Worried about girl friends upcoming surgery

[QM]

My girlfriend had stage 3 breast cancer a couple of years ago before I met her and this resulted in her having a double mastectomy it was that or have 6 months to live. This was a total success and she is now cancer free

Today she has been for pre-assessment for a double breast reconstruction which is happening on the 7th June. She has been remarkably calm about this but I am worried sick as its a major op that will take 8 hours to complete.

I have talked to her about this but she says don't worry about but I can't help but worry as I love her to bits and would be devastated if anything happened to her.
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[J0Al1]

Bless her for being so brave.

I'd think that this OP is prehaps not as scary as the last one she had?

I mean, she has been through a horrioble ordeal, so this is something that will make her feel more womanly again? Maybe she see's it as good thing? Soz if I'm wrong, I'm not saying she isn't fab as she is.



Good luck

[P.addy]

Dude, chillax

Im not sure if you are aware but I had cancer which affected my heart, which im happy to say has since buggered off following treatment, however still on the check up list just in case.

You probably feel the exact way my parents and friends felt

What I always thought was, they know what they are doing, couldn't care if I lose an arm or a leg, I would prefer to live.
I constantly joked about it with my parents, just to stay on the happier side of life.

Now... your girlfriend is probably calm, because she has been through the worst, this is the "we can rebuild him, we have the technology" stage if you will https://i233.photobucket.com/albums/ee66/ladyb918/Funny%20Pics/Dogs%20Misc%20Animals/DogWeCanRebuildHiim.jpg

Trust me, this is the nicer part for her, wanting to get back to being and feeling like herself.

Only advice I can give, is dont worry, if she tells you she is fine and not to worry, do it.

Cancer hits the nicest people sometimes...such a bastard of an illness... respect for keeping strong with her during it

[QM]

Thank you both for your comments.

I know how much this means to her as she says that she doesn't feel like a woman anymore and can't wait to have a non-saggy pair of "boobs" and a flat stomach as they are giving her a tummy tuck to make them.

At the end of the day all I can do is be as supportive of her as I can as she is a fighter and has had such a sense of humour about the whole thing from start to finish.
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[P.addy]

[Clanger]

Not a lot else left to be said, as Paddy and MissEd have covered anything I would have said. Sounds like your girlfriend is a lucky lady to have you staying with her and being so supportive. Good on yer.
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[QM]

[waffles]

My mum went thorugh this a couple of years ago but they did the reconstruction at the same time, the doctors said that apparently you can get nipples tattoo'd on so that they look a little more like real boobs!

In all seriousness, it is major surgery and does take a fair amount of time to recover from. My mum had several drains to cart around for a few days afterwards and it took months before she could raise her arms up again and move around normally. All you can really do is just be supportive as you have already said and help her through all the painful and shitty parts. And im pretty sure that this now counts as a routine op too so the surgeons will probably have a few ops like this booked in on the same day.


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[Jodie]

My boss had a single mastectomy over 20 yrs ago now when she was in her 50's.

She hasn't had reconstruction surgery but said she definitely would if she was younger.

Your girlfriend is very brave and lucky to have a fella like you,I'm sure she knows you adore her and you've been there for her but she'll be looking forward to this, she's getting a flat tum as well as some new boobies

[Smash]

[QM]

I saw her yesterday after the pre-assessment and everything is a go for the 7th. She is not looking forward to not being able to drive for 6-8 weeks afterwards as we live 30 miles apart and she loves spending time at mine as she lives with her mum but apart from that she is looking forward to having it done.
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[Mr.Ormes]

i clicked this with the prejudice that it would be a thread about your girlfriend having a nose job, or a general augmentation, and after reading, first of all i want to say she is very brave, secondly...so are you, what moral fiber you must have...i envy you sir, and i wish her all the luck in the world. You have next to nothing to worry about with some of the best sergons in the world on your side!
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[Handsome]

On one hand she may be as calm as you like, as people have mentioned above, she has gone through a horendous ordeal already, this is her chance to feel like a ' whole* ' woman again...

On the other hand it could be a case of ' the duck effect ', calm as you like on the surface but flapping like a good 'un underneath, either way, continue the support you've already given and shown her, don't keep asking if she's ok as you'll be a pain in the arse and who wants a pain in the arse ? Just drop in conversation that if she needs to talk you're all ears ( she knows this anyway but reasurance will ease her mind as she may be feeling like she'd be putting on you if she vents )...

Just be there as you have been...

A friend of mines Mom had one of her breasts removed a few years back, they did the reconstruction at the same time, but as far as I know she still hasn't been arsed to go back up and have a Pip tattooed back on, her reasoning is she's " in her 70's so who's likely to see her tits anyway " ( her words )...

Lastly, I doth my cap to you both, I admire strong willed people, and you two are just that

* Breasts do not maketh a woman...
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[robs321]

My business partners wife went today for a consultation about exactly the same opp. Ill find out tomorrow how she got on! Today I called my best mate only to be told his wife has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. Life can be a bit shit?

[bagger]

my wife had a mastectomy about 3 years ago also and was told last year the cancer has returned in her bones(no cure) let her enjoy life anyway she wants you only have one life
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[QM]

Just thought I would let you know that she went into Hospital today and will be having the surgery on tomorrow (Tuesday) at 8 am.

Thank you all who sent me messages both publicly on her and privately. I will let you all know how things go as soon as I know.
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[Smash]

[Pete.]

Best of luck today - I'm sure everything will work out well.
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132.9mph off and walked away. Gear is good, gear is good, gear is very very good

[neil.]

Good luck to her!

[panrider_uk]

Good luck

Mark
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[Clanger]

Ooh that was a couple hours ago, very likely to be being prepared to go into surgery around now... wishing her lots of luck.
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[waffles]

Wishing her a speedy recovery!
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[Wilson12345]

Everything will be fine, surgeons can operate with such diligence and accuracy you've nothing to worry about, kind of like when you ride a bike so many times you can do it to a standard that is out of this world, so can they when it comes to operating. I would know, I've had an op on my cock

Hope it goes well
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[QM]

She at the plastic surgery unit up at East Grinstead so I know she is in very capable hands. Its just the waiting to hear that's killing me.
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[QM]

I have just heard from the hospital that the op went well if if a bit longer than planned, she was in theatre for about 9 1/2 hours in all and she is resting comfortably.
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