Uneasy about a Funeral.

Moonie · World Chat Champion Joined: 18 Feb 2008 Karma :

Right, this might be a bit of a hazy explanation as I'm pushed for time.

In 40 mins I'm going to a funeral for a woman who has lived two doors down from me for my whole life except the last 2 months.

I have said hello to her when she's been out of the house (not often) in that time, and I know her kids and grandkids, who all live in the village, but I don't really know any of them that well. I want to go and pay respects though.

However I think I might feel a bit uneasy when I get there, for the simple reason that a few years ago my mate died, and at his funeral there werew a bunch of kids who didn't know him at all but went anyways, probably to get a day off school or whatever, and I just don't want to be that guy. I've lived in the village all my life and know these people, it just feels a bit odd that I probably spoke to her about 3 times in the last few years.
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map · Mr Calendar Joined: 14 Jun 2004 Karma :

Funerals are for the benefit of the living.
It's a chance for closure (horrible Americanism) and, as you said, to pay respect.

So IMO go to the funeral. Shake hands with relatives etc. on the way out. You don't have to go to any wake if you don't want to and don't know anyone there.
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Skudd · Super Spammer Joined: 01 Oct 2006 Karma :

I'd go just to acknowledge you knew her for a long time and that you have memories of her.
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Flip · Super Spammer Joined: 28 Feb 2004 Karma :

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Nowt wrong with paying your respects. It not as of your going to be wailing in the corner screaming "why, why, why?" Smile

MaybeGuy · Super Spammer Joined: 12 Mar 2007 Karma :

free food. tell all the hot girls there that you were her son and you're distraught, and need some comforting because you dont know what you'll do with yourself tonight.
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Howling TerrorOutOfOffice · Super Spammer Joined: 05 Dec 2008 Karma :

Bet it wasn't too bad was it? Well apart from the dead person.
I'd only met John Peel once but felt compelled to goto his funeral service. Can't imagine doing that for anyone else.

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Why all the talk of death?
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Moonie · World Chat Champion Joined: 18 Feb 2008 Karma :

Well I went to the funeral, turns out I wasn't nearly the most remote person from her there, everyone seemed pleased to see me and I felt comfortable.

Cheers BCF Thumbs Up

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yuri2085 · World Chat Champion Joined: 05 Jul 2008 Karma :

Your welcome Moony Thumbs Up