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 alliamc Nearly there...

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 Posted: 11:12 - 30 Dec 2007 Post subject: Why do women always end up picking the wrong guy?? |
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I have a history of picking the wrong guy, or the wrong guy picks me and I just go along with it! I got dumped two days after Christmas for reasons I can't say, after I had been devoting all my time to him and he did f*ck all back for me (very frustrated in many ways right now!!), it just seemed so unreasonable... so anyway, I'm probably going to end up with another bad choice of man, how do I cure this annoying disease that most women seem to have?? ____________________ Alli x
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Is it me or do I hear Bonny Ricardo lurking?.  ____________________ Spain 2008France 2007Big one 2009 We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will. In the end, your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching. |
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| Quote: | Look beyond the skin of a guy you like for a start, i might be completley wrong in thinking you're shallow, but you look like the type of girl who will cop off with someone just because they have a 6 pack. |
He had a hairy beer belly, almost always a spotty bum or spots on legs, generally very hairy, and huge! Average willy size too, but he was good to his friends, looked after a lot of people, we just weren't right for eachother and I don't think he planned to dump me so soon after Christmas, I think our argument that morning tipped him over the edge, and both of us had been feeling that things weren't right, he just had the bigger balls to end it.
But don't worry I didn't take offence over your looks comment, I've never been with a guy I would consider to be gorgeous, mostly because they're usually crap in bed (cos they think too much of themselves) or they spend so much time looking in the mirror that they don't notice they have someone with them, plus the idea of a guy that spends more time preening himself than his girlfriend, scares me!!!
I think a lot of the time, I get asked out on a date by a stranger, if I go on the date and we hit it off it doesn't really give a lot of time to figure out if they're a decent person or not, you have to be with them for a bit to truly know what they are like in general. My problem is I hold on to people for too long, and give them too many chances to prove that they might be right. Perhaps I just hate being single so much that I hold on for the sake of holding on? God I'm so pathetic! ____________________ Alli x
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Hold on a sec..... this sounds rather familiar.
So really you had a short relationship , it ended as you were incompatible with each other in one way or another , its called dating , and hell you are only 23 and judging by the fact that most of me peers got married and settled around 26-27ish there is plenty of time to find another.
Go look for another ,
Happens to us all , count yourself lucky they initiated it and are willing to let go , earlier this year I got stalked and it was highly unpleasant. Also that the relationship didn't go massively deep , ie joint mortgages and indetureship like that.
However as the saying goes, becareful what you wish for , you might get it.
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It'd be the wrong guy if he treated you badly beat you and or constantly undermined your confidence etc, otherwise its a case of incompatability. ____________________ Spain 2008France 2007Big one 2009 We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will. In the end, your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching. |
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I don't know what to say other than:
I saw your pics from the competition on maxim(I think) and your a fairly fit gal, I'd be spending some time partying or just generally getting out/socialising, this recent split don't mean you have to wait for the next man to come along, time to have some fun and see what takes your fancy when it takes your fancy, there's millions of blokes out there, being single has double the pro's being taken does. Now..... Get out there and let your hair down.
P.S, If your already a partying little rebel then your simply not trying hard enough. I haven't been in a relationship as such for about 2 years and although I'm getting to the stage of finding myself near one, it's great fun to be able to do what you want when you want. Life's a bit of give and take.  ____________________ Roger wrote: Women don't get damp for clingy puppies. Get some better happy pills, hit the gym & buy a medallion the size of a dinner plate. Job done |
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| alliamc wrote: | But don't worry I didn't take offence over your looks comment, I've never been with a guy I would consider to be gorgeous, mostly because they're usually crap in bed (cos they think too much of themselves) or they spend so much time looking in the mirror that they don't notice they have someone with them, plus the idea of a guy that spends more time preening himself than his girlfriend, scares me!!! |
I had to laugh at that bit...a lot
| alliamc wrote: | I think a lot of the time, I get asked out on a date by a stranger, if I go on the date and we hit it off it doesn't really give a lot of time to figure out if they're a decent person or not, you have to be with them for a bit to truly know what they are like in general. My problem is I hold on to people for too long, and give them too many chances to prove that they might be right. Perhaps I just hate being single so much that I hold on for the sake of holding on? God I'm so pathetic! |
You sound like you're a fan of second chances and enjoying dishing them out a bit. Holding on for the sake of holding on isn't being pathetic, you might just like being with someone. I know i love the intimate side of the relationship...out of bed i mean, all the cuddling and holding hands etc nothing feels better. ____________________ wizzzard wrote: Imagine God just stopping by, tidying your front room up and then quietly letting himself out again. Statisticly more likely to happen than Korn being on here. |
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| Itchy wrote: | Is it me or do I hear Bonny Ricardo lurking?.  |
RIGHT
*breath in*
As has been mentioned this is quite usual, just hot girls take longer to dump. Boy meets girl, fancies her, tries it out, gets bored... end of...
Boy meets girl, thinks shes ridiculously hot, tries it out, gets bored.... endeavours as he'd be mad not too...eventually ends it...
As Hetz says, men get bored. Alot quicker then women.
Women make us play the game, which is shite. Meet a girl who doesnt like one-night stands or you respect enough to not start off with sex, so start going out. Girl tends to fall in 'love' ridiculously quickly and from then on its either marriage or puppy-kicking emotion trampling. Neither of which is particularly fun.
Either way if you're willing to slate the poor guy on an internet forum you obviously wont that close. As has been said, most guys would bang you like a barn door in a gale, so i doubt you'll be lonely for long.
One thing though, nothing is both more infuriating and pathetic than a 'with one is better then none' attitude. Have some time single, i know thats a feat for women but at least try. It makes men concerned when women hop from boyfriend to boyfriend within a month of ending it. Its kind of a cue that the relationship is more important then the person, whereas men are (usually) trying to avoid relationships at all costs and so will only go out with women they truly find special. Well, asides from pathetic needy ones who can't get laid when single So knowing your 'special' girl has had 10 'boyfriends' in the past few years really cheapens the gesture.
That and women who 'go out' with a guy for a week purely to avoid the supposed slut label of one night stands. That to me is truly pathetic, just go back to his for a cheeky jump and leave it at that, fuck all this pretence. ____________________ China traffic/travel bike vid - When I make a sweeping statement, please add the word 'statistically' in to the sentence before you bitch...
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I honestly dont believe you can have a long term stable relationship with a virgin.
My first ex was perfect in that she'd had one previous ex who was shite... that was a good set up
The second ex was a virgin, and whilst you think thats all well and good, it takes longer to 'train' em, and you know they'd start getting wandering eyes in a year or so anyway.
Best they get a couple of shit shags under their belt before  ____________________ China traffic/travel bike vid - When I make a sweeping statement, please add the word 'statistically' in to the sentence before you bitch...
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The devoting yourself comment makes me think you may be a little clingy with blokes possibly, but its difficult to know obviously, you are very attractive, do you contribute much in the way of grown up conversation or do men see you as a bit of eye candy to hang off their arm, we cant really tell you what to do when we dont know what you are like, maybe your far too intellectual and intimidate men? if you cant say why youve been dumped then it must be bad,
My 24 year old daughter has just told me to tell you this.
single is great fun, be yourself and never fawn after your bloke, be nice to them but dont make them your world. decent men want someone to talk to not just shag if the brain isnt stimulated then things dont last in the trouser department,
go out have fun and remember that you dont need to be part of a pair to feel complete apart from shoes obviously  ____________________ Do not presume that I am male. |
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| alliamc wrote: | how do I cure this annoying disease that most women seem to have?? |
Ya can't.
Its the XX thing.
Best thing to do:
1. Engender a sense of self belief (this is what Harold Shand is getting at when he says "self respect") and even in a new relationship, continue to find the time for the things YOU were doing/like doing before you met him.
2. Also, ensure your self respect is intact. Don't sleep with everyone who goes "Hey baby-girl, you shore got pretty eyes."
2A. NEVER NEVER NEVER go out with anyone who calls you "baby-girl".
3. Don't waste time on hate and bitterness about break-ups, you waste enough time crying about them when they happen, why waste the rest of your life being full of bile, it ruins your health and gives you wrinkles.
4. Being devoted turns you into a doormat. Be loving, but not clingy. (learn to recognise and observe "clingy" in other girls, and see how nauseating it looks: do you really want to look that drippy?)
5. As men do have a knack of getting bored, giving them space is a good idea (but not so much that they wander frequently). Get a chain with a bouncy thing on the end (so they can get from the sofa to the toilet and the fridge and back to the sofa). Or buy a new basque now and then.
6. Don't nag. Men hate nagging. Admit out loud that you're about to commence nagging him, then try not to do it any more after that. If he doesn't do what you want done, figure out another way of getting him to do it.
7. Don't let him get away with saying "Sorry" TOO often. Eventually it becomes a habit for him to say it, and for you to accept it.
8. If you love him, forgive him, but don't forget.
9. Even though you don't forget, don't remind him that you haven't forgotten. Men hate that. Keep "hysterical historical relationship topics" to yourself, and learn from them.
10. Take no notice of me, I still get it wrong half the time, and am still extremely fucked up about at least one of the several major loves of my life, LOL
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| hellkat wrote: | | alliamc wrote: | how do I cure this annoying disease that most women seem to have?? |
Ya can't.
Its the XX thing.
Best thing to do:
1. Engender a sense of self belief (this is what Harold Shand is getting at when he says "self respect") and even in a new relationship, continue to find the time for the things YOU were doing/like doing before you met him.
2. Also, ensure your self respect is intact. Don't sleep with everyone who goes "Hey baby-girl, you shore got pretty eyes."
2A. NEVER NEVER NEVER go out with anyone who calls you "baby-girl".
3. Don't waste time on hate and bitterness about break-ups, you waste enough time crying about them when they happen, why waste the rest of your life being full of bile, it ruins your health and gives you wrinkles.
4. Being devoted turns you into a doormat. Be loving, but not clingy. (learn to recognise and observe "clingy" in other girls, and see how nauseating it looks: do you really want to look that drippy?)
5. As men do have a knack of getting bored, giving them space is a good idea (but not so much that they wander frequently). Get a chain with a bouncy thing on the end (so they can get from the sofa to the toilet and the fridge and back to the sofa). Or buy a new basque now and then.
6. Don't nag. Men hate nagging. Admit out loud that you're about to commence nagging him, then try not to do it any more after that. If he doesn't do what you want done, figure out another way of getting him to do it.
7. Don't let him get away with saying "Sorry" TOO often. Eventually it becomes a habit for him to say it, and for you to accept it.
8. If you love him, forgive him, but don't forget.
9. Even though you don't forget, don't remind him that you haven't forgotten. Men hate that. Keep "hysterical historical relationship topics" to yourself, and learn from them.
10. Take no notice of me, I still get it wrong half the time, and am still extremely fucked up about at least one of the several major loves of my life, LOL
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If you don't want to get dicked about by a guy go for the 'nice guys', the main reason I think girls don't is because most of them have complete lack of confidence when it comes to women, or more they get spastic around women they like and in some cases (My case ) end up getting shit faced and telling them how much you like them(Don't mix drink with possible partner material!). I think you have to get to know a guy and get to know him in his own enviroment with his mates etc. generally guys will relax if they are in there own enviroment. Spend abit of time getting to know the person first
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Skudd:- Perhaps she just thinks you are a window licker and is being nice just in case she becomes another Jill Dando.
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