I want to shag other girls.

[Runaway987]

Suzuki I think just the point is (thats been blown out of proportion now ) is that you dont have to change a single shred about your opinion, but perhaps present in a way which isnt contstrued as being a direct jab at someone

As you posted afterwards you meant nothing by it, however at the time I was somewhat insulted. Its just how things come out in text mate dw bout it

[Suzuki]

I'm not worried about it!

But whilst you're on the subject of what people find insulting, what would your girlfriend think if she'd read your first 3 options?

That isn't intended as a jab at you, but an honest question.

Anyway, you decided what you're going to do yet?
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[innominate]

to a certain extent you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Best thing to do is to tell her straight, imho.



If not you will be depressed by not sl;eeping around and statying with her.

Or you will break up , sleep around , and then be depressed cause you miss her and realise it wasn't worth splitting up with her for.


Such is life.
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[Visitor Q]

[colin1]

yeah
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[Annabella]

I'm really just echoing what has already been said.



If you decide to cheat on your girlfriend she will find out one way or another, either you'll crack and tell her or she'll find out another way.
If you decide to 'take a break' you will never feel the same with her afterwards - and the likelihood is that you'll feel guilty and uncomfortable.

And unfortunately, no matter who you sleep with and whether you think you know 'where they've been' (to put it bluntly) you are still putting yourself at risk of infection - imagine trying to explain to your girlfriend why she may need to be treated or tested for [*...insert STI here]

For killa's benefit I am not trying to patronise, just offering another situation that Runaway could find himself in and needs to consider (which I'm sure he probably already has...).



Babyyam was spot on with her post, it really is difficult to find someone with whom you are comfortable, have good fun with and who you enjoy after such a long time.

Lust is what you're lacking - go for the month without sex thing, I seem to remember reading it in Cosmopoliton some time ago whilst waiting for a doctor's appointment.
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[colin1]

if you do the month without sex thing, let her know its a plan to make things good, otherwise she will be sad because you dont want to have sex with her anymore.

i tend to think regular sex holds things together tho and any long gaps can be a bit dangerous.

for getting lust back, id try booking ahead of time an hour or two where u can just focus on each other and its agreed, so its not rushed, and you do slow massages and take your time and relax

of course if she doesnt fancy doing this, it aint gonna work

If you just want to get it out of your system and cheat once, you could get away with it but you would need to be careful about not leaving tracks. The slightest clue could get you rumbled. You will feel wierd with her after for a bit but you will then probably have got it out of your system. However keeping something going on the side for any length of time is probably asking for trouble.

The one time cheat get it out of your system could actually save ur relationship because you will realise what you have is worth more (aslong as you dont get caught).

but for all i know maybe there is a nicer girl around the corner
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[xlizx]

[colin1]

this is not my real name, who is colin wall
any real persons called colin wall are in no way related to the person with the online username colin wall

ok so girl logic means he should end it and then find someone new, but what if he really loves her but has an itch. he just needs to scratch the itch and they will be fine again.

I dont know maybe he should find someone new but if she loves him thats gonna be tough on her especially if hes not sure if he wants to dump her.

oh its all so tricky but all is fair and love and war because there is a lot at stake.

thnx for containing your rage tho liz

i might have to stop voicing controversial views tho as i see it could get me in trouble. weathers turning out nice isnt it.
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[xlizx]

[Visitor Q]

[msgander]

[colin1]

it boils down to that we are programmed to spread as much seed as we can and maybe also raised a family which we look after and raise those kids, or maybe we are programmed to be in a relationship as long as it wd take for a kid to grow to an age where the mother could provide for it herself

women are programmed to have a rich husband protector who looks after them and to get the best genes from the hunky bloke who is shagging everyones wife

of course self restraint and decency stop a lot of people acting on their baser instincts but they are still there underneath

men have the potential to produce more offspring than women if they can put it about enough, as women can only produce a kid onece every 9 months

obviously things are a bit different now but our biological programming is still there
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[colin1]

[killa]

[xlizx]

What Sticky says it spot on. Some men can keep it in their pants quite easily. All men are not cheaters. Sure the moment can arise where you get the opportunity to cheat, but surely men are disciplined enough to ignore it and value what they have with that special somebody back home.
Same as women. Not all women cheat, and we sure as hell do not all want a litter of sprogs either. Saying that all men want is sex, and all women want is a family due to the natural instincts is a load of rubbish

[msgander]

Its about values I suppose................luckily I'm with a saint who holds old fashioned values pretty close to heart, much the same as me.

Also depends on whether you've had it done to you (Cheated on) that is.....makes the world of difference to how you view it.

Colinwall you make some interesting (and funny!) points, sort that status out!

Not all women want a load of kids, I fell with my daughter by sheer surprise, she was never planned, I didnt want kids! - but she is the light of my life and I wouldnt be without her, but I dont want anymore LOL!!!

Men want other things besides sex but the sad thing is most of them can't admit it to themselves let alone someone else! Its all about appearing like a "man"!!! Real men are honest with themselves and are far more attractive by being soppy!
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[colin1]

bastards can be soppy too, they just want it on their terms

its like when u have a pet u are soppy with it but know u are the boss

i have ambitions of being a bastard but really im a soft git
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[Annabella]

[killa]

[Annabella]

[Runaway987]

I have never given it thought until recently, 5 years and the idea never even occurred to me, see some fit ladies walking down the road I wouldnt have even noticed them.

But I am noticing them now...

And my first real true love cheated on me @ 13 months. Then dumped me. Wow that felt so terrible.

[Annabella]

[Itchy]

[quote="AnnabellaI] If you are the kind of person that won't feel guilty [/quote]

Hmm I remember something about that , being incapable of feeling guilt apparently makes you some sort of psychopath.