the cause of the issue.
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[Dischord]

is your ex a lezzer then?
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[st3v3]

Sorry to reply into a thread I cannot give any relevant help with; but I noticed this:

[5v3d3b0]

I always thought if my girlfriend ever dumps me I hope she's lesbian. That way I know not only wasn't the problem mine, but hers, but also no other guy is gonna get their cocks sucked by the girl I love!

[hellobaby]

[st3v3]

^That only seems apparent if the next girl he splits up with goes the same way.
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[5v3d3b0]

Yeah I've considered that option but didn't want to get the man in question into that frame of mind...