Apprentice woes

[MTC]

Looking for some advice, on my last year aprenticeship now and finding things hard working and living with my dad. He can be overly aggressive and has alot of anger problems. Just struggling to keep ontop of all my paperwork for the course and generally being around him most days.

Pretty sure he has bipolar he can go from 0-100 in a second. Has tryed to take his life a few times now and generally breaks down to tears and goes about destroying the house and my personal belongings.

Im getting to the point where i feel i cant finish my apprenticeship with him as he is fucking my head up i cant get through the days without getting mental abuse and constant threats when all i do is help him keep his business afloat and do the majority share of keeping the house in order

Anybody had problems like this before or can offer any advice?

Im 19 years old if your wondering

[P.addy]

Old enough to make own decision. Move out.

[MTC]

If i could afford to i would.

Im on apprenticeship wage and if i move out that means my job will also be gone as i work with my dad.

[P.addy]

So you live and work with your life problem?!

Fuck that, find alternative employment if its really that bad and then move out

[N cee thirty]

tell him to go doctors

or alternatively, take him on
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[Bubbs]

Lace his tea with prozac. Should chill out in 7-14 days.

Does sound like he needs to see a doctor though. When is he most pliable? Maybe you could talk to him when he's in a good mood and try and get him to see sense.
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[Ste]

Get him sectioned?

[MTC]

[Bubbs]

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Twat him over the head with brick
Put him at the bottom of a ladder
Take over family business
Profit
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[BTTD]

The unfortunate reality is that either he seeks help and sorts himself out, or he'll just carry on. You won't really influence that without moving on yourself.
My mates dad was/kinda still is an alcoholic fck up. Mate has tried sorting him out, helping him out countless times since he was 18, 20 years ago.
My mate has got his own kids now and doesn't see a lot of his dad, he really distanced himself after the old man took out a load of credit cards in his name and ran up £20k of debt. Guess who paid it off. Hint - it wasn't the alcoholic dad.
Strangely after that, when it was made clear that all future emotional blackmail would not be played to, the dad started to sort himself out. It's almost like he realised he was on his own and no one was going to take his sht any more.

Focus on your life going forward - be a decent person, but don't get sucked in. If only it was that easy eh?!

[Rogerborg]

[MTC]

Really appreciate all the help. Yes it most definitely is emotional blackmail.. Getting told "you dont care, you have no idea" really gets me down as all i do is do for the man woth no appreciation at all..

For christ sake he actually earns more money with me helping him.. He has a grant for my wages and ontop of that charges me out to the customer!

I think im going to try and stick it through this last year and move away from it all as il be fully qualified in my trade..

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[dydey90]

How long is left on the apprenticeship? Is it the full year or just a few months? Hard as it might be, you really need to try to stick this out. I don't know if an apprenticeship is transferable, but I know you only get one so if you do leave and end up having to start again, nobody will take you on.
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[Deerhound]

I'm sorry to hear about your problem. It really does sound like you need to seek help for him or for yourself (or both).

You could contact the council to see whether they can help with accommodation. You're young and still in training, as well as being at risk from the person you would otherwise be forced to live with - they might treat you as a semi-priority. It's worth a try - they can only say no.

It might also be worth contacting Shelter - you're not homeless, but they might be able to help or provide advice, seeing as you are at risk.
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[ian505050]

No mention of your mum in this? Is she single? Is she fit? Photos?

oh... sorry for your situation.

[MTC]

After trying to talk it out yesterday he has told me to fuck off and leave.

Now heading to college to see what tutors can do regarding aprenticeship. Hopefully the last 2 years of hard graft and late night studying wasnt for nothing!

[Bubbs]

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[MTC]

Plumbing

[Rogerborg]

Has he sacked you then? Get your tribunal lined up pronto, hopefully the stress will kill him.
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[fraser2312]

Sorry to hear of this sounds like one Jeremy Hunt of a situation.

Make him an appointment at his GP tell him to meet you there, if he doesn't turn up go and speak to the doctor yourself, explain the situation; you fear for his life and mental well being