My mum died in August

[scorps]

I just found out now as she hasnt spoken to me since I told her she was going to be a great grandmother, my sister who stopped speaking to me just because mummy did never bothered telling me so it came from someone else who thought i should know when they realised I didnt know.
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[Raffles]

That's really sad
BTW You're sister seems to be a bit of a fuckingtwat
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[Pete.]

Christ that's poor. Some sister/rest of family that they can't even tell you something so monumental.

Sorry you lost your mum, scorps
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[Knightsy]

Shit. That's pretty fucked up way to find out...

I don't know what to say really...

What are you planning to do now?
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[scorps]

not planning anything really, mother never loved me anyway I reminded her too much of my dad, I will never speak to my sister again but as she inherited everything shes probably unconcerned. if im honest i was more upset when my cat died. Just confirmed what I already knew that I meant nothing to my mother or sister.

I have daughters grandchildren a brilliant bloke and lots of friends, all my sister has now is a daughter and a husband whos family cant stand her, I dont appear to have actually lost anything important.
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[Flip]

This isn't quite the same but my Granddad was dead and buried for months before I found out. He didn't do family. So I sort of get it.

You'll be ok.

[sickpup]

[pinkyfloyd]

Sorry for your loss. But like you said. You havent lost anything. In years to come you might have some questions you'll never get answered but focus on what you have got and enjoy them.
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[scorps]

[Walloper]

[temeluchus]

[Tarmacsurfer]

[scorps]

there is property and money but to be honest she can keep the lot. Im not money driven, much to my rich ex husbands relief, I walked away with what i could fit in a van. This triggered the bitchiness from my mother and sister who are the most material people I have ever met. They could not believe that I could walk away from such a comfortable life.

Fighting my sister will not make me happy. She can sit in her fabulous home and remain lonely because I know she is and no matter how much she has in the bank or how beautiful her home is, that wont change her situation.

After sleeping on the matter, I dont know how I am supposed to be reacting. Ive shed an occasional tear but I think thats more down to the fact that I can't quite get my head round the fact that even on her death bed,my mother felt no trace of remorse for being so nasty to me and my daughters.
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[pits]

[chris-red]

I think your doing the right thing. Fuck 'em.
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[nowhere.elysium]

It's not worth beating yourself up over the actions and pettiness of others. Despite the fact that you've had something of a tempestuous past (based on what you've said here), you've still made a success of yourself; you have a family that cares about you, a job that you're happy in, and you're not blinded by materialism over realism.

Your mother and sister sound like they were/are empty people. You don't. Mourn the loss, if you feel you have lost something, but don't torture yourself over might-have-beens.

For what it's worth, my Grandmother was much the same. She was thoroughly bitter, and blamed most of the things that went wrong in her life on my Dad. He was a total mess when she died, largely because of the fact that she'd had Alzheimer's, and as such there was even less chance of a meaningful reconciliation. Personally, I remain unconvinced that she would've reconciled anything with him anyway; she made a point of sending her husband (NB - not my grandfather) over, to make a big show of giving myself and my sister a grand each, and making the point that it's our inheritance. She then went on to deed over 60 grand to the local cat charity.

Some people just aren't very nice, even to their own.
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[scorps]

Im going to just get on enjoying my family. I see no reason to make things stressful by fighting for "what is rightfully mine", it was all my mothers to do with what she wished and if my sister wanted to make sure I got nothing by keeping quiet then good luck to her.

Yes im hurt but thats more to do with the fact that I didnt do anything to merit this nastiness, I am however old enough to realise that being a parent doesnt mean you love your child, again my mothers issue not mine, it could have been worse.

I will just carry on being me I guess thanks for the feedback
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[pepperami]

Sorry to read your thread .

I suppose one thing that could possibly come out of this , is that you wont let the same things happen to those you love.

Life is to short to spend it fighting.

Hopefully it`s an episode you can put behind you and things in general will get better.
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[carlosthejack...]

Massive commiserations scorps, regardless of the reasons behind everything, and your rationalisation of it, this story has hurt me, it's very very sad.

As pepperami said, life is far too short to harbour such grudges and hatred, it's so unnecessary.

Hope you're ok, have some love
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[Walloper]

[carlosthejack...]

[scorps]

Walloper you nugget

I shall have a splendid Christmas as usual. Im kind of hoping my daughter has moved into her new place by then so me and Mr Scorps can go round and have her do all the festive cooking for a change. Will miss my eldest daughter and her hubby and the boys as they are transferring camp down to Odiham or however you spell it so a long way from me now, bloody good excuse for a long distance bike ride when the weather gets good again.

Just figuring out now how to deal with the situation regarding my niece as im now not sure if any of her cards or presents get to her okay
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[Skudd]