what to do with a nutter

[Kradmelder]

Hey maters

here is a strange one for you. Got a pic from a woman her hand full of pins in a home made tatoo of a heart. Makes me think it is a nutter thinking of offing herself.

Makes no sense without background and I dont know what is important or not, so will tell what I think matters, but may be irrelvant to you.

She is the widow of an old friend, but not the original x. Old eastern cape crowd. She appeared out of no where. First time I heard of her was the night he died. And I was the last of our old group to see him alive. None of the old eastern crowd had ever seen her or even heard of her either. Seems wierd he wouldnt tell his oldest friends and those he saw most. But people who knew him like party mates had seen her with him, so it is not some stranger. But alarm bells.

Now this is the eastern cape. A huge area but only 100 000 whites and most are in Port Elizabeth and East London. In every town i go I will know some one., and if I walk into a hotel now 15 years after moving away, in most towns someone will recognise me. So obviously this woman is not so difficult to get info on. Found out she is friends of the sister of someone I knew. But her family is totally unknown. Now this sister married an Indian muslim, and when she brought him home the old man physically picked him up and dumped him on the pavement outside and told his daughter never to bring her 'koelie' to his house and was written off. The woman I refer to also attended muslim classes but never converted. For me that is also alarm bells. It is NOT something done in the conservative right wing rural eastern cape.

being a mate's 'loved one' but at the time I thought I was bbming the first x, I was kind and helpful after the death. Needless to say, I was shocked to see I was dealing with a totaly different woman. The circumstances of the death were also not as she had said. Too many pieces didnt fit and some of the locals took me aside and told me it is not as she says. Nothing criminal, but overly dramatised and she was only something on the side, not what she made herself out to be. Again eastern cape old boy network. You cant easily cover up things. after the funeral she asked if I can pillion her back to the transvaal. ms I said OK but do you have a place to stay there? I got yes, old friends, they will take me in, call when we get there and they will come collcet her from my house etc... I asked for their number so I could call them and 'get directions'. I got my phone in broken, cant get the number off etc. I replied put your sim card in mine and we can get the number. Got Excuses. So I figured I will get stuck with this fraud/nutter and didnt do it.

She eventually came up here anyway. rented a room in a boarding house, came to visit blah blah blah. And i realised she never had anywhere to go here. or why be in a boarding house?

Then she asked can she move into my outside flat. I said no, you dont have a job here, no transport etc. Then i started getting all this drama on my phone like woman emotional garbage. I didnt respond except to say i dont do drama. She moved far away to another province. In a while the lovey dovey stuff , are you the love of my life stuff started to pick up.

And now the tatoo of a heart in the palm. Nuts.

Now how far does loyalty extend? Old east cape thing again. Im wondering if she is in the offing herself mindset. Shame. Dont want that, but cant have her moving in here either. I dont even want a girlfriend here, nor do I want a girlfriend or relationship. Im happy as I am. She has to realise I am not interested in any romantic relationship, and quite a few of the nutter messages have in effect said that. She also did say she learnt a lot from me and I heleped her a lot.

So is it delete? Dont think so as it will drive her over the edge being so alone

Keep on helping her talking shit

Or just ignore all the emotioanl BS and drama and just reply, hope you are well, getting your life sorted kind of stuff

I have so far been doing the 3rd and ignored the past few blatant drama like teh tatoo, a pic saying I cant wait to see the red light and know its a message from you etc


I dont want drama from any woman. I dont want emotional mumbo jumbo. And I dont want nutiness.

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[scorps]

walk away mate, you dont need to carry any guilt or responsibility for the state of someone you dont really know. We spend enough time when we are young dealing with headcases. When we are older we need to keep away from it
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[Tarmacsurfer]

If you don't want nuttiness then I'd politely suggest you find a new country, dated a few Saffers over the years and without exception they've been utter head cases. Nice women but utter, utter lunatics
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[Chalky.]

Eh blame the bloody kaffas bru!

[The Artist]

pics?

[titan666]

Hi mate

Walk away and change your number if you can!!

Trust me when i say this!..(she was kinda muslim/lebanese decent)

I had a similar incident with a women me and the misses helped out!,basically she and her son were being abused by the partner.

We lived under thier flat and heard plenty!,and waited untill we could take it no more..
The son was being molested and the women was being beaten to the point her hair was left in patches of blood in the bathroom and various other ambush areas around her flat.

He was a real piece of work and i told her oneday that he was BENT,yep as queer as a dragqueen.
Her reply was "i've been with him 8yrs i'd have known".

(He would walk shoulder to shoulder and was hard to get separation from ,and other various odd stuff that screamed batty boy!)

(I hate my personnal space being that violated! ,and to anyone who has half a brain!
It was clear that he would beat on her because he was ashamed of his sexuality, and would take it out on her, rather than admit what he was...)

Well it turned out she confronted him! with the subtle "are you queer" question,and his reply was as you would expect! "fuck off" and he stormed out to his FRIENDS flat (yep boyfriend)(downstairs).

He came back 2hrs later and said to her "how do you know im not just Bi"!
Well that summed it up for her! (along with other things she overlooked in the past as just weird things).(a liking to enima treatments,that he would get her to insert)..

Next day she caught him fondeling her sons grapes! and she went mental!!!, he stormed downstairs to his boyfriends and told her she was just mental and didn't see anything!.

She stayed with us for a couple of days to cool off and then moved back upstairs, but it only got worse.

Her son tried to jump out of the flat window(6 floors up) when he saw his dad comming home! ,we stepped in!then arranged to have her moved into a hostel for women etc...

This is when the strange stuff got wierd!,she mistook a gesture of friendship and help for more!...

soulmate,marriage,kids etc etc etc(txts,cards etc)

Well i told the misses all about it from day 1!,we kept in contact trying to remain friends for her sake,i even had her over in one of the kids school holidays so she could get away from it all!.

This was a step too far !,she just became aggressive and possesive towards me and OFF with my misses!, who was supposed to be her friend!.(her body clock was ticking loudly by then)

I dumped her in the car, and drove her home !,and since have never replied to her!, and also i've since moved house/area(not because of her though)but its helped!.

I feel sorry for her, but i made my position clear in a nice manner(from the minute i suspected something wierd)! but you really have to just cut ALL ties!!! let them cope on thier own as its the only way they can get help by forcing them to stand on thier own feet.

good luck mate and steer clear!!....

sorry for the long winded backround!

After she left,he moved back in upstairs!
Then made our life a misery!, with banging loudly against the floor!! and listerning to our conversations and waiting till he heard us putting our kid to bed, then banging on the ceiling like he was banging 6inch nails through the floor with plaster falling off!

He even knew about my misses being pregnant again before anyone else!

I went upstairs to CHAT and got the door slammed in my face with the response "go away stephen".
I went to his boyfriends flat and explained about how i was going to skin his lover if he didnt step in and sort his boytoy out!

we eventually abandoned the flat as the council wouldnt help us!
dispite witness statments from other tennants!

steve
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[Skudd]

She is lookking for someone to put up with her goings on, she is only after attention and a free room.
She will never do enough to do herself real harm just enough to cause a drama for the attention.

Don't walk away.............. RUN away as fast as you can.
Tell here straight that you don't do dead mates ex sperm catchers.
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[Kradmelder]

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[waffles]

Tell her in no uncertain terms that you are not interested in her, you are happy by yourself and that she needs to stop contacting you. Then change your phone number if needs be. Don't give her anything to latch on to (no "Im seeing someone, we can be friends") as this will exacerbate the mental and you could end up with a screaming banshee turning up on your doorstep.

I would probably avoid telling her that you think she is a nutcase.....

But nip this in the bud before she starts creating collages of your face made from your rubbish.
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[Ronin]

Dude you owe her nothing and she has lied through her teeth.

Tell her she's a nutter and tell she needs to go to get some help and tell her leave you alone .She is trouble coz she's mental.

Or probably the best thing to do is take her into the bush and feed her to lions .No more problem for you and she won't be mental or unhappy anymore. Wish we had wild lions.

Mate you got to stop this now and do it in a hard unpleasant way so she doesn't come back.

[Rogerborg]

Just ask yourself: WWJD?

What Would Joseph Goebbels Do.

"East Cape loyalty" means "all white = all right", amirite?

You know fine well you need to sack her off and wait for nature to take its course.
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[nowhere.elysium]

[Kradmelder]

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[Tarmacsurfer]

[Rogerborg]

I agree, Allah loves wondrous variety.
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[mysterious_rider]

Run to mexico.

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[Kradmelder]

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[Ariel Badger]

FFS Eksay.
Is she fit? If so do her.
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