Coping with a break up after 2yrs?

[Noggin]

Hi all, most of you know that I'm 19.

I'd been with my girlfriend for 2 years and then we broke up on mutual grounds last night. It was really hard and I just want to know how everyone deals with this kind of situation...

And please no digging at my post!


Craig G(Noggin)
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[nrml76]

Find someone else, get a better job and move on.

[kath600]

harsh i know but at the end of the day ...

you just have to get on with it

take one day at a time and keep yourself busy as poss to stop yourself moping about too much.

it does get better

and as i always tell myself when things aren't good

'everything happens for a reason'
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[Noggin]

Cheers for the quick response....

I know it was for the best reasons, and I'm glad but its the emotional shock thats the hardest....

I'm happy at my job, and I can't go any further until I qualify and get some experience behind me.

Cheers though, I will try and move on.

Though on the plus side, I will get more time/money to spend on the bike!


Craig G(Noggin)
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[Andy C]

[Noggin]

yea, I knew that it was for the best too, but as I said, the emotional shock is the hardest to deal with.


Craig G(Noggin)
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[lozzypop1]

Sorry to hear about this Nog..

It's not so much the emotional shock (you DID say it was a mutual break-up)

The problem lies with the habit of being in a certain relationship. It doesnt matter how ill-suited/abusive/destructive that relationship is (I'm not saying yours was, just using examples) you still miss the 'being a couple' thing. I found this when i left my ex husband (alcoholic mind fekker) although it was my choice, I still missed having him around.

Time does heal (to a certain extent) just get your head down and your ass up and get on with it...

snuggles
Loz xXx
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[illusion]

It's tough, takes time. You just have to get used to not having that person there anymore. I don't agree with people who say 'go out and find someone else', to me that just signals desperation. You don't NEED someone but of course most people want someone. I would say focus on yourself, get out and do the things you like doing, enjoy being single again.
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[numark1]

Go out partying loads. Will help take your mind off things plus you will meet loads new people.

[killa]

Its werid, for some reason you think you wont ever be with someone again, and then you suddenly realise, your free and single!!
You don’t know how lucky you are…..

Have fun, do what ever makes you happy.
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[colin1]

recently i was dumped after about 2 and a half years too

We were living together, so I now have more freedom than when she was here.

At first I wanted her to stay, but now I dont think Id take her back as Im looking forward to either freedom, or the excitement of a new relationship.

It took me about 2 weeks to get over the shock. You just get used to it and then you can move on.
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[Noggin]

Cheers guys, this has really helped


Craig G(Noggin)
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[carlnicholson...]

Any thing new is difficult to get used to, especially not being around some one you were so physically close to.

A bit of time, and no small amount of 'new' vagina will see you happy again!
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[Dazbo666]

I'd suggest just getting used to being single for a while, cos any chance of a new g/f would just be a rebound and probably not be for the right reasons.

Enjoy being single, and concentrate on yourself for a bit.... and maybe get out and party, and meet some new bods if you need to
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[killa]

[Flip]

My ex broke up with me.

Had to teach her a lesson.

She's dead now.

[xlizx]

Find someone new?
When I dumped my ex of 2 and a half years, I didn't really care because I knew I had someone better who'd bene waiting for an opportunity to be with me, and I'd felt the same. Sometimes you're just waiting for the right time or reason to get out of a dead relationship, and she's done you a favour?
If you're alone, you'll no doubt spend more time wallowing in self pity, hearing songs on the radio that remind you of that time you went to X together, and you'll start having a blub or whatnot.
Or go out on the piss.
Needless to say, I've never once regretted being with the guy I am now, and everyone said either 'it'll never last' or 'you're making a mistake rushing into things so quickly after Marc'. Well, we'll have been together a year this Friday so they can all just kiss my ass now!

[Barry_M2]

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[Philly46]

Being single can be just as much fun as being in a relationship if you can play the game. I'm a heart breaking git, most of the time I get bored in a relationship and when breaking up no matter how nice I am I reduce them to tears.

Women - fun to hunt...
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[Barker-CBR 600]

One good tip is to try not to concern yourself or try an find out bout what she's doing about it all, since you might not like the answer. Depends whether the thought of how she might deal with it (an bein a girl makes it infinitly easier to pickup... two very good reasons slightly below the neck) bothers you or not, i know it bugged the hell outa me for the first few months after a year an a bit breakup.

Getting on with it is different for different people, an if u arent peticularly bothered bout goin out there an hunting then theres no need to. Afterall you just had two years of regular sex (probably!) so not like u gotta catch up!
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[w00p]

Casual sex isn't too bad if you understand what its about.
Its more than just vulgar "getting laid", but no more than a friendship. (and its definately not a way to forget about your break-up)
I don't understand why you should be "punishing yourself" to get over a relationship.
Talking about you and her with a good friend most of the time will give you a great relieved feeling and a better confidential friendship.
Thats how you get people to trust you, trust them and show it. You can get loads of positive energy out of good friendships. And the relieved feeling is mutual. Good friends would only feel flattered that you can trust them enough to talk about your problems.

Its a great way to get to know people better, and kind of understand what makes eachother tick...

[Fortuna]

Sometimes the most painful thing to do is the right thing.

[colin1]