Resend my activation email : Register : Log in 
BCF: Bike Chat Forums


Venting required...

Reply to topic
Bike Chat Forums Index -> Dear Auntie BCF... Goto page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4  Next
View previous topic : View next topic  
Author Message

J0Al1
World Chat Champion



Joined: 25 Nov 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 08:07 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx wrote:

He seems to hunt out young, vulnerable women, worm his way into their lives, and generally control them. Some sick fantasy maybe?


Sadly, this seem to happen rather a lot, most of the time unknowingly. I'm a single Mum, I'm very aware of it.

As for the psyco card . . . . . it's often used to win sympathy, it works, women don't want to be thought of as that and will want to proove that not all women are like that. It's lambe.

I won't defend women, I don't understand why people are so quick to defend their own sex when they have only experianced relationships from the opposite sex (naturally), biaste argunments rather ignorant. Besides, none of us know these three people.

Whoever is lying will reap what they deserve.









. . . where is technophobe?
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

D O G
World Chat Champion



Joined: 18 Dec 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 14:13 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Monkeypie wrote:
where is technophobe?


He's at his mam's - can't you read? Wink

Reckon it's bullshit myself, hilarious if true. Makes my first post even more relevant, as mummyxxx is a sucka and should have not let herself get in this situation.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts
Banned This post is not being displayed because the poster has bad karma. Unhide this post / all posts.

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:02 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was only goin to post one message, simply for information purposes, but I thought I'd just say that yeah, i was INCREDIBLY stupid and naive- insanely so. I REALLY should have trusted my instincts and totally stayed away from the guy, but when you're in a situation, it is totally different from looking in from the outside. This guy played me from day one, he's studied psychology, and knows exactly how to control someone. i was vulnerable and gullible, and because of this, I have done the worst thing imaginable, and that is to put my children at risk.
I doubt I will ever forgive myself, and will spend the rest of my life trying to make it up to the kids.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

technophobe
Borekit Bruiser



Joined: 07 May 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:06 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Monkeypie wrote:
. . . where is technophobe?


Where I'm living at the moment, it's pretty difficult to get internet access. That's why I haven't posted back on here. But also, I work in IT, and I'm security concious by nature. My password to BCF is stored on my laptop (which was thrown out of a bedroom window, and is current in the back of Mummyxxx's car - I think). That password is too complex to remember (hence me storing it) - and I've only now reset the password on here.

I don't want this to turn into a Jerry Springer show - and I've already told L that I refuse to fight whatever Mummyxxx wants to say about me. I've also explained my side of recent events to her.

I don't expect anyone to change their view of me for what happens. I have lied to Mummyxxx, and to L.

I'm not going to get into the ins & outs of the history of everything here - it was a mistake of mine to publish this thread in the first place.

However, there are a few things that need stating.

The "debt" that I had when I met Mummyxxx, was £4000 worth of student loan. I'm still paying that off myself.

Mummyxxx did give me £3000, but not to pay my debts off. That money was given to me to buy a bike with - something at that stage, I didn't have & had wanted all my life.

That money, was actually used to take Mummyxxx & the 2 kids (the youngest hadn't been born back then - so this is going back more than 4 years) to Paris, for Mummyxxx's birthday.

Mummyxxx is being rather more economical with the truth than I have - friends have told me what she's been saying. Again, I'm not going to put the kids through a fight.

I have already lost my family through my own actions, and stand to loose more yet. But I'm just going to accept whatever comes, because I think that will be easiest on the kids.

For those that think I'm a player/liar, fine. Think what you will. I will make no attempt to change your mind.

EDIT: Oh, it's also true that I've stopped all direct debits for the house. Me & Mummyxxx have talked before about me not being able to afford to pay for two places. I have also told L that in the past.

I have attempted to contact Mummyxxx, about a few things - mainly sorting things for the kids during the break up, as yet, I'm still to receive a reply.

EDIT2: Mummyxxx is right, I have studied psychology. I did an A/S level in it at college, and got a D.

Anyway, time for me to be leaving, it'll be a few days before I get internet access again, I've no doubt Mummyxxx will say yet more whilst I'm gone.
____________________
Riding isn't dangerous, crashing is. A 'good' ride is one from which you can walk away. A 'great' ride is one after which you can use the bike again.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Visitor Q
$25 whore



Joined: 30 Apr 2004
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:23 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx wrote:
he's studied psychology, and knows exactly how to control someone.


Technophobe wrote:
Mummyxxx is right, I have studied psychology. I did an A/S level in it at college, and got a D.


Fucking epic! Thumbs Up

The two posts are insanely close together though Thinking

Possibly the most energy investing troll we've ever known?

Care to elaborate on this overly hysterical oestrogen bath?

Quote:
I have done the worst thing imaginable, and that is to put my children at risk.
I doubt I will ever forgive myself, and will spend the rest of my life trying to make it up to the kids.


So your relationship has ended... he didn't exactly;

- molest the kids.
- Kick shit out of you/them.
- Invite strippers round to dance in the front room for him while they were playing with their toys.

Get some perspective.
____________________
China traffic/travel bike vid - When I make a sweeping statement, please add the word 'statistically' in to the sentence before you bitch...
From September 2014 to January/February 2015 I will not be using any English, nor reading any. As such, I won't be on here. PM at will, but I won't be checking/posting unless in emergencies. Certainly not for the first couple of months. Please berate me savagely if I break that rule...
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Send e-mail You must be logged in to rate posts

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:30 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah. As you guys can PLAINLY see, even after partly admitting his guilt, he STILL can't tell the entire truth.
I have been advised by my solicitor not to have any more contact with Dave, even though i need vital information from him...
Like I said, as you can see, it makes no sense whatsoever that Dave has stopped all the bills etc. when he has no bills to pay!
It's crazy, but not as we know it.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts
Banned This post is not being displayed because the poster has bad karma. Unhide this post / all posts.

The Shaggy D.A.
Super Spammer



Joined: 12 Sep 2008
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:44 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx wrote:
Yeah. As you guys can PLAINLY see, even after partly admitting his guilt, he STILL can't tell the entire truth.


And you think we can? Any further posts from either of you is just going to be entertainment; an episode of Eastenders/Corrie/Whatever inane soap is flavour du jour with the chavs now.
____________________
Chances are quite high you are not in my Monkeysphere, and I don't care about you. Don't take it personally.
Currently : Royal Enfield 350 Meteor
Previously : CB100N > CB250RS > XJ900F > GT550 > GPZ750R/1000RX > AJS M16 > R100RT > Bullet 500 > CB500 > LS650P > Bullet Electra X & YBR125 > Bullet 350 "Superstar" & YBR125 Custom > Royal Enfield Classic 500 Despatch Limited Edition (28 of 200) & CB Two-Fifty Nighthawk > ER5
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

ncrn
World Chat Champion



Joined: 24 May 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 16:29 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

This is why I will never post anything massively personal on this website, it seems far to likely to blow up in ones face as shown here Laughing.
____________________
Past: 55 Sym Jet, 91 ZZR250, 03 NSR125R. Present: 97 ER-5.
https://www.nsr125.co.uk - NSR Owners forum.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Send e-mail You must be logged in to rate posts

Howling TerrorOutOfOffice
Super Spammer



Joined: 05 Dec 2008
Karma :

PostPosted: 18:51 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread is sad in more ways than one.


Pat
____________________
Diabolical homemade music Bandcamp and Soundcloud
Singer songwriter, Artist and allround good bloke Listen to Andrew Susan Johnston here
The Harry Turner Project
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website You must be logged in to rate posts

J0Al1
World Chat Champion



Joined: 25 Nov 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 19:29 - 23 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx wrote:
he's studied psychology, and knows exactly how to control someone.



This doesnt nesc mean anything.

I have been on the receiving end of emotional blackmail/control from one person and he had little to no education. He smoked weed from the age of 9yrs and dropped out of school a few years later.

Anyways, this thread has gotton silly. I don't think that you guys are going to get much from it now as we don't know what to think.


Last bit of advice I can offer is; If he has moved out, he is not expected to pay the bills at your house, regardless of his lack of expenses. But he is expected to pay maintainance for his children. . . . I believe it is 15% for the first then 10% for the second child of his NET salery.

Call the CSA and ask for a form, hopefull they sort it for you quickly. Do it quick because payments start from when you request them, I don't think they back-date if you delay.

You can also apply for houseing benefit if your unemployed and council TAX benefit (lone adult 25% off), which is worth having.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Howling TerrorOutOfOffice
Super Spammer



Joined: 05 Dec 2008
Karma :

PostPosted: 00:06 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Following on from Monkeypie..If you can keep the CSA out of it then all the better.

Pat
____________________
Diabolical homemade music Bandcamp and Soundcloud
Singer songwriter, Artist and allround good bloke Listen to Andrew Susan Johnston here
The Harry Turner Project
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website You must be logged in to rate posts

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 00:31 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, that would be the best option, but as you've prob noticed, Dave wants to make this as hard as he possibly can for us, cutting off bills when he has no need to, after (See his original post) he said he would not do that for the kids sake.
I went to Dave's work today, just to inform them what had REALLY been goin on..
Just to let you guys know, on a positive note, the kids & i have had the best evening together that I can remember.
We sat down to eat together (Dave would never do this as he refused to eat any veg or salad, so I had to cook a separate meal, or he'd just eat crisps on the sofa).
I talked to all the kids individually about their day, even though we'd been together the whole time, and we laughed for 2 solid hours, listened to music, and read stories.
Even my Daughter, who's taking this the worst, couldn't stop laughing Very Happy


Last edited by Mummyxxx on 10:00 - 26 Jul 2009; edited 1 time in total
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

st3v3
Super Spammer



Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 07:20 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx, I think you are taking things out of all proportion here; My family has recently been torn completely apart by a series of unfortunate events which nobody in it could control or rectify, I honestly don't think a slight breach of trust like this warrants you sayong you have such emotional scarring and general distress and it's not you seem too concerned about the/any effect on the kids; IMO - Get a grip. Karma

Dave(technophobe) I don't understand why women say some stuff, twist the truth but fuck man, grow a pair and stick up for what's right. If yo ho's are lying get them put straight and don't have your name dragged the mud unnecessarily. Rolling Eyes

L - maybe you aren't helping the situation, you may be the 'new best friend' but it doesn't appear as though you have much right being too involved here, lot's of shit was going on before you were involved so I'd be keeping my contact/involvement to a minimum.

Bearing in mind I'm assuming there may be some truth to this thread. Confused
____________________
Roger wrote: Women don't get damp for clingy puppies. Get some better happy pills, hit the gym & buy a medallion the size of a dinner plate. Job done
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Clanger
Stirrer



Joined: 27 May 2004
Karma :

PostPosted: 08:09 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can't believe this thread has held my attention all the way through...what an epic adventure, it's like reading a book...I'll log on later to read the next chapter...

The 'He said she said...bullshit'...pass the popcorn Bonny Laughing
____________________
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind - Dr. Seuss
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

J0Al1
World Chat Champion



Joined: 25 Nov 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 08:17 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Howling Terror wrote:
Following on from Monkeypie..If you can keep the CSA out of it then all the better.

Pat


Thumbs Up

Funny you should say that. I have a private arrangment.

CSA messed up big time, 7 months after applying they asked me to start a new claim and said they would not backdate, despite it being theit cock up.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Flip
Super Spammer



Joined: 28 Feb 2004
Karma :

PostPosted: 17:07 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread would have really livened up the welsh section. Sad
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 22:08 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow!, I'm amazed to come home & find that Dave hasn't posted anything new or tried to change anything on here. (He's now staying with his Dad so he can use him for his computer).

This, hopefully, will be my last post on here Very Happy

People sayin for me to 'put things in perspective', well yeah, are there situations worse than this to be in? Of course there are! No matter what, there's always someone worse off somewhere; BUT, to say, that 3 young kids, having to suddenly loose a parent (remember here that you guys have only seen a small part of what he's said/done), then them finding out that he's not even a good person- on top of that, he's cutting off their potential electricity, tv and phone, and possibly causing them to loose their house, when he has no need to do that, with their Mum not being able to give then proper attention to make up for any of this, as she needs to deal with the after-math, police and social aervices, is NOT a small tragedy, is totally insane!

Will we survive? Yes! Course we will, will it affect the rest of our lives? Totally.

There a LOT of questions I would LOVE to ask Dave

-Do you REALLY have a bad back? You always REFUSED to see a doctor about it..

-Did your Dad REALLY hit you & throw you down the stairs when you were a kid?

-Were all your ex's complete psychos??

But, as you will know, there would be absolutely NO POINT since he's admited to both L and I that he's a compulsive liar..

Telling L not to get involved, when it was actually Dave's choice to GET her involved, is a little ridiculous tbh - I'm just glad she found out sooner rather than later.

If Dave stays on this site, then i wish you guys all the luck in the world with him (and all the other potential sites he could be on, under any username - now I know why he has multiple e mail addys, and why he uses Baph or Baphomet, which is another name for the Devil).
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Howling TerrorOutOfOffice
Super Spammer



Joined: 05 Dec 2008
Karma :

PostPosted: 23:09 - 24 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ooo i just had to step in 'ere.

@Mummyxxx You will be better off without him, but so will he.
Quit this pointless slagging.
Pat
____________________
Diabolical homemade music Bandcamp and Soundcloud
Singer songwriter, Artist and allround good bloke Listen to Andrew Susan Johnston here
The Harry Turner Project
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website You must be logged in to rate posts

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 09:47 - 25 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

We didn't start the fire.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

st3v3
Super Spammer



Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Karma :

PostPosted: 15:59 - 25 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

As a grown women, give up the childish remarks.

You need to work to sort this out for the kids. It's an unfortunate situation not a tragedy FFS.

The KIDS are the VICTIMS here; stop fucking around shouting/arguing and resolve this for them. Rolling Eyes
____________________
Roger wrote: Women don't get damp for clingy puppies. Get some better happy pills, hit the gym & buy a medallion the size of a dinner plate. Job done
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

ZRX61
Victor Meldrew



Joined: 05 Nov 2003
Karma :

PostPosted: 16:33 - 25 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mummyxxx wrote:
then them finding out that he's not even a good person- on top of that, .


The main reason the kids think that is probably because YOU told them... Rolling Eyes

Don't project what YOU think about someone onto your kids FFS.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

Mummyxxx
L Plate Warrior



Joined: 23 Jul 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 17:58 - 25 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry, but HAVE to reply to that one.- actually, it's Dave who got her involved and kids aren't stupid, I'm not goin to defend him after what he's done (All I've been able to do is put it in as nice a way as possible) I've just told the youngest one that 'Daddy's gone on holiday'. Remember, he did all this himself, he knew FULL WELL he'd loose his family if I got to read any of the things he'd been putting!

Anyway, back to lookin after my kids & puttin our lives back together.
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts

bacon
World Chat Champion



Joined: 09 Jan 2009
Karma :

PostPosted: 00:19 - 26 Jul 2009    Post subject: Reply with quote

my mum would tell me and my bros that my dad didnt love us because hes with his whore...

i was 13 and i told her she was talking shit and she shouldnt say things to upset my younger brothers because i thought i was mature enough to take it.

The mother (or father for that matter) should never try to make their children hate the other, its sick and fucks you up in the head. believe me from personal experience so i hope you arent saying things like that to your children

i wish you all the best, things are never simple, and your children should be your number one priority. take it easy
 Back to top
View user's profile Send private message You must be logged in to rate posts
Old Thread Alert!

The last post was made 17 years, 35 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful?
  Display posts from previous:   
This page may contain affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if a visitor clicks through and makes a purchase. By clicking on an affiliate link, you accept that third-party cookies will be set.

Post new topic   Reply to topic    Bike Chat Forums Index -> Dear Auntie BCF... All times are GMT + 1 Hour
Goto page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4  Next
Page 3 of 4

 
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
You cannot attach files in this forum
You cannot download files in this forum

Read the Terms of Use! - Powered by phpBB © phpBB Group
 

Debug Mode: ON - Server: birks (www) - Page Generation Time: 0.16 Sec - Server Load: 0.52 - MySQL Queries: 13 - Page Size: 137.21 Kb