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JonB · Afraid of Mileage Joined: 03 Jun 2004 Karma :

Just cause it is her mother, doesn't mean you can't be honest. Mothers can disagree with their daughters and you never know she might be feeling the same way as you.

Unlucky that her mother has throat cancer though.
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I've changed my mind...

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Steve H · World Chat Champion Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Karma :

Whether you have feelings for your ex or not it would appear that you're showing classing signs of jealousy which you masquerade with the protective slant that you put on the whole story.

If she's happy with the situation (albeit a bit of a weird one!) why can't you just put all of your petty jealousy's aside, meet the bloke when he reappears and draw your own conclusions on the basis of your interaction with him - Simple.

king kong · Nearly there... Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Karma :

Stay well away for your own sake, you obviousley still have feelings, shes moved on, start another chapter in your book called life.
Keeping contact for whatever reason will screw you up, I know, I've been there.

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Racheldawn · Scooby Slapper Joined: 01 Dec 2006 Karma :

I think you should keep your cards to your chest for the time being. Keep a watchful eye if you feel the need to look out for her, be there when she needs you. If you react now you will push her away and further into his arms. She may not see things she would normally see if distance is put between you. I went out with a guy once, it was really a rebound thing after being hurt, deep down I knew it would end badly but my friends turned their backs on me because they could see it before me. I then felt pressured to stay with him and things work out. It didnt and things were very difficult.

Thats my experience, so the important thing is to give the guy the benefit of the doubt (the travelling could have been booked for a long time) and only react when there is a solid reason to. Just be there for her incase she needs you.

Also I dont think a guy would get engaged just to have a girl on reserve for when he gets home. Traveling is about experiencing the world not women. He must have true feelings for her, doesnt mean he cant still have his own life. Some people are very independant. Try not to have any suspisions yet.

It may be that you do need space from here, or maybe not. Only you know how you feel and what you handle / want.

Goodluck.

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stevo as b4 · World Chat Champion Joined: 17 Jul 2003 Karma :

You can be good mates with her, but not with her new bloke?

You need to fuck her right off outa your life, it sounds like you want to be her big brother now or something. She is big enough to look after herself, and im sure she can manage to determine on her own if the guy she is with is a tosser or a decent bloke.

You hanging around is never gonna make life easy or happy for you or her, and both of you must know this!

jonboy22 · Crazy Courier Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Karma :

Well mixed bag of reactions I see, but again all valid and very insightful...so thanks.

Well the good news is I had an awesome ride down to East Sussex and an awesome ride back.

What happened when I was down there was a little surreal but it's what I expected....

It happened to be her little sister's birthday, so the whole family was there, both sisters, brother, brother's girlfriend, aunt and gran.

Not one word was uttered about the engagement, not even anything associated with it. The only time it was brought up was when I gave her a bottle of champagne to celebrate it. I didn't even hear the guy's name mentioned once.

It's almost as though everyone had agreed not to talk about it in front of me or something (which could be the case). Instead everyone was very nice an we just cracked on like we used to!?

So that's that hurdle cleared. All I have to do now is survive the holiday I'm going on with her and her sisters in two weeks!! Hehe, she asked me to come not the other way round.

I'm quite happy to adopt the position of saftey blanket should this all go Pete Tong in Xmonths time, I think that's sort of what she want's me around for I think,...maybe. But it aint stopping me from seeing other people.
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Visitor Q · $25 whore Joined: 30 Apr 2004 Karma :

My ex is going out with a complete illeterate stoner gardener.

She met him on myspace.

Its creepy.

Shes said 100 times she still lvoes me, that sex is shit with him, and they argue constantly.

So whys she with him then?

Women. They are wankers.

If you were over her though you wouldnt care who she was knobbing. I miss my one night standing, i didnt care if the next night or the night before they were with my best mate, as they were just the outside of a sausage roll to me.

Now...

Women. Complete headfucks Rolling Eyes

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TheShaggyDA · Repost Police Joined: 14 Jun 2004 Karma :

Get out now, before you end up shagging her on holiday and paying for a fuckling for the rest of your life.
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jonboy22 · Crazy Courier Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Karma :

Hahahah, fuckling, more like fucktard if it's anything like me.

She wanted (still wants I guess) 3+ kids and at the time I said she was out of her tree. She comes from a big family and so does her new guy rather coincidentally......

Anyway I couldn't knob her now that she's engaged, christ I'm not that shallow......give me some credit.
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